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Unread postby Snowflake » 11 May 2019, 09:24

I am 19 year old male and I have sex with guys from time to time. I am quite experinced, however I never had an ejaculation during sex. Whether I am bottom or top, whether its oral sex or intense masturbation, given by a guy, really trying to get some juice out of me I simply cant. I can easily cum during masturbation when I am alone, watching porn or hentai, but even if I try to pleasure myself during sex I wont ejaculate no matter what :nono: . I dont think its nerviousness or anything, because I feel really comfortable when I have sex with the guys I choose for this purpose. This is becoming a problem and really puts pressure on me. I think it is somehow related to how I percieve what is happening during sex. Maybe I simply dont see a point in having sex? but I enjoy it quite much. :werd:

Yesterday a guy was stroking my dick for ten minuts after doing a rimmjob, sucking my balls and doing everything for me to relax and really feel it all. There was pre-cum, but every time that I might be close to ejaculation it these feeling stop, though my boner keeps all of its 17 centimeters standing up tall during the sex, especially during stroking. I am desperate. They say I am cute :hug: , quite attractive and do have a large and beatiful penis and my inability to cum is the only thing that disappoints them about me. How could I help it? I need an advice.. :bowdown:
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby Jryski » 11 May 2019, 09:37

Honestly if you enjoy it and it feels great it doesnt matter if you can ejaculate from getting anal or you topping. You can always finish yourself off or have them give you a helping hand. But if it really bothers you, then you'll just have to jerk off in a different way that's more realistic to the actual sex act. Sometimes our bodies get so used to masturbation that anything else simply wont work. You can always train your body to accept a different kind of release method but it takes time. Don't feel bad about yourself, those guys are just assholes. If they really wont accept you just because of that, come find me. I'll take ya! :P
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby Softheart » 11 May 2019, 15:46

Two things... are you experiencing orgasm with no output, you may have "retrograde ejaculation", where the cum goes up into the bladder.

It may or may not be serious.
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby Stephen68 » 15 May 2019, 00:48

Perhaps it's the pressure you are putting yourself under it took me a while to finally relax and enjoy another guy making me ejaculate
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby UndercoverLover » 17 May 2019, 14:58

I always get so close to cumming as a bottom, but even though I don't (or haven't yet) it still feels absolutely amazing. I was really close one time when a guy was fucking me and I was getting my cock sucked by another guy while I was getting fucked. The guy fucking me came too fast and stopped but I can only imagine how it would have felt if they kept going and I came. As someone else said, if it feels good that's all that counts.
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby xeil » 19 May 2019, 11:58

You might be stressed, and thinking about not being able to ejaculate would only add to your stress. So if you are having pleasure, try just to live the moment and not worrying about the outcome. Sometimes I don't come either, but I still have pleasure. It's not a bucket list, don't focus on the "goal", just try to live it :P
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby uncut7in » 26 May 2019, 15:07

Some guys equate succesful sex as an orgasm with spunk flying everwhere. Like you I often don't ejaculate when I have an orgasm through being sucked or fucking or being masturbated. OK I'm no longer young but I never did cum all that much. I do cum a little if I masturbate myself to climax.

I have stopped worrying about it too much, as long as I've had a pleasurable oral and/or anal session.
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Re: Cant ejaculate during sexual act

Unread postby shyseed » 16 June 2019, 18:07

stress and depression are the cause when i cant nut maybe it could be a case for you dude ?
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