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Am I actually bi?

Unread postby STONKS1232321 » 29 July 2020, 14:21

Basically since quite a young age I always noticed I was a bit different from everyone else and had a slight attraction towards guys, recently I’ve come out as bi to my close friends cos now I’m older I’m trying to come to terms with it, but I’m still kinda unsure about what I am.

So I have tried meets on Grindr but doing stuff with guys so far hasn’t really felt right, like I couldn’t really get into it and it just felt weird and awkward.

But when I think about doing stuff with guys it feels right in my head.

I’ve also had feelings for 2 boys in my friend group , I told them and they were completely cool with it and were still friends and the feelings have kinda faded now.

Just a bit confused as to why in my head I like the idea of being with a guy but then in practice feel completely different.

Maybe it’s just because the meets i’ve had on Grindr have pretty much been with strangers?

Also just to clarify what I mean when I say I think I’m bi, basically I’m not against a relationship or sex with girls I’m still open to that but I seem to want to peruse guys more.
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Re: Am I actually bi?

Unread postby biguy87 » 29 July 2020, 14:55

It’s not at all unusual for people to still be trying to figure out what/who they are at your age. Some people don’t get there for 30, 40, 50 years, etc.

It may be the case that the Grindr meets didn’t work for you because there was no connection/chemistry. Maybe rather than bisexual, you’re pansexual, therefore such encounters might not work with any gender.

My advice would be don’t worry about such labels. Meet people, try things, you’ll find out what works for you and it might not be the same thing with everyone you meet. Perhaps try dating apps rather than hookup apps. Don’t worry about what you are, just be true to yourself and you’ll either figure out what you want to call yourself or you’ll realise it doesn’t matter.
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Re: Am I actually bi?

Unread postby Eryx » 29 July 2020, 15:26

Grindr never feels right at first, you were probably just too nervous
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Re: Am I actually bi?

Unread postby confusedpearson » 11 August 2020, 23:17

I feel like this I don’t want to come out because I’m not exactly sure myself. I don’t know wether I’m straight or bi or even straight, I keep thinking about talking to my friend but I’m scared that if I tell her then I might lose my best friend. Which means that I don’t want to tell my parents because I’m not sure and if I can’t tell someone who has only been in my life for 3 or 4 years then how can I come out to my family who have been here my whole life?

I just don’t want to come out and then realise that I’m actually straight because then they wont believe that I’m straight they’ll think that I’m just trying too hide it. Ive come here to try and get some answers and hope that someone can help me get my answers but until then I still remain confused.
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Re: Am I actually bi?

Unread postby STONKS1232321 » 12 August 2020, 08:23

I mean you don’t have to actually come out as such just maybe say that you feel like you might be but your not sure, then at least you have a friend that you can talk about it with.

And if your friend is a proper friend then they will be super supportive. I was scared about telling my friends but they were all super supportive.
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