Who are you out to?

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Unread postby reggieregreg » 29 March 2021, 15:39

Came out to everyone (pretty much) about 11 years ago. Had kind of a weird break up situation with a guy I dated and then haven't really dated anyone since then. I think some internalised anti-gay feelings came back up for me. Anyway here we are.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby EricLovell » 11 April 2021, 01:54

To my wife - who always knew anyway - and to some of my friends.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby AshleyTheBottom » 6 May 2021, 22:29

My first relationship, we never came out all the way but his sister knew and was happy for him. We were together 8 years and I suspect my step-grandmother knew also, because she's the one that introduced me and him and she knew he was a dominant gay top and I was a small 18 year old boy at the time. My grandfather had custody of me but was always on pills and drugged up, so his wife pretty much sent me to go live with this man. And from day 1 he pretty much told me how things were going to be. He made me his house wife pretty much. He died of pancreatic cancer.

I'm in another relationship now that's identicle to that one, only this time I told him I don't wanna hide it from anyone except my own family because I know they'd never accept it. When we first met, we talked about it and he said that we could hide it if I didn't wanna come out. His sister was the one that hooked us up so she knew. And I told him, I wanted his family to know, I wanted the neighbors to know and that was fine. I even said that I'm happy if they all know that I'm the submissive one of the relationship. I'm completely comfortable with who I am. So for holidays and family get togethers, it's very nice that me and him can be ourselves and his family accepts us. We took a family vacation to Colorado last year and his family made sure we had a nice cozy room together and we had a blast.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby AshleyTheBottom » 6 May 2021, 22:33

My first relationship, we never came out all the way but his sister knew and was happy for him. We were together 8 years and I suspect my step-grandmother knew also, because she's the one that introduced me and him and she knew he was a dominant gay top and I was a small 18 year old boy at the time. My grandfather had custody of me but was always on pills and drugged up, so his wife pretty much sent me to go live with this man. And from day 1 he pretty much told me how things were going to be. He made me his house wife pretty much. He died of pancreatic cancer.

I'm in another relationship now that's identicle to that one, only this time I told him I don't wanna hide it from anyone except my own family because I know they'd never accept it. When we first met, we talked about it and he said that we could hide it if I didn't wanna come out. His sister was the one that hooked us up so she knew. And I told him, I wanted his family to know, I wanted the neighbors to know and that was fine. I even said that I'm happy if they all know that I'm the submissive one of the relationship. I'm completely comfortable with who I am. So for holidays and family get togethers, it's very nice that me and him can be ourselves and his family accepts us. We took a family vacation to Colorado last year and his family made sure we had a nice cozy room together and we had a blast.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby AshleyTheBottom » 6 May 2021, 22:42

For those who haven't come out to anyone except their lover, I'm telling you, the day you come out to at least one person and they're cool about it, it's gonna intensify your relationship.

One of the biggest things about that for me, is I love serving my man in front of others and displaying my submission to him. When we have get togethers with our friends, every time he needs a beer he tells me to go get one and I do it. I make his plate and bring it to him. I can dress however he likes and everything is normal and accepted by our friends or his family. I can walk in the room in long scrunch socks, a paid of booty shorts and a tight t-shirt and sit on his lap and nobody thinks anything of it. To them, they just see us as a sub/dom couple that have a mutual agreement. We don't feel so "locked away" from society with our relationship and feel free. It's an exhilarating feeling.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Stylian98 » 7 June 2021, 00:00

Last summer I came out to my best friend… she has really supported me and I think is the best thing I ever done. Since then I have only told to a guy that I’m flirting with.
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Unread postby Fasteddie » 7 June 2021, 03:50

I am not out to anybody and very confused, shy, ashamed but excited 😊
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Teacherman » 16 June 2021, 16:17

Only my therapist.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby dee_rose » 8 August 2021, 03:44

The only people that knows I like guys is my therapist and a friend I just met for sex. It can be pretty lonely when I'm by myself or with friends/family. I'm just scared of their reaction and may look down on me. At least this new friend gives me some confidence.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby FireFox » 11 September 2021, 20:46

I'm out to a couple of friends and my aunt. Apart from my aunt it was all accidental, I've never had the balls to tell anyone and always have felt like a failure for not having the courage.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby dee_rose » 11 September 2021, 20:59

FireFox wrote:I'm out to a couple of friends and my aunt. Apart from my aunt it was all accidental, I've never had the balls to tell anyone and always have felt like a failure for not having the courage.


I know what you mean I thought of so many ways to bring up hints to the people I love but put it off cause I know it will change things between us like how they may feel about me.

I would say don't be so hard on yourself but I'm the last person who knows how to do that.lol
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby FireFox » 11 September 2021, 21:09

dee_rose wrote:
FireFox wrote:I'm out to a couple of friends and my aunt. Apart from my aunt it was all accidental, I've never had the balls to tell anyone and always have felt like a failure for not having the courage.


I know what you mean I thought of so many ways to bring up hints to the people I love but put it off cause I know it will change things between us like how they may feel about me.

I would say don't be so hard on yourself but I'm the last person who knows how to do that.lol


Some day I'm sure I will but today is certainly not that day, right now it gives me anxiety just thinking about it.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby FireFox » 12 September 2021, 09:54

@Juliet Anderson - I'd be surprised if that is actually you, what I would expect and this is from a previous lesson is that you end up being a 400lb Slovak with such an inverted penis even an electro-microscope would have trouble trying to locate it. But on the otherhand if that is indeed you then looking good :thumbsupwink:
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby o.o.pickme » 27 September 2021, 00:42

I came to my parents (oh! that was an ordeal) and close friends when I was 19, but after that, if you had the balls to ask, then I had the balls to tell you. Other than that, I don't advertise it and I don't really think anyone knows, Steve is just Steve...who happens to be gay.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby stevie1400 » 29 September 2021, 06:24

I've never really done 'coming out' as such. I always consider my sexuality quite personal. I did tell a friend about 10 years ago. And I mentioned it to my therapist a couple of years ago.

I was in a photograph in the local newspaper with people from the local LGBT group back in 2014, but no one I know commented on it.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby LeeLong73 » 14 October 2021, 14:46

Several friends
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby swan68 » 17 October 2021, 22:33

no one except online friends
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