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Unread postby LOUSCH » 4 January 2022, 07:38

My boyfriend and i are together for 3 years and a few weeks ago while we were having sex he expressed his fantasy to bring another top for me to suck him while he is topping me ...

We have a monogamous relationship and since that moment i never thought adding more ppl to our sex life but now i cant stop thinking about it

While having sex he mentioned it a few times and we both got really excited but i think he is afraid to actually do it because he is not sure if i can handle this or if we start with this then i will go all the way meeting men around

What is your thoughts
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby glückspilz » 4 January 2022, 16:06

I myself have never been at this point in my relationship. I think you need to discuss this well with each other. What ideas do you both have about a threesome? What do you like, what do you not like? It also can't hurt to set boundaries together.

You should certainly let him know that you can't get the idea out of your head. That way, he knows that you're not completely averse to the idea.

Ich selbst war in meiner Beziehung bisher noch nie an diesem Punkt. Ich denke, ihr müsst das gut miteinander besprechen. Welche Vorstellungen von einem Dreier habt ihr beide? Was mögt ihr, was mögt ihr nicht? Es kann auch nicht schaden, gemeinsam Grenzen festzulegen.

Du solltest ihm sicher mitteilen, dass dir der Gedanke nicht aus dem Kopf geht. So weiss er, dass du der Idee nicht völlig abgeneigt bist.
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby René » 4 January 2022, 17:06

I described my awesome threesome experience in this thread here, with a guy who actually became our boyfriend (we've been dating him for almost 2 years now and hope to settle down together in the coming years). :D

It's worth noting my husband and I had been together for more than 10 years at that point and were both completely certain about doing it, we'd already been looking for a boyfriend, and the guy we met was ridiculously suitable for us and we felt 100% in tune with him right away, so our experience probably isn't representative of your average threesome.
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby LOUSCH » 4 January 2022, 20:56

glückspilz wrote:I think you need to discuss this well with each other. What ideas do you both have about a threesome? What do you like, what do you not like? It also can't hurt to set boundaries together.

You should certainly let him know that you can't get the idea out of your head. That way, he knows that you're not completely averse to the idea.

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With my boyfriend we have a monogamous relationship and we both said that we dont want an open relationship . The thing is that when he is horny he has this fantasy of fucking me and me having another cock in my mouth

But i dont know if this is a good idea. Should we open this door or should we try to keep it just the two of us as much as possible?
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby pozzie » 4 January 2022, 21:20

Sometimes it's just the thought - and talking about - that provides enough thrill, but it reads like your bf is more than slightly interested. Talking it through - before and after - is a great start, but it's hard to imagine what might happen before you guys have some experience.

My personal experience was a mixed bag - sometimes it worked great, though never anything like nearly as great as René mentions. We also had problems though with my partner of the time not liking the way things were going that particular night. I see that more as an issue between us and little to do with the third guy.

Hope it works out! ;)
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby René » 4 January 2022, 22:16

LOUSCH wrote:
glückspilz wrote:I think you need to discuss this well with each other. What ideas do you both have about a threesome? What do you like, what do you not like? It also can't hurt to set boundaries together.

You should certainly let him know that you can't get the idea out of your head. That way, he knows that you're not completely averse to the idea.

With my boyfriend we have a monogamous relationship and we both said that we dont want an open relationship . The thing is that when he is horny he has this fantasy of fucking me and me having another cock in my mouth

But i dont know if this is a good idea. Should we open this door or should we try to keep it just the two of us as much as possible?

Technically having a threesome makes a relationship somewhat open, but "open relationship" makes me think of something I consider very different (and which I personally wouldn't want to be in).

Having the occasional threesome (when you both feel good about it and no one is pressured in any way) could be a good middle way between fully closed and fully open. But no one can say what'll happen (which will of course also depend partly on the guy you do it with), and intimate encounters with others could stir up a lot of buried insecurities and anxieties. I'm pretty risk-averse and tend to think if you're not totally sure you want to do this, you should probably hold off.

Maybe you'll be certain in the future, or maybe it's best left as a fantasy. I definitely have my share of fantasies that should stay fantasies, haha. And I know there was definitely a time when if I'd been convinced to do this, there's a good chance it would have ended in a lot of pain and tears.
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby pozzie » 5 January 2022, 01:39

yeah - absolutely what René said, I just can't give it +5
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Re: Adding another person for sex

Unread postby René » 5 January 2022, 02:34

pozzie wrote:yeah - absolutely what René said, I just can't give it +5

Haha, thanks :3
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