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Am I gay?

Unread postby Bottom_Dean » 13 February 2021, 22:52

So, I wouldn't say i'm gay in the sense I don't find men attractive. I don't walk down the street and notice a guy and think "woah, he's sexy", I definitely do this women though...

But, I fucking love sex with men. I can't stop thinking about cock. I may not find men attractive in the way as above, but I've definitely found myself fantasising about certain guys fucking me senseless when they have that noticeable bulge in their tracksuit trousers 😏. I can't stop thinking about cock and the way it tastes and the way it feels as it gets hard. I love the feeling of a man using my hole until he's spent, and then telling me how much he enjoyed it. I've been with more men than women, but don't get me wrong, I cannot the resist the female form - it is the most beautiful thing in the world, but sex with men is what makes my heart and mind race and the orgasms are so much more intense.

But I'm not gay... am I? I've been struggling with this for years so please don't anyone come and tear me apart 😂

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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby René » 13 February 2021, 23:21

Don't worry too much about labels. Not everyone fits neatly into boxes. :)
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Derek » 14 February 2021, 00:21

99% of the questions I read are bizarre, rhetorical ones.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Magic J » 14 February 2021, 01:04

Bottom_Dean wrote:I can't stop thinking about cock.

Wow. That must be a real hindrance in your day to day life. I'm so sorry. :(

Anyway, I'll file you provisionally under the C. "Cocksexual" isn't formally recognised at the moment, and most certainly does not have a permanent seat on the Grand Council, but hang in there, you'll get your day in the sun. Or I could just put you under Q if you want? B maybe? Honestly, it doesn't even really matter, nobody checks your paperwork.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby OutsideIn » 14 February 2021, 03:26

Derek wrote:99% of the questions I read are bizarre, rhetorical fake ones.

Fixed it for you.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Magic J » 14 February 2021, 04:33

OutsideIn wrote:
Derek wrote:99% of the questions I read are bizarre, rhetorical fake ones.

Fixed it for you.

Like... Yeah. So many appear to be just horny posting. But I don't want to entirely dismiss them, because that'd be cruel, and what if they're genuine? So I just do some stupid shtick that's vaguely... "helpful" in a majorly oblique way. It gives me a laugh so I don't feel too much of a dupe if/when it turns out it's bogus. It's a defence mechanism against bullshit, really. I've just been bullshitted too bad, and now I'm completely unable to speak with any sincerity. It's irony all the way down. Sad times. :(

Anyway, sorry OP, ignore my above meta-commenting. We is here to aid you in your genuine enquiries. Someone get Eryx, he's good at this stuff.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Derek » 14 February 2021, 05:44

You don't strike me as an especially ironic person. When I read my own posts, the voice I use in my head is so sarcastic and awful that I want to punch myself.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Magic J » 14 February 2021, 06:24

Derek wrote:You don't strike me as an especially ironic person. When I read my own posts, the voice I use in my head is so sarcastic and awful that I want to punch myself.

There is hope for me yet, Inshallah.

Please don't punch yourself. We need your powerful causticity. Otherwise, this place might turn into a love in, and that'd be horrible.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 14 February 2021, 07:38

I don’t want to encroach on Brenden’s long-held position as keeper of the dictionary, but I’m not convinced you know what “sexy” means.

The clue is that three quarters of its letters spell sex. When you look at someone and think to yourself that you’d quite enjoy it if they could spare a short while to throw you on the floor and dick you down, you do kinda have to concede that you find them sexy. You’ve trapped yourself in a corner.

This court rejects your defence that you don’t find men attractive.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Bottom_Dean » 14 February 2021, 12:08

Anyone speculating, the post is genuine. as are my questions. Not fake or rhetorical. It's a genuine struggle that I don't understand.

Why does the idea of a relationship with a man do absolutely nothing for me, but the sex is something I can't get enough of?
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Bottom_Dean » 14 February 2021, 12:09

OutsideIn wrote:
Derek wrote:99% of the questions I read are bizarre, rhetorical fake ones.

Fixed it for you.


You didn't fix anything. You just made yourself look a judgemental fool.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 14 February 2021, 12:16

Bottom_Dean wrote:Anyone speculating, the post is genuine. as are my questions. Not fake or rhetorical. It's a genuine struggle that I don't understand.

Why does the idea of a relationship with a man do absolutely nothing for me, but the sex is something I can't get enough of?

Don’t conflate sexual attraction with the desire to get married. They’re often two separate things. Lots of people - gay, bi and straight - have desires relating to romantic relationships that are at odds with their sexual desires.

