Who are you out to?

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby bent4life » 9 June 2019, 03:40

Almost everyone. All the gay directors and producers I've worked with didn't even bother to ask. They knew that there could always be private meetings with me (or the Master Electrician). :)

I just can't tell my extremely homophobic father.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Iamjava » 9 June 2019, 04:33

you can ease into it. that coming from the guy that is so bluntly honest he told his mom outright hes dating a man..

just make small inuendos or suggestions and get a feel. if that doesnt work, tell them that shes fugly. :)

edit: bent4guy, my dad was hugely homophobic. he had a hard time when i came out. ironicly, hes more open to it now than my mom who gets along with everyone.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 16 June 2019, 21:40

There's a new guy riding with me and my moto friend that knows I'm gay. We seem to becoming friends. While at the track today, following up from some texts about being busy with something else yesterday, he asked me if I got any pussy. I thought maybe he had picked up that I'm gay but that made it apparent that was not the case. So I corrected that misimpression. His response: "wow, your kidding" (as in just surprised but knows for once this is not shit talk from me), "well did you get laid or not?". LoL and then, exactly the same conversations we've been having. Coming out in most cases is just so uneventful sometimes I wish it would be otherwise.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Oliver Rees 1020 » 2 July 2019, 21:25

Most everone who knows me.If they have a problem then it is there problem not mine.When i told my Dad he said so what are we going to the pub or not.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 2 July 2019, 21:30

I’m out to yer mammy, yer pappy and yer bald-headed granny.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Pigeon Valley » 2 July 2019, 23:18

I'm out to four people who I knew prior to my identification as gay. One of them is a bisexual friend from university, who says that he kinda guessed about it at the time (not sure if he did, or how he did, but meh), two of them are old friends of mine who I kinda had to come out to after the guy made some playful unwittingly gay advances at me (often occurred before), and a friend from the UK who I knew is also gay.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Iamjava » 4 July 2019, 01:30

It's that old gaydar thing lol.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Ammon » 14 July 2019, 18:37

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Jzone » 15 July 2019, 06:00

Pigeon Valley wrote:...the guy made some playful unwittingly gay advances at me...

I think that's a story we need to hear! I understand playful, gay, and advances, but "unwittingly"?! Details, please
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby NvM » 27 August 2019, 15:11

foolish of me to not figure my life out earlier but you know there are less peeps to "come out to" when your older.
-that is i am more in charge of your own life.
-I was the youngest child so not as much left of the family
-Keeps it simple; i choose who i invite into my life, outside of that, none of their business.
-high degree of civic acceptance here resulting in people being assimilated, no gay bars left. nothing too special if thats important.


living peeps where "Gay" is an accepted word, are dropping of the edge. if you have a significant connection with a stranger, your best friend, your twin bother; both of you put a ring on it and be successful, or not.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Spacekitty » 11 September 2019, 16:01

I came out at 19. Found the man of my dreams at 21. Got married at 27. 38 now and we live very openly. Since the age of 19 I told everyone I knew and everyone I met from then on. Can literally say I've now been completely out for half of my existence. Needless to say for the second half of my life so far we only have approving people in our lives. In the areas we have to deal with people you can't "pick" to share a space with, they do know we don't take shit and will come for you if you try. That said, I do think we are in a bubble with just about 99% of the people around us approving of us. It tends to give you a false sense of "the world is so accepting of gay people". The world is hectic and there will always be a person somewhere, somehow that would do anything to hurt you if they know they can get away with it.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 23 September 2019, 01:22

NvM wrote:...
-I was the youngest child so not as much left of the family
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I'm all too aware of that situation.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Tobias » 23 September 2019, 03:23

All my friends and my brothers.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby PandaBoo » 28 September 2019, 21:29

No one...except here.

I don't feel the need to advertise it. Then again I dislike people approaching me and questioning my sexuality. I have no interest in being gay because I have no control over it.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Shy-guy-luck » 3 October 2019, 20:24

No one yet but I'm still figuring it out lol.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby neon17 » 9 December 2019, 23:05

my 2 best friends, and people I met online, haha.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 10 December 2019, 00:17

While I was in Orlando on the business trip I told a few people who I've know for quite some time and consider them friends. I also told the newer guy who is out. We don't get to see each other very often and there was what seemed to be some friction between us. I had gotten his territory when he was re-assigned to a different sale person. It was reportedly a case that he was not yet up to speed in the job we do. Long story short it wasn't sitting well with me and I just confronted him on it by saying "You know I'm gay don't you". His response was "Yeah, you like younger". That nearly floored me but I ignored it wanting to resolve whatever it was that was off between us. He elaborate that he really didn't have any bad feelings about it, actually felt bad I got stuck with his sales guy (who turns out to be the problem which I suspected). We talked a bit. Let me know part of it was some stuff in his life... which I clearly get being in that state. After the trip we chatted on WhatsApp a bit. He basically asked my story and I gave him the short version. He apologized for telling me how he know I was gay but also said he likes younger guys himself. I seen him and his BF on one trip a couple years back now and they are quite a cute couple. So finally I can somewhat say I have a friend who is gay met in every day life like you meet anyone else. You couldn't buy that from me for all the money in the world and I'm quite happy being a gay man/person.

I actually went a little bit farther and also told my boss who is newer. He's also good friends with many in our group that came from a company acquisition. Seems like a nice guy but definitely friends with many of the new guys. I did this purposefully hoping he may slip it to others.

Well that leaves MX. I feel like I'm the bull and that china shop is 10 yards in front of me. taunting me. What I'm saying is it's there and I just want to knock it down and destroy it so bad... In time as I don't think there's any choice in that for me.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 10 December 2019, 06:10

I'm out to close friends and family and some colleagues. I came out to my MD just so there isn't any confusion, and he told me he already knew. I'm quite sure my other colleagues suspect it in any case - there's the occasional joke here and there that I guess they think I'm too dense to catch. For example, last week we were standing outside the office and the one used the words "coming out" in some or other sentence, and the other one just grinned. I could just officially come out to them, but my main point is that my personal life has nothing to do with my professional life, so why should I?

Apart from that, there are a couple of homophobic idiots working here. I think what bothers me the most is that people suddenly start treating you differently when they realise you're gay - whether by their own deduction or you telling them. One of the most obvious places this behaviour presents itself is in the bathroom, at the urinal to be specific. No, Bob. Not every gay guy wants to see your junk. I'm actually here to fulfill a bodily function so that I can continue with my work. However, if it bothers you that much let me know and I'll let you see mine so that you can get your little issues out of the way.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby leaveofgrass » 59 minutes ago

Well, let's see. First person to know was my best friend; then another very close one (who scared me like crap just by saying :"I think you DID fall in love with that guy, and it's awsome"). Then it was my former flatmate's turn, who almost choked himself with the beer he was drinking when I told him (sorry for that, man :) ). Than another friend (along with his brother and his mother, who where taking dinner with us). And finally, of course, HIS family. Gosh, I've always said that I need my time, but it's already quite a bunch of people.
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