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Unread postby Jameswell18 » 4 September 2022, 09:56

Hi all

I am 22 and recently lost my virginity with my current partner (I had known him for about 3/4 weeks at the point we had sex for the first time). Although I was quite stressed, and have been for 22 years (!) about bottoming, my first time went well; there was no dirt, it did not hurt too much and he enjoyed it. However, I was unable to cum and did not really get any pleasure from the experience. This problem has persisted each time we have had sex since (probably about 4/5 times). When I have previously played with my butt, I have always got so much pleasure from it and have came very quickly, so I was very surprised this was not the case when I bottomed with my partner.

It is probably worth mentioning that when I have had sexual partners in the past, I have not been able to cum either, but I have mostly put this down to being drunk and not that into it.

I do have a form of performance anxiety (mainly when urinating in public) which I have sought therapy for. I mention this because I fear my inability to ejaculate could be another symptom of this anxiety.

Does anybody have any tips, or has anyone else experience a similar problem?

I am worried that if this problem persists it is going to ruin my relationship with my partner.

Thanks in advance.
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Re: Bottom unable to cum during sex

Unread postby asianduck888 » 5 September 2022, 14:21

well, I never did anal sex. did you wanking your cock during anal? I don't know if getting anal could make you cum without wanking that what I see from Porn, maybe people here have experience on it. for me I need to wanking to make me cum, can you cum when you wanking?
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Re: Bottom unable to cum during sex

Unread postby StraightGuy95 » 9 September 2022, 01:43

That's normal if you're bottoming. Most bottoms stay soft. Before I started fucking bottoms, I watched gay porn and none of the 50 or so videos I saw did the bottom cum and they were almost always soft. None of the bottoms I fucked came either and they didn't seem to care at all. They were soft. No complaints.
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Re: Bottom unable to cum during sex

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 9 September 2022, 08:08

Same as before.
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Re: Bottom unable to cum during sex

Unread postby weplenty » 15 September 2022, 20:21

Jameswell18 wrote:Hi all

I am 22 and recently lost my virginity with my current partner (I had known him for about 3/4 weeks at the point we had sex for the first time). Although I was quite stressed, and have been for 22 years (!) about bottoming, my first time went well; there was no dirt, it did not hurt too much and he enjoyed it. However, I was unable to cum and did not really get any pleasure from the experience. This problem has persisted each time we have had sex since (probably about 4/5 times). When I have previously played with my butt, I have always got so much pleasure from it and have came very quickly, so I was very surprised this was not the case when I bottomed with my partner.

It is probably worth mentioning that when I have had sexual partners in the past, I have not been able to cum either, but I have mostly put this down to being drunk and not that into it.

I do have a form of performance anxiety (mainly when urinating in public) which I have sought therapy for. I mention this because I fear my inability to ejaculate could be another symptom of this anxiety.

Does anybody have any tips, or has anyone else experience a similar problem?

I am worried that if this problem persists it is going to ruin my relationship with my partner.

Thanks in advance.


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