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Unread postby wonderingdt » 6 December 2020, 04:44

I wouldn't say I'm gay.
I'm turned on by women....have dated....and I'm currently married. My wife understands what I like and has managed to insert 4 fingers.....all the way in!

I'm not turned on and have no desire to suck someone.
I'm not turned on and have no desire to have someone suck me.
What I AM turned on by is stretching... I love the feeling of something large inside of me. I've been practicing for years and can easily get a coke bottle or even a baseball bat inside of me.

I've progressed to having large objects inserted in me. I love the feeling of being stretched open. ... not thrusting in and out of me....but inserted and stretched open.

I've never been with a man but I have fantasies about lying down on my stomach and having a guy lie on top of me....and take me. I've used toys and had tremendous orgasms... but my experiences have only been with toys. My wife doesn't know I want to be fucked. She only knows I like anal play.

I'm almost obsessed with anal play.....I can't go to a grocery store without looking at bottles thinking how they'd feel.

My question is.... I'm not turned on by men but instead by women.... so without the whole attraction thing.....am I gay or considered bi?
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby Marmaduke » 6 December 2020, 08:27

Baseball bats and coke bottles don’t have genders. I don’t see where there’s a same sex attraction here if you’re saying men do nothing for you.
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby Jasper1 » 6 December 2020, 09:02

Just get your wife to use a gigantic strap on with you and you’re sorted!
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby MarriedBottom1985 » 8 December 2020, 15:12

Straight men can and often do get turned on by anal play, the fact that you enjoy anal stimulation, or in your case anal stretching, doesn’t mean that you have to be gay or bi it just means you enjoy what you enjoy
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby Eryx » 10 December 2020, 01:07

Enjoying anal pleasure doesn't make you gay or bi, but fantasizing about a guy lying on top of you and fucking you while you feel the pressure of his body does make you sound at least a little bit bisexual. No worries though, that's probably most people. You're married, so it shouldn't matter. Just keep making the most of it with someone who respects your kinks. Cheating on her to find out if you do like men lying on top of you doesn't sound like it's worth losing the relationship over.
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby wonderingdt » 28 February 2021, 05:23

How do I get nominated to "The Lounge"?
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby Raynethemagi » 28 February 2021, 05:42

Are you happy? If that's a yes, then that's all that should matter. If you think being with a man would make you happier, then do it. If not, then continue what you're doing I guess. That's my advice....
Here's an example of the Universe trying to tell you that you need healing in an area of your life:

Someone who struggles with showing emotion. This person, in their lifetime, will constantly struggle with this, and that is because, they choose to ignore or disregard the fact that they have trouble showing emotion. Most people will ignore this issue, and will continue to fracture themselves. And this goes with pretty much any problem that happens in your life that is recurring. Don't pass up an opportunity to make you "whole" again.
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Re: Advice Please

Unread postby Loner » 30 March 2021, 12:15

I do not consider myself gay as well. BUT. Anus is a truly sensitive part, it is so easy to get stimulated there.
Example: anal rimming. No toys, no cocks, no penetrations at all.... and it's INSANE!

If you want to try with toys, like @Jasper1 suggested, get a strapon or a big butt plug. 4 finger? Well you mush be opened so ... go get some LOL
https://iadorelove.com/product/red-boy-the-challenge-butt-plug/
https://iadorelove.com/product/vac-u-lock-vibrating-dual-density-starter-set-vibrating-with-wireless-remote/

Love the kit so you can both share the fun ;-)

If you really want a real cock in you, well gradually you may want to introduce her the idea, hopefully she will say yes :)
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