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29-year age gap

Unread postby Bi68 » 23 August 2022, 21:58

A 53-year old bisexual to pansexual, I've had a couple decade-long relationships with women, other short affairs, and sporadic encounters with men of various ages and transsexuals.

Recently I started a relationship with a 24-year boy. Initially it was meant to be a sugar daddy/baby relationship, but it quickly started to feel a lot like (mutual) falling in love as I remember experiencing it with my female exes. Not I am wary that we could easily and quickly burn ourselves out, and I don't want that. On the contrary, I'd love to stay on his side and help him become a successful and accomplished adult man.

Anyone else experienced the same? How did it evolve?
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 24 August 2022, 03:30

My father began dating a woman who was 18 when I was but 13. The age difference was one of 21 years and their relationship lasted some 8 or so years. It ended for reasons I can’t quite recall.

I’ve nothing particularly against relationships of such age difference, and I don’t disapprove of them. But let me say that you’d likely better not be dating someone that young if you have children who are in fact children (i.e. children who aren’t already adults).

My father’s girlfriend tried to take a somewhat parental role to me and would always tell me how she used to think X or Y when she was my age—something that was laughable given that she started dating my father only a few months after graduating high school, and given that I, though in 8th grade, was attending a high school myself and could’ve been her peer had she but been a year younger. She negatively commented to me on my mother’s parenting, personality, etc., on several occasions and told me my mom was a bad parent (because she obviously knew so much about parenting). Oh, and at one point my father went so far as to explicitly say he might love her more than me.

Suffice it to say, then, that if you are a parent, please be aware that a relationship with one so young can fuck up your kids and your relationship with them (among other things, my father’s decisions concerning his girlfriend are part of the reason I’ve not spoken with him in some two years or so).
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 24 August 2022, 03:37

Oh, also, I’d think your companion is already a man rather than a boy, owing to his being 24 and the fact that boyhood is typically regarded as ending some time before a person’s 20th year or so. And goodness knows he’s most definitely already an adult, at least presuming the standard for adulthood is here that which is more or less common to North Americans and Europeans.

Second, I’m not sure I understand your choice to specify that you want to help him become a successful and accomplished “man”; since I don’t really see what difference there could be between being a successful and accomplished man, being a successful and accomplished woman, and being a successful and accomplished person.

It seems you may be presuming that success in life involves something different for each gender identity, which is strange and hardly evident, or else for each sex, in which case you’re likely sexist or some such thing.
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 24 August 2022, 17:48

First things first, congratulations on getting a young guy! But on a more serious note: It depends on your interests and energy levels. I was married to a guy 20 years older than me. Things started great: he was excited to be with someone younger. We were active and had a great sex life, having sex several times a week, he woukd top me and I would usually felt lusted after. After about 2 years of marriage, he started saying "no" more often as he was drained of energy that I still had. Burnout had begun. He started wanting to stay home and watch tv... we went from him banging me almost nightly to me giving him blowjobs (so me putting in almost all the effort) and he could barely get off.

Eventually, there was a resentment between us. While I never said anything bad about him, my attitude probably showed it. Frustration. Other guys my age were doing all sorts of things on weekends. I was stuck with someone who aged. We lived not happily for a few years until our separation (our divorce finalizes in 7 weeks)... This past year I have dated LOTS and felt the best connections by far with people my own age. While I've slept with numerous guys in their 50s in this past year (I am 32 now), its been just for sex and nothing more.

Maybe you have the energy and endurance, youthful mindset and him a more mature way of thinking but really, make sure it will work. Your 20s are meant to be fun, so make sure he gets it.
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby pinoyboypussy » 26 August 2022, 02:24

jaredjoy90 wrote:We were active and had a great sex life, having sex several times a week, he woukd top me and I would usually felt lusted after. After about 2 years of marriage, he started saying "no" more often as he was drained of energy that I still had. Burnout had begun. He started wanting to stay home and watch tv... we went from him banging me almost nightly to me giving him blowjobs (so me putting in almost all the effort) and he could barely get off...

...Eventually, there was a resentment between us. While I never said anything bad about him, my attitude probably showed it. Frustration. Other guys my age were doing all sorts of things on weekends. I was stuck with someone who aged.


As a younger guy into older guys, this is what worries me most... if we are in a long-term relationship, will we be able to meet each others needs as we each get older in our own way?
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby Eryx » 26 August 2022, 19:23

Having sex everyday is exhausting, and I'm not even 30 yet. How do you guys do it?
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby reddawn » 28 August 2022, 12:52

Both grown men and enjoying it so its all fine
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Re: 29-year age gap

Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 28 August 2022, 16:04

pinoyboypussy wrote:


As a younger guy into older guys, this is what worries me most... if we are in a long-term relationship, will we be able to meet each others needs as we each get older in our own way?[/quote]

Of course it depends on the guy. Lets say you have 10 twenty year olds, probably all 10 can keep up. But if you had a group of 10 sixty year olds, maybe 3 could keep up to my sexual needs, which is getting him off at least 2-3 times a week.

Advice: just have fun with it and get a guy who is in good shape to begin with.
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