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Unread postby Stroker54 » 7 June 2019, 18:46

I've only bottomed once in my life, over 40 years ago, so why is that experience so vivid in my memories? I topped one buddy twenty years ago and while it was interesting, it didn't ring my bell, maybe because it was part of a MFM threesome. I've had many experiences with ass play with women both giving and receiving and I found that to be very erotic. But bottoming for a male partner seems to be the itch I'd love to scratch. Why is that? Forbidden fruit?
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby Eryx » 7 June 2019, 19:02

There's nothing special about it. It's just one of your personal sexual kinks. There are millions (if not billions) of people who have the same itch to get off.
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby ShutUpAndBeHappy » 7 June 2019, 22:27

Perhaps the idea that it's with a man makes it all the more pleasurable? Anal is very much about where you are, mentally.
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby Stroker54 » 8 June 2019, 01:42

ShutUpAndBeHappy wrote:Perhaps the idea that it's with a man makes it all the more pleasurable? Anal is very much about where you are, mentally.


I think you are correct on the "mental" aspect. My one time topping experience wasn't really any different than being with a woman. Again it was a MFM situation so my attention was being divided. Whereas my bottoming experience with a man was about giving up control. Letting someone else set the pace, control the depth, it was very liberating. Being pegged by a woman is similar but not quite the same. In most cases they were just getting off on the power exchange and making me beg for more.

But with the man, I could watch and feel his excitement building, I knew when I'd bare down on his outward stroke, it was pushing him over the edge. My ass was pleasuring him as much as his dick pleased me. Like I said, it was only the one time but it was memorable. Ahh, the forbidden fruit! Shortly after my walk on the wild side, the AIDS epidemic starting making the headlines and thus ended my self discovery with the exception of the ménage de trios some 20 years later. Kinda sad being Bi and not being able to experience the wild side.
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby ShutUpAndBeHappy » 8 June 2019, 01:50

Stroker54 wrote:
ShutUpAndBeHappy wrote:Perhaps the idea that it's with a man makes it all the more pleasurable? Anal is very much about where you are, mentally.


I think you are correct on the "mental" aspect. My one time topping experience wasn't really any different than being with a woman. Again it was a MFM situation so my attention was being divided. Whereas my bottoming experience with a man was about giving up control. Letting someone else set the pace, control the depth, it was very liberating. Being pegged by a woman is similar but not quite the same. In most cases they were just getting off on the power exchange and making me beg for more.

But with the man, I could watch and feel his excitement building, I knew when I'd bare down on his outward stroke, it was pushing him over the edge. My ass was pleasuring him as much as his dick pleased me. Like I said, it was only the one time but it was memorable. Ahh, the forbidden fruit! Shortly after my walk on the wild side, the AIDS epidemic starting making the headlines and thus ended my self discovery with the exception of the ménage de trios some 20 years later. Kinda sad being Bi and not being able to experience the wild side.


I agree, there's nothing like it!

Have you considered going on prep, to prevent HIV infection? If that's why you can't take it in the ass, I mean.
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby Stroker54 » 8 June 2019, 02:04

I agree, there's nothing like it!

Have you considered going on prep, to prevent HIV infection? If that's why you can't take it in the ass, I mean.


No the issues is no longer the fear of HIV, tho it will always be a valid concern, the problem is I'm in a vanilla marriage and kept on a really short leash. When you are both retired, it is really hard to get "me" time. But keep the eyes open and who knows an opportunity just might present itself. Ain't dead yet!
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Unread postby Jryski » 8 June 2019, 02:37

Stroker54 wrote:
I agree, there's nothing like it!

Have you considered going on prep, to prevent HIV infection? If that's why you can't take it in the ass, I mean.


No the issues is no longer the fear of HIV, tho it will always be a valid concern, the problem is I'm in a vanilla marriage and kept on a really short leash. When you are both retired, it is really hard to get "me" time. But keep the eyes open and who knows an opportunity just might present itself. Ain't dead yet!

Hahaha that's the spirit! :D
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby uncut7in » 9 June 2019, 14:24

As a total top I don't like a guy to play with my ass, except using his tongue on my asshole which I do find pleasurable. I do enjoy using my lubed fingers on a guy's asshole before I mount him.
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby Stroker54 » 28 June 2019, 14:19

uncut7in wrote:As a total top I don't like a guy to play with my ass, except using his tongue on my asshole which I do find pleasurable. I do enjoy using my lubed fingers on a guy's asshole before I mount him.

I can understand not enjoying receiving anal stimulation. It is differently one of the things that you either enjoy, learn to enjoy or just don't care for. Topping is fine, it is enjoyable to give another pleasure, plus the mental "dominance factor" over the bottom can be a huge turn on for the top. Having experienced briefly both situations, I'm just amazed at how strong the memory of bottoming was and the desire to experience it again. Forbidden fruit?
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 2 July 2019, 18:44

I never saw dominance as something that made being a top such a turn on. What I see the big mental turn on is that the bottom man trusts ME with such an intimate connection. Society typically sees a male being penetrated anally as physically dirty, disease prone, rectal damaging prone, emasculating, etc. So if a man lets you inside him, I always saw that as such an act of trust. I'm not talking about someone who wants to surrender his masculinity because he desires to be a sissy, etc. I'm talking about just a regular guy who has everything to loose, yet freely CHOOSES to have me inside him. There is no stronger ego boost than another man's trust with something so intimate.

I would be naive to say there isn't an element of dominance, but in all reality unless the top is a jerk, it is really the bottom who is in control. What top wouldn't want a repeat performance with the guy if he is a likable, desirable man. Will he let you fuck him again, if you abuse his ass or don't pay attention to his comfort? Sure when you get close to orgasm it is hard to stop, but I would always stop if the bottom was not comfortable. I could also not imagine ever forcing someone against his will. Anybody can (well most likely mentally in need of a shrink or meds) could force a guy at gunpoint, knife, etc to bend over. Yet, what thrill is there in making someone do what they don't want to do? Wouldn't you rather have a guy say, you were a good top, and I would like a repeat performance some day?

I've also found that if you treat a man who has given you his ass with the utmost care and respect, he will open up more than just his ass. He will tend to be willing to bare his inner most thoughts to you. Make him want to be penetrated by lots of foreplay before hand -- not just put it in and pump. Be close to his body after your done so that he doesn't feel like you used him. If he is open to hugging, kissing, sleeping with you, give him all those things. In other words, be a gentleman not just a prick, and you may have someone who wants repeat performances. The world would be a much happier place if there were more men who enjoyed bottoming. Few men would enjoy being on bottom if they are just used and discarded, rather than cherished. Fucking a man is a privileged not a right, and the more you let him know how honored you are, the more likely you are that he will want you back inside again.
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Re: Ass play

Unread postby Stroker54 » 11 August 2019, 15:04

Well after a 42 year absence I finally bottomed again! It was fun but after 42 years of thinking about it, it was a bit of a let down, hard to top your own imagination. I was lucky in that my partner was patient, normally endowed and he has great control. We had about an hour together and in that time we tried 5 different positions. We finished off in the classic missionary position and when I started grinding into him he finally blew his load.

I managed to make it all about my ass so I didn't cum. Which is what I wanted, I didn't want anything to distract me from what I was feeling. It was pretty cool being on the receiving end after all these years of hetrosexual topping. I'm not sure if I'll make this a regular hook up or just a one time deal, but I'm sure glad I experienced bottoming again.
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