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Came out as gay, but I might be bisexual?

Unread postby FlagRise » 4 January 2019, 17:51

Hello, this is my first post. I'll try to make the long story short. I came out as gay at my 22 years of age (5 years ago) and it was relieving as I never felt any sexual attraction for a girl and all I watched was gay porn.

However, something weird has been happening to me these past 12 months. Now, all I watch is straight porn, and I decided once to have sexual intercourse with one of my friends and I was very turned on. However, I find it rare because it doesn't happen much. Like, I don't see a woman on the street and think sexually about her. In truth, I don't see myself with a woman emotionally, with kids or in a relationship - at all. It doesn't appeal to me. I'm not going to say "Wow this girl is hot" because I really don't see girls that way. But for some reason, out of nowhere after years I wish to do it sexually with random ones, which to me is bizarre.

I'm a very open individual, however, I've pretty much come out as gay to everyone, after years of saying I was straight - and a lot of people around me would be so happy for me to say I like women, it almost seems as it would be joyful for them, something they can say "A friend of mine used to be gay and now he likes ALSO girls...".

I'm so confused. Emotionally a bit lost. What's everyone's recommendation for my dilemma? Should I just keep this my business, I mean if it's sexual no big deal to speak about it, right? However, I'm still completely confused as to how after 26 years randomly now I'm getting this urges. Doesn't seem right.
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Re: Came out as gay, but I might be bisexual?

Unread postby lightnight » 4 January 2019, 18:04

You don't have to come out as bisexual to anyone until you really feel like it.

Most people are straight and think of sexuality in terms of 'straight vs non straight' anyway, so it's okay if you're bisexual but mostly gay. You're still in the LGBT+ crowd.

If you do feel like coming out to the people in your circle, go ahead. You should tell them that sexuality is a spectrum anyway and you've just discovered that you lean towards bisexuality on it.
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Re: Came out as gay, but I might be bisexual?

Unread postby xrayspex78 » 4 January 2019, 18:11

No matter what you decide be yourself. Never live for what others want you to be.
“I got no trophies on display
I sign them away
I mean what the heck”

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Re: Came out as gay, but I might be bisexual?

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 14 January 2019, 21:03

I can relate to this as well and how confusing it can be, although my situation might be a bit different from yours in that I have not come out as gay or bisexual and that I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend before either, although have had sex with a guy before.

It's mostly men I am attracted to, and I am only a bit attracted to woman. With men I can get turned on with them immediately, but with woman I usually have to think about it a bit first, although I am sure if I was having sex with a woman I'd be turned on.

I sometimes like watching straight porn as well although it's not what I usually go for when looking at porn. In straight porn though it is still always the guy I am interested in. I like watching the guy have sex with the girl and I can emphasize with how good it must feel for him, how excited and turned on he is.

I've considered that I am not really attracted to woman at all, I am just attracted to the idea of having sex with them, because that would make me feel manly/masculine/like a straight guy. I think this is hugely problematic though because I don't want to objectify woman.

But then on the other hand I do also feel that having sex with woman would be enjoyable, and that if I got into a really good friendship with a woman who I had a lot in common with then I could develop romantic and sexual feelings towards her. In that circumstance I am not sure if it could work out though because I might still want to have sex with men, although if I had a really good relationship with a woman it would be stupid to give that up just to have sex with men.

I've decided that its men I am mostly interested in and that it is men that I will probably go to first, but that if I did meet a woman I liked then that would be ok too. Not really sure what that makes me.
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Re: Came out as gay, but I might be bisexual?

Unread postby Vertical » 20 January 2019, 18:32

Time 1
Son: I want to eat vanilla ice cream!
Father: Only vanilla ice cream?

Time 2
Son: I want to copulate with girls!
Father: Only with girls? Make sure that you don’t impregnate them.

Time 3
Son: I don’t want to copulate with girls! I want to copulate with boys!
Father: Already tired of girls? Anyway, always practise safer sex.

Time 4
Son: I want to copulate with boys and girls!
Father: Great!

Time 5
Son: I want to copulate with MILFs!
Father: Great, they can teach you a lot. Like doing your homework.

Time 6
Son: Which sexual label should I choose?
Father: If you are restricted to a single label choose the label that your sexual target group in question demands. If people are just nosy grab the most provocative label and broaden their horizons.
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