Why is it you want or need to label where you are in the spectrum? What difference will it make?
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby René » 14 February 2021, 12:29

If you would find it helpful to call yourself something, you could be homosexual (or bisexual leaning toward homosexual) and heteroromantic. You wouldn't be the first.

If you feel that sex with men is necessary for you to feel fulfilled in life, you may find happiness e.g. in an open relationship with a woman or in a triad together with another man and a woman.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby Derek » 14 February 2021, 18:39

Bottom_Dean wrote:
OutsideIn wrote:
Derek wrote:99% of the questions I read are bizarre, rhetorical fake ones.

Fixed it for you.


You didn't fix anything. You just made yourself look a judgemental fool.

Ooooooohh
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby rogonandi » 14 February 2021, 19:07

You...are bi.... :cool:
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby OutsideIn » 14 February 2021, 21:16

Bottom_Dean wrote:You didn't fix anything. You just made yourself look a judgemental fool.

You forgot to include "old" and "cranky." If you are going to come at me, at least put in the effort.

I have earned the right to exercise judgment about these topics. I have been involved in the online gay community since you were probably still in grade school (assuming your stated age is accurate). I even spent time as a paid moderator for one of the most popular online gay forums at the time. I learned to spot trolls and fakes. I even had backend access to see that some of time the posts were coming from the same IP address. Why some people get their entertainment from trolling has always escaped me. It is not like lying or instigating online while hiding behind a fake profile is the least bit challenging. It's seems a rather pathetic way to spend one's time.

One clue was that the posts would be filled with needlessly sexually explicit descriptions. That is not how people who are struggling with their identity or sexuality typically describe their situation. That is usually how young kids who have just discovered "naughty" words speak because it thrills them for some reason. (And I am not against explicit discussions. If you want tips for giving a better rim job, go for it.)

But let us say that you really are questioning your sexual orientation. A simple Google search for am I gay will return "About 1,800,000,000 results." Even Google can't calculate the number of pages dedicated to this topic. If you are truly interested in figuring yourself out, then there are endless resources to help you. No one place has all the answers, and no one can tell you what you really are. Only you can determine that for yourself.
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby René » 14 February 2021, 22:15

OutsideIn wrote:A simple Google search for am I gay will return "About 1,800,000,000 results." Even Google can't calculate the number of pages dedicated to this topic.

To be fair, that is an utter lie on Google's part, presumably designed to make their search results look more impressive.

Try scrolling down, seeing how many pages there are, and going to the last one. Suddenly (with results per page set to 100), it's:
Google wrote:Page 2 of about 168 results
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby OutsideIn » 14 February 2021, 23:13

René wrote:
OutsideIn wrote:A simple Google search for am I gay will return "About 1,800,000,000 results." Even Google can't calculate the number of pages dedicated to this topic.

To be fair, that is an utter lie on Google's part, presumably designed to make their search results look more impressive.

Try scrolling down, seeing how many pages there are, and going to the last one. Suddenly (with results per page set to 100), it's:
Google wrote:Page 2 of about 168 results

No one goes past the first page anyway. :lol:
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Re: Am I gay?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 15 February 2021, 18:38

I think there are several ways to answer this question, if one thought about the old ages' meaning of the term 'gay', it could have said you're kind of warmly sugar happy and walk around partially dancing in super funny clothes throughout most of the day, producing a kind weird creepy smile at passers-by once in a while. At least that is somewhat equivalent to the German translation, and they did not translate all that close back in them auld days.

Although I think you're some expression of what is called bisexual that would combine ferouciously cock-o-phile to women-based an aesthetical admirer, sort of.
So I don't know, have you ever come to terms with shemales so far?
If they so were your perfect combination of both sexes features, you could be pansexual, too.

Not so certain any longer, if that was somehow gay, too. Since some recent folks said, that gay was not the same as homosexual, and some homosexuals even were not gay at all.
They told me I wasn't, since I'm not an activist. :|

These days everything seems possible, so of you're a woman in your mind, the interests in women's beauty could render you partially lesbian. If that may suit your needs, the cock-o-phile part could be your heterosexual desire of a partially lesbian episode of the bisexual gay ... uhm ...and that would be how a psycholoLOLogist would put it in one of their delusive, mostly Pink, Mint or Liloc cover books. :gay:

Maybe you're just different. That would be the closest guess at deep simplicity. :keke:

Bottom_Dean wrote:Why does the idea of a relationship with a man do absolutely nothing for me, but the sex is something I can't get enough of?


On this, you're a-romantic toward men. It means you don't fall in love to one, everything is sole sexual attraction.
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