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A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Usernameisavailable » 2 December 2018, 12:59

I'm sorry I didn't make an introduction post, I just need some advice quick.

I guess I’ll start with a bit of a background. My cousin is the son of my aunt, my father’s sister, now he’s 20 and I’m 19. We spent a lot of time together when we were children because our families lived very close each to other. We were great friends and then his family moved to live in another country because his father found a good job there. I remember I was very sad and upset when he left. I know my parents mailed letters and talked to them over the phone, but that was all the grown-up stuff. Mine and his contact were cut completely, and I also had many other things to do, like school and basketball, and soon I didn’t have time to think about him at all and I was already used to the thought that I’ll never see my cousin again.

However, somewhere in the late summer my aunt called and told that they're moving back and they would like to visit us for the Christmas. I was super excited to finally meet my cousin. So they arrived a few weeks ago and I almost didn’t recognize my cousin at all. I hadn’t seen him for some ten years or even more and I was amazed to see what a hot guy he has turned into. He was happy to see me as well and we spend days talking and talking each to other about everything that has happened in our lives. It turned out that we were both waiting for the other to start the communication first and since I didn’t write to him all these years he thought I didn’t want to contact him. I felt so connected with him as I’ve never felt with any other person.

Because their house is still being renovated, my aunt's family will be living with my family for a while. My cousin moved into my room, we have to share a room, because our house isn’t that big. And so one evening he was looking around in my room and he found my gay porn magazine. When I was younger, I happened to get one. He asked me if I liked men, I said yes and he said "me too". We’re both closeted and both afraid our families won’t accept us. Later that night he crawled in my bed and kissed me on the lips. It felt sooo good and at the same time, it didn't because I guess we mustn't do such things. I know I like him as a guy, but that's so wrong as we're relatives. He says that it's nothing, we're just cousins, not brothers, so we're not related that close. Every night when we lock the doors of my room, he wants to be a lot closer to me than he should and I know I want it too, but all the time I think about how bad this is. I know that there are many places where heterosexual cousin couples are allowed to marry, etc, but for me, it seems strange. Maybe we're not close relatives, but we're still relatives.

I was so glad to meet him, but now I feel really bad. I wish he wasn't my cousin, but just some hot guy to fall in love with. I know that if we would have grown up together I probably wouldn't look at him this way. I guess it's the time and distance between us that made me forget that we're related. What would you do in my place?
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby PopTart » 2 December 2018, 13:20

How do you feel about him?

Honestly, i don't see a problem with falling in love or being sexual with your cousin.

There are good reasons for heterosexual pairings between close blood relatives being taboo, due to biological issues with genetics. It makes sense that you don't screw up the gene pool.

If you like him and it sounds like you do and he likes you too. I don't think there is anything wrong in that. There are ofcourse likely to be challenges if you can find some comfort with the idea, not everyone thinks the same way. But there is no real logical reason you should find this discomforting, bad or weird, other than social conditioning that it might be so.

So I ask again, how do you feel about him. From the heart?
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Felice » 2 December 2018, 13:34

I'm with Poptart on this one .
Where i live it's legal and normal for cousins to get married. so no need to be ashamed of it or anything.
But you need to prepare for what is about to come and the issue that might create with your family ..
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Usernameisavailable » 2 December 2018, 13:56

PopTart wrote:How do you feel about him?

Honestly, i don't see a problem with falling in love or being sexual with your cousin.

There are good reasons for heterosexual pairings between close blood relatives being taboo, due to biological issues with genetics. It makes sense that you don't screw up the gene pool.

If you like him and it sounds like you do and he likes you too. I don't think there is anything wrong in that. There are ofcourse likely to be challenges if you can find some comfort with the idea, not everyone thinks the same way. But there is no real logical reason you should find this discomforting, bad or weird, other than social conditioning that it might be so.

So I ask again, how do you feel about him. From the heart?


I do like him. A lot. I know I'd love to be with him. I have never had a guy whose kiss would make me feel like his did.
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Satsuma » 2 December 2018, 13:59

Usernameisavailable wrote:I do like him. A lot. I know I'd love to be with him. I have never had a guy whose kiss would make me feel like his did.


Aw that's absolutely fine :hug:

Like Poptart says, it's different when the relationship is heterosexual because any potential kids will have a higher chance of having genetic defects due to the close genetic makeup of the parents. But I don't think there's anything wrong with you being in love with your cousin.

