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Why did she go back to abusive ex?

Unread postby whatagirlgottodo » 6 January 2021, 17:58

Last March I met a woman who had split with her ex gf a month previous.
We got on great and started seeing each other.
I found out her and the ex got together 2009 till 2013 then they split and got back together 2017 till 2019.
Her ex gf used to hit her/bite her when she was fighting with her.
She told me lots of stories.
Between 2013 and 2017 the woman I was seeing never got in another relationship and just slept with women.
She met her ex in Tesco and they got back together.
Then they split in 2017
So basically she never gets into a relationship with anyone but the ex.
We got close but soon as it was heading for something she backed away and said I don’t want a relationship with anyone.
We stayed friends for 7 months.
Then I text her and got no reply.
Then I text again and she told me she was back with her ex and to leave her alone and never speak to her again and she blocked me.
I’m really upset she thought that little of me.
Why did she go back to the abusive ex ?
Why did she never get with anyone but her?
Were me and other girls just things to use till her ex came back ?
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Re: Why did she go back to abusive ex?

Unread postby Eryx » 6 January 2021, 18:41

Pathological co-dependence, probably. You're better off without her, as these kinds of issues could start happening between you two as well. After all, she's been used to this dynamic for way too many years.
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Re: Why did she go back to abusive ex?

Unread postby whatagirlgottodo » 6 January 2021, 21:11

It’s just a shame she disposed of me so quick.
She doesn’t even want me in her life as a friend
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Re: Why did she go back to abusive ex?

Unread postby Eryx » 6 January 2021, 21:35

It's probably a defense mechanism now that she's back with the ex. This ex might be jealous of stuff like this. I doubt it's because she didn't care about you. Either way, my suggestion is that you move on... Nothing good can come out of this. And if she comes back to you know she'll basically be doing with you the same she might have done before with this ex of hers.
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