Who are you out to?

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby leaveofgrass » 14 December 2019, 15:09

Well, let's see. First person to know was my best friend; then another very close one (who scared me like crap just by saying :"I think you DID fall in love with that guy, and it's awsome"). Then it was my former flatmate's turn, who almost choked himself with the beer he was drinking when I told him (sorry for that, man :) ). Than another friend (along with his brother and his mother, who where taking dinner with us). And finally, of course, HIS family. Gosh, I've always said that I need my time, but it's already quite a bunch of people.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby John27 » 19 January 2020, 22:03

I'm out to relatively few people. There some people whom I don't want to come out to for various practical reasons, and, unfortunately, they are connected to others in my life. It's easier for me keeping most people on the same page. Plus I'm not sure I feel hugely compelled to come out to everyone. "Out" for me--at least as I envision it now--is just not caring if anyone finds out...

At the same time, however, I suspect a lot of people either suspect I'm gay or wouldn't be surprised if I came out.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Eos » 7 February 2020, 20:04

The funny part about my story is that I came out without putting much thought into it.
I was taking a shower, and then I just had the urge to tell my dad. I wasn't even sure I was gay when I told him that, but saying it just completely changed me. I just saw the world differently, like my feels went free for the first time. After that I sweated to me, I will never lie to others about this stuff (unless I feel my life could be threatened), but that doesn't mean I'm going to talk about it with everyone).

From this point, I talked to one of my uncles, trying to see how he reacted to some questions (I said I didn't like how LGBT people showed themselves in some parades) and I clearly saw it wouldn't be an issue with him.
From then I told him he could freely tell I was gay to anyone, as long as he feels it is right.
So he told this to some of his friends and some of my family (his brother and my grandmother).

With my grandfather it was kinda funny how I told them, I just didn't lie.
There was a TV show, and one of the candidate was gay, and they told me "Well I hope you'll soon have a girlfriend...or a boyfriend ?" And I simply didn't respond so they realized the truth.

One time it was because I was looking too much for hints on how people think of gays. She told me she was happy her childs (womens) weren't being too much with other girls. And I was like, how could that be, she was the last person on which I feared homophobia.
So later I called her and told her I was gay, and then she told me she didn't meant that for relationships, she only meant that young girls of this age are kinda annoying ^^

I didn't have the time to tell my mom I was gay, but I know she would have happily be ok with that (that Is was I kinda regret it, as I missed a hug time with her).
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 18 February 2020, 22:54

Well I think this is my final post here. Yay! The last two places were work and the mx track.

Work: On my last annual Orlando FL work meeting trip I had the feeling it was going to be the last time I was going to see some of the people face-to-face who I shared my last 20 years with at work. I realized I had some really good friends in that group. So I found time with a few and dump it. Each and every one was a good experience.

MX track: I had told the few I consider my friends there. I also realized given my past I was not going to be content until I blew up the whole house of cards. The owner/manager of the two track I go to the most has been hitting me with "the track is perfect, it's like wet pussy". Then it changed to "It's like wet pussy, you like wet pussy don't you". Yesterday I got hit with simply "You like wet pussy don't you". I guess the few times I signed onto Grindr while at the track, and well my profile is pretty normal (ok for grindr lets call it horribly conservative) but I also have a clear face pic, has hit it's mark. No doubt I had an agenda in that from the start.

So I think I can call that task complete and move on.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby TommyB60 » 25 February 2020, 19:00

I'm too old now to give a s**t what anyone thinks. That wasn't always the case - but for me now - I'm 100% out and don't give others the opportunity to define who I am or what it means to be a proud gay man. I say live your truth.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby OhHeyItsZach » 26 February 2020, 03:09

Only my friends, but not my parents yet.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby GreenPlumber » 28 February 2020, 18:37

To basically everyone except my family.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Nebulous » 9 March 2020, 21:08

Honestly I’m really only out to my BF... We’re “roommates” to everyone else who knows we live together. Some people assume we’re in a gay relationship, but nobody is really that nosey about it.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby OhHeyItsZach » 9 March 2020, 22:51

Nebulous wrote:Honestly I’m really only out to my BF... We’re “roommates” to everyone else who knows we live together. Some people assume we’re in a gay relationship, but nobody is really that nosey about it.


Hey I would call that a good thing and something I wouldn't mind happening to me!
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Nebulous » 10 March 2020, 00:25

OhHeyItsZach wrote:
Nebulous wrote:Honestly I’m really only out to my BF... We’re “roommates” to everyone else who knows we live together. Some people assume we’re in a gay relationship, but nobody is really that nosey about it.


Hey I would call that a good thing and something I wouldn't mind happening to me!


Yeah, well I think being completely out would be the best but there is some... circumstances that makes us want to be private about our relationship. Maybe one day we’ll be out and proud to everyone. Who knows.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby OhHeyItsZach » 13 March 2020, 05:34

Nebulous wrote:
OhHeyItsZach wrote:
Nebulous wrote:Honestly I’m really only out to my BF... We’re “roommates” to everyone else who knows we live together. Some people assume we’re in a gay relationship, but nobody is really that nosey about it.


Hey I would call that a good thing and something I wouldn't mind happening to me!


Yeah, well I think being completely out would be the best but there is some... circumstances that makes us want to be private about our relationship. Maybe one day we’ll be out and proud to everyone. Who knows.


Yeah I agree that being completely out would be the best. Yeah I think we all have circumstances that makes us want to be private about our relationship, but will come completly out when we feel the time and circumstances are right.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby lufia » 20 March 2020, 03:48

I am still in the closet. I think I am trans, though I still present as male.My mannerisms are somewhat feminine, and I no longer try to hide it around my family. My mom found my thongs, outfits, and my vibrator about a year ago, so I guess she knows at this point but we have never discussed it. I'm sick of being in the closet, so I plan to come out soon. I am just waiting for the right time, and I'm still trying to figure everything out.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby InternetShrink » 31 March 2020, 04:02

whoever asks and doesn't freak out
That'll be 500 bucks.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby ualerroix » 10 April 2020, 09:59

Out to everyone, since i have no close friends and family, so i have nothing to lose. But my boyfriend is mad about that, he is hiding his orientation.
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