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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Eryx » 2 December 2018, 14:03

The US is like the only country in the world that considers cousin relationships to be incest. Nobody cares. Be happy! And since he has familial ties with you, that has more of a chance of being a loving and faithful relationship than any other.
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 2 December 2018, 14:45

If nothing else, it makes financial sense marrying within the family. You’re halving your food and drink bill and have many much more intimate choices available for venues. I’d even perhaps even suggest aiming for a cousin more down the male line. Does your father have a brother with a hot son? Because if you married him you could even keep your surname.

The only downside is making your family choose between you when it comes to which side the sit on.
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Eryx » 2 December 2018, 14:57

Yeah, you're exactly the person that would think of the break-up when the relationship hasn't even started. Debbie downer! :(
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 2 December 2018, 16:07

Eryx wrote:Yeah, you're exactly the person that would think of the break-up when the relationship hasn't even started. Debbie downer! :(

Hey! I meant at the wedding ceremony! It was you that disregarded context and jumped straight to break-up, Negative Nancy! :nono:
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Unread postby Eryx » 2 December 2018, 16:49

Oh no! I pulled a Clueless George!
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 2 December 2018, 17:26

I thought which side of the dinner table. Hey I'm not mister totally negative guy; for a change it's someone else. Thanks Eryx. LoL
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 2 December 2018, 17:40

Usernameisavailable wrote:He asked me if I liked men, I said yes and he said "me too".


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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 2 December 2018, 21:01

Usernameisavailable wrote:I'm sorry I didn't make an introduction post, I just need some advice quick.

I guess I’ll start with a bit of a background. My cousin is the son of my aunt, my father’s sister, now he’s 20 and I’m 19. We spent a lot of time together when we were children because our families lived very close each to other. We were great friends and then his family moved to live in another country because his father found a good job there. I remember I was very sad and upset when he left. I know my parents mailed letters and talked to them over the phone, but that was all the grown-up stuff. Mine and his contact were cut completely, and I also had many other things to do, like school and basketball, and soon I didn’t have time to think about him at all and I was already used to the thought that I’ll never see my cousin again.

However, somewhere in the late summer my aunt called and told that they're moving back and they would like to visit us for the Christmas. I was super excited to finally meet my cousin. So they arrived a few weeks ago and I almost didn’t recognize my cousin at all. I hadn’t seen him for some ten years or even more and I was amazed to see what a hot guy he has turned into. He was happy to see me as well and we spend days talking and talking each to other about everything that has happened in our lives. It turned out that we were both waiting for the other to start the communication first and since I didn’t write to him all these years he thought I didn’t want to contact him. I felt so connected with him as I’ve never felt with any other person.

damn, that story is very arousing. so I don't mind it. also, I don't mind straight incest either, if birth control is involved.

Because their house is still being renovated, my aunt's family will be living with my family for a while. My cousin moved into my room, we have to share a room, because our house isn’t that big. And so one evening he was looking around in my room and he found my gay porn magazine. When I was younger, I happened to get one. He asked me if I liked men, I said yes and he said "me too". We’re both closeted and both afraid our families won’t accept us. Later that night he crawled in my bed and kissed me on the lips. It felt sooo good and at the same time, it didn't because I guess we mustn't do such things. I know I like him as a guy, but that's so wrong as we're relatives. He says that it's nothing, we're just cousins, not brothers, so we're not related that close. Every night when we lock the doors of my room, he wants to be a lot closer to me than he should and I know I want it too, but all the time I think about how bad this is. I know that there are many places where heterosexual cousin couples are allowed to marry, etc, but for me, it seems strange. Maybe we're not close relatives, but we're still relatives.

I was so glad to meet him, but now I feel really bad. I wish he wasn't my cousin, but just some hot guy to fall in love with. I know that if we would have grown up together I probably wouldn't look at him this way. I guess it's the time and distance between us that made me forget that we're related. What would you do in my place?


damn, that story is very arousing. I don't see a reason to mind it. Also, straight incest is fine too, if there is birth control invovled.
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 2 December 2018, 22:42

I do personally find the thought of incest gross, especially if it's with like a direct relative (a parent or sibling). Objectively though I kind of agree it's not really morally wrong if everyone involved is a consenting adult, it's not really our business I guess.

Actually I'm gonna be a hypocrite, ngl one of my cousins is very much so my type on paper and I could easily let myself be attracted to him (if he was gay and single, which he's neither). Idk though I don't think I could.
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Re: A relationship with your cousin - yes or no?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 3 December 2018, 03:52

I have a hot cousin and I would so hit that if he let me.
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