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22-year-old virgin

Unread postby midnightsun101 » 8 February 2019, 04:54

I'm 22 and still a virgin. I feel like this may have already been addressed but I couldn't seem to find an answer to a question like this.

Never been in a relationship, never kissed anyone. I'm kind of an introvert so the idea of venturing out to find someone freaks me out a bit, but I feel like I missed a milestone in my life that everyone else has passed. I want to have sex with someone, but I feel like no one will be interested when they learn I'm so inexperienced.

I want to be able to find someone, and I've even joined Grindr and Scruff but I'm too afraid to actually use them. Everyone there seems to just be looking for sex and I'm not comfortable going out and hooking up with a random person when I've never even had an innocent kiss.

Anyone have any advice on how to navigate this?

Thanks for anything you can do :)
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Re: 22-year-old virgin

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 8 February 2019, 15:08

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Re: 22-year-old virgin

Unread postby Jzone » 8 February 2019, 23:22

At 22 it may be you are simply a late bloomer, and you are not alone. There have been many posts on the forum similar to yours. Introverts definitely have more challenges in this area. I had my first sex at 22, so I can relate. In the 30+ years since then I have had an active and varied sex life, so there is hope.

All I can suggest is that you take steps to be more social. You don't need to become a party animal overnight (or ever), or explore every bar and club within 50 miles of home. The more you interact with other people the more likely it is your excitement for someone will overcome your fears. Anyone worth having feelings for will not have a problem with your inexperience.

Grindr and Scruff could actually be helpful, but you will have to weed out a lot of guys to find someone you will be comfortable with. That can take a lot of time and be discouraging. It is possible to meet a guy from Grindr in public over coffee. You just need to ready to say no.

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Re: 22-year-old virgin

Unread postby mxguy01 » 9 February 2019, 21:47

Well there's being out and there's being out. First, out of curiosity and it is related are you "out"? Makes it easier for someone else, even those not out, to see you are. Rather simple logic there.

The next "out", is get out. Goal is to put yourself in situations where there are other gays around doing something your interested in. Depending upon your location to a major city, you can find places and things to do - specifically for gays. You can often find things run by community centers, lgbt organizations, church groups, etc. Even check out if there are some Meetup.com groups near you that are LGBT focused and some activity your interested in. I found a camping and backpacking group in my area that is LGBT and that is an activity I love to do - waiting for spring for that group to be more active. Hey, if you like to occasionally have a drink, get to a gay bar. I've never gotten "lucky" in a gay bar but it certainly makes me feel better just being out and about.

This is in addition to prior advice as it is additive.

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