Who are you out to?

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Choicespecs » 10 April 2020, 12:39

Out to everyone (except my boyfriend).

People always just assume I'm gay anyway....
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Eos » 16 April 2020, 12:11

Wait what ? How can your boyfriend be not aware that you are gay if he is your boyfriend ? ^^
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby René » 16 April 2020, 12:14

I think he might be assuming by this point... :P
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 16 April 2020, 12:29

René wrote:I think he might be assuming by this point... :P

Or Choicespecs has been wearing a wig and insisting on having sex with the lights off.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Choicespecs » 16 April 2020, 15:19

Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I think he might be assuming by this point... :P

Or Choicespecs has been wearing a wig and insisting on having sex with the lights off.


Very much so. Lights off, missionary only and sing God Save the Queen till its over.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 16 April 2020, 15:22

Choicespecs wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I think he might be assuming by this point... :P

Or Choicespecs has been wearing a wig and insisting on having sex with the lights off.


Very much so. Lights off, missionary only and sing God Save the Queen till its over.

All the verses, or just the “anthem” version?

I mean, I’m assuming you’re afforded the available time to make this a relevant distinction. I hope you are, anyway.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Choicespecs » 16 April 2020, 15:27

Marmaduke wrote:
Choicespecs wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I think he might be assuming by this point... :P

Or Choicespecs has been wearing a wig and insisting on having sex with the lights off.


Very much so. Lights off, missionary only and sing God Save the Queen till its over.

All the verses, or just the “anthem” version?

I mean, I’m assuming you’re afforded the available time to make this a relevant distinction. I hope you are, anyway.


Of course all the verses. We are British not french. We dont give up half way.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Eos » 16 April 2020, 17:54

I never understood this thing about frenchs giving up. History goes beyond world war 2.
Sorry but I have to stand up for my country ! ^^

Anyway it must be really fun to come out to your boyfriend during the wedding day !
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Lil-Joe » 29 April 2020, 05:18

First came out to my best friend which is my boyfriend by now. Later followed my family and now everyone may no.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Spacekitty » 18 May 2020, 10:13

Hows does the saying go - "To the world and it's dog". LOL! I'm 38 now and came out at the age of 19. I came out full and completely in about a period of 6 months. And this year I've officially been half of my life in the closet, and the other half out of the closet. And yet I still find myself hoping I came out earlier. I would have loved to at least try take a boy to my school dance. It's horribly learning and navigating around love and emotions and learning the ropes at 19 while your straight friend have been going exploring and learning from what - 10? 13? I believe that's a big reason why some guys that come out later can be so messy. They still emotionally immature for a relationship and still finding their way. No, definitely not saying that's a reason to be a prick.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby John27 » 18 May 2020, 22:48

Spacekitty wrote:I believe that's a big reason why some guys that come out later can be so messy. They still emotionally immature for a relationship and still finding their way. No, definitely not saying that's a reason to be a prick.


That may be so, and it's something I've considered. But the big mess I'm most aware of are gay guys who ended up married to a woman. In some cases, they really didn't know/accept they were gay. Others know they are gay, but think they can make it work. And at some point, they either realize I'm gay, or if they knew they were gay, realize they can't make the relationship work. Based on the cases I've seen discussed on line--admittedly anecdotal evidence--it often becomes a very messy situation. Usually, the marriage ends--often with acrimony.

I'm one of ones who realized "later in life"--although at least I never married, never had a straight relationship. Although I have to admit I do cringe at the thought of even attempting to date, given that I have no experience and no skills. I may well just decide to stay single for the duration. It might be the kindest decision I can make for the good of others. It certainly seems like the easiest solution for me.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby iamlonely99 » Today, 16:10

Hey,
I am out to my three best friends and to my two sisters.
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