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As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby lar9149 » 3 February 2016, 17:30

Hi all,

I had meet this guy recently and well we decided to have sex. I am generally a bottom and him generally a top. Well his penis is bigger than others I have encountered in the past so I was a little intimidated. Plus, I haven't had sex with a guy for a long time...more than a year. When he first pentetrated me, it did hurt quite a bit and continue to hurt. Than after that he had me ride him and I got to go at my own pace. After a while, it started to feel good. Than he penetrated me from behind and it quite enjoyable and well...the rest is history...

So my question is maybe its better as a bottom at least, to start off riding a guy initially especially in my situation where the guy has a large penis and you haven't done in a while?
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 3 February 2016, 17:41

It would appear that, for you, the evidence points to yes.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby jasegoodguy » 3 February 2016, 17:52

not necessarily. It's harder for the muscles to relax when you're in that position. I say try it and see.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 3 February 2016, 18:03

jasegoodguy wrote:not necessarily. It's harder for the muscles to relax when you're in that position. I say try it and see.

He did try it, he has seen.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby jasegoodguy » 3 February 2016, 18:07

Well his post kinda confused me. It seems that he already had the answer to his question before he even asked it here.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby lar9149 » 3 February 2016, 19:11

you are both kinda of right...is it possible that I felt more comfortable because my body got used it after some time and had no relation to riding the guy. So eventhrough I experienced it I don't know the cause...I suppose next time i will try riding the guy right away.

I was just checking if others had experiences similar to what I had or have others actually found it less comfortable riding the guy?
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby CrownedClown » 3 February 2016, 20:09

I hate being on top, as a bottom.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby c1ask0 » 3 February 2016, 22:05

I think it can be easier to ride on top because it gives you more control, but the position itself might not necessarily be more comfortable.

I think often it comes down to the individual. If you find a situation to be arousing then that can help you to enjoy any position more.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 4 February 2016, 20:25

CrownedClown wrote:I hate being on top, as a bottom.
I love it, the "bottom" gets to be dominant for once, it's so oxymoronic.

Also regarding that sex position, bottom on top, this is where I hate the gay terms "top" and "bottom". It's just so confusing when there are sex positions where the "bottom" is on top or neither are on top.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 4 February 2016, 21:09

Yeauxleaux wrote:
CrownedClown wrote:I hate being on top, as a bottom.

I love it, the "bottom" gets to be dominant for once, it's so oxymoronic.

Nothing beats doggy though. It's just such an animalistic, degrading position. And you get to see the bottom's beautiful ass and taint in all its glory. :drool:
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 5 February 2016, 02:21

poolerboy0077 wrote:
Yeauxleaux wrote:
CrownedClown wrote:I hate being on top, as a bottom.

I love it, the "bottom" gets to be dominant for once, it's so oxymoronic.

Nothing beats doggy though. It's just such an animalistic, degrading position. And you get to see the bottom's beautiful ass and taint in all its glory. :drool:
I usually (by "usually" I mean almost always) bottom but I'm a fan of doggy style. I like some abuse in the bedroom.

I guess "bottom on top" position is for when I'm in a more dominant mood (which also happens)
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Descuff » 5 February 2016, 03:53

I always have a harder time riding first so that's a no from me.
I wonder how many people know this is down here
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Angelic Haze » 5 February 2016, 04:10

Through personal experience I've found that I could never put it in when I'm on top. I basically always start in doggy. Maybe I was doing it wrong but it just wasn't happening
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby Reddirthiker » 31 March 2016, 00:53

I like to drive when I am topping and like to be driven when I am the bottem

It is awkward for a man to ride, the shape of a man makes it forced and clumsy.

I like it when women ride
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby CrownedClown » 4 March 2021, 13:48

Yeauxleaux wrote:
CrownedClown wrote:I hate being on top, as a bottom.
I love it, the "bottom" gets to be dominant for once, it's so oxymoronic.

Also regarding that sex position, bottom on top, this is where I hate the gay terms "top" and "bottom". It's just so confusing when there are sex positions where the "bottom" is on top or neither are on top.
I resent the assumption that you have to be physically on top of them as a bottom to be in control.

poolerboy0077 wrote:
Yeauxleaux wrote:
CrownedClown wrote:I hate being on top, as a bottom.

I love it, the "bottom" gets to be dominant for once, it's so oxymoronic.

Nothing beats doggy though. It's just such an animalistic, degrading position. And you get to see the bottom's beautiful ass and taint in all its glory. :drool:
Pooler gets it. The degradation side of things just adds a little spice.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby lufia » 21 April 2021, 17:57

I like to start off on top. I find it easier to relax that way, then I like to switch to missionary. I like to kiss and look in my man's eyes while he is inside me. I hate doggystyle. It's so impersonal.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby glückspilz » 22 April 2021, 05:23

Yeauxleaux wrote:Also regarding that sex position, bottom on top, this is where I hate the gay terms "top" and "bottom". It's just so confusing when there are sex positions where the "bottom" is on top or neither are on top.


That's why in German it's common to use "active" for the one who' inserts his dick and "passive" for the receiving one.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby DY4real » 3 May 2021, 19:17

Yes I have been in that situation and I told him let me get on top so I can get use to him 1st before I bend over for him. He was very thick and a solid 8inches. But once I open up for him he bent me over and that was amazing. I cam before he did so I got to just arch up and enjoy his big oh dick
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby AshleyTheBottom » 6 May 2021, 23:03

I don't like the very idea of being on top, ever. I've been very fortunate to be with men who are professionals at making sex practically painless and prepared me very well. I'm not attracted to ever being in a dominant position. It's just not my thing personally. I like being dominated, overpowered and told what to do in and out of bed. It just doesn't feel right to be in any control. People have their own thoughts on it and that's mine. I get relaxed for anal very easy. The first few times was definitely painful a little bit, and it took some getting used to but I've never had problems getting primed for it. As soon as I feel my man behind me kissing my neck and ears and feeling his thick mustache on my body, I'm instantly ready to have his huge meat in my mouth and ass.
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Re: As a bottom is it better to ride the guy first?

Unread postby rogonandi » Yesterday, 18:33

Well with riding it the bottom gets most of the control over depth and speed of how the top’s dick goes into them. It can be a good way to start out, but personally I think it feels better when you’re either getting railed from behind or if you’re on your back. The dick ends up hitting the prostate more often. :shrug:
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