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Unread postby Kevkev » 24 June 2020, 05:21

Heey, i am kevin 19 years old and i am wondering if you could help me.

So a 14 years old boy is always talking about my underwear and that i look sexy in them and that stuff...he does this since he is 9, now last time i sae him he got a phone and asked my number so i gave it him. Since that moment he is asking if he is allowed to tought my underwear and if he can look at my underwear drawer...i have no idea what to say to him.
He even askes if i want a boxer from him to keep, i just said yes to make him happy(he is like my little brother but from another family)...

What schould i do? Make him happy and show my boxers or just let him ask all day long? Pls gimme some advice
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Re: can i ask for your suggestions?

Unread postby René » 24 June 2020, 05:57

Hang on, he's been saying you look sexy in your underwear since he was 9 years old??
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Unread postby ThatNomad » 24 June 2020, 11:55

You seriously need to have an honest discussion with him about being inappropriate. That's what you need to do. Don't show him anything, don't give him anything, sit him down and let him know that he's making you uncomfortable, and that he needs to be focusing on people closer to his own age. I don't know what the laws are where you are but it sounds incredibly sketchy, and even dangerous to take any other route, not to mention how creepy the entire situation is...
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Unread postby Unkdesigns » 24 June 2020, 13:06

I COMPLETELY agree with ThatNomad.
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Unread postby Kevkev » 24 June 2020, 15:08

@rene...yes since he is 9, he allways tries to pull my pants down a bit to see my boxers, he is in his any time
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Unread postby ThatNomad » 24 June 2020, 15:27

That's just a no. That's incredibly concerning behavior. I would be exceedingly worried about that persons safety as they continue to grow. They are likely already engaged in far more high risk activities. I'd suggest possibly even discussing it with their legal guardians at this point, if you know doing so wouldn't cause him potential harm, (i.e. from homophobic parents). I understand that's a very sensitive topic to some, but someone's safety, hell their life, could be at risk with behavior like that. If he is doing that to you who's to say that he isn't doing even more with more willing participants, some of whom would could very well be predators who don't care about his age.
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Unread postby René » 25 June 2020, 02:08

Does the kid possibly have some kind of developmental disability? Normal kids develop some level of social awareness by the age of 14 that tells them this stuff is wildly inappropriate.
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Unread postby Jryski » 12 September 2020, 16:22

I’m very concerned about the inappropriate and predatory behavior that seems to surround you. What is going on over there? :/
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Unread postby Stephen68 » 12 September 2020, 16:37

First your father is taking your boxers now a kid want them what next
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