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Unread postby stuartmc » 21 June 2019, 18:08

Hello you all,

When I was 2 years old my parents moved to the US.

I was born in Europe, and I was not circumcized, it's not very usual to do so over there.

In high school I got nervous over being different. In my high school wrestling team I got remarks in the locker room.

My first boyfriend was 5 years older than me and he talked me into getting circumcized, that was at the age of 19, two years ago.

I was kinda naive in that, I had no clue, but he basically explained to me that many hot guys in porn online are all circumcized in a certain way, he called that tight and high. He even paid for the procedure.

But literally in the week after it happened, he broke up with me.

I felt really stupid about this all, but there is no way back now.

Can anyone tell me about that 'high and tight' result? Like is it normal for young guys to be like that, or is this actually pretty unusual? It looks kinda extreme, not only when I'm naked but it's also quite clearly visible when I wear my wrestling gear. I wonder whether it's actually more of a fetish thing, this extreme look, or whether it's really common. I think my ex-boyfriend knew.
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby Iamjava » 21 June 2019, 18:14

damn my ignorance of sex culture! im not sure what 'high and tight' refers to, but about the same time as you i had the procedure done because my foreskin was too tight. so i can relate to that ;)
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby Eryx » 21 June 2019, 18:22

Circumcision is not normal outside of the USA, I think you were wrongfully led to do something that was absolutely unnecessary. Unless the foreskin can't be fully stretched to reveal the head, there's nothing wrong. If it can't stretch all the way due to being too tight, then circumcision or treatment to widen the foreskin are recommended so that hygiene issues don't arise and so that you don't get hurt during sex.

It's done now and you can't go back, so I suggest in the future, you should look into things for yourself before believing in what other people tell you, ESPECIALLY in cases that involve changing your body in irreversible ways.

Only Americans circumcise children before they can consent, and it's an aberration.

Your life won't change too much anyway. And if you prefer the way it looks now, then all the best to you.
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Unread postby Jryski » 21 June 2019, 19:44

What does high and tight mean?
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Unread postby stuartmc » 21 June 2019, 19:48

Well, I didn't know either, glad to see it's not so common to know it

At some point I did some researcher. High and tight means basically this. Tight refers to the point that quite a lot of skin is removed. So the penis head is exposed also when you're not hard, you cant really move the skin around the shaft. And when I'm hard you can really feel the remaining foreskin pull, I can't move the skin at all. High refers to something different, it's kinda difficult. But the effect is that you'll have the scar quite close to the body, and you clearly see the skin color difference, because 'inner skin' is exposed between the scar and the penis head.

Turns out it's the most 'visible' or prominent result, visually, it's not a 'subtle' change
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby Jryski » 22 June 2019, 01:15

Im so sorry you went through that. I hope you like the new change although what youre describing doesn't sound very pleasant. I think people should be able to keep their foreskins unless the skin absolutely has to be removed.
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby SteveIsNotMe » 22 June 2019, 03:40

As far as I know, circumcision is widely practice among Muslim, Jews, and some South-east Asian tribes. It's conducted for religious reason or cultural practice (rite of passage).

Religious & cultural reasons aside, what do you mean by, 'tight and high' and 'extreme look'?
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 22 June 2019, 13:00

http://www.gentlecircumcision.com/adult ... technique/

That link sorta helps explain the "high and tight" part. But keep in mind the link is for a clinic trying to offer adult circumcision.

Btw ignore the summer sale they have going on for teen circumcisions. :lol:

Circumcision is also practiced heavily in some south African countries as well.

@op. What do you mean it's visible through your wrestling gear?

On a side note. This thread had me looking at my own dick wayyy to much. :lol:
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby Jryski » 22 June 2019, 13:42

I think the visibility part is the coronal ridge being visible cuz with foreskin that is usually covered and not noticible.
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Unread postby Eos » 22 June 2019, 17:19

What's so terrible to be circumcized ? It may not bring anything good but it's not like it brings any problems ? Or am I wrong ?
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Unread postby Eryx » 23 June 2019, 05:51

They say it might desensitize the head, but from what I've heard, it's not really an issue. Then we arrive at a different question: if cutting part of your body off doesn't make any difference, why are you still going to do it? And even weirder: why are you going to do it to a baby?
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby lightnight » 24 June 2019, 19:50

In muslim cultures, circumcision is essential. Even the moderate or non-religious people I know have had it because their parents did it for them, without asking them.
But surprisingly enough, the majority of these non-religious people are really happy they got circumcised. We had a discussion on a facebook group one day. Many atheists or cultural muslims were also saying they think circumcised penises look less frumpy/gross and are cleaner looking.

Whereas the general sentiments here on GFO about circumcised penises are completely opposite. People are really not into the dry and scarred look. I guess it really comes down to culture.

Personally, I don't like that I was circumcised without my will (it was my body!) and the memory of being circumcised is still a strange one, but I love my cut penis regardless of how aesthetic or unaesthetic it looks. I mean, I put it through so much and it still works and makes me feel so good. I can't not be grateful for it.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 June 2019, 20:54

I harbor no prejudices again cut or un-cut. I like them both ways.

I do however agree, that cutting at one's body without any real need and that was not a personal choice made by that individual, the practice should be banned.
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby StanJ » 29 June 2019, 14:47

Victor_Laszlo wrote:http://www.gentlecircumcision.com/adult ... technique/

That link sorta helps explain the "high and tight" part. But keep in mind the link is for a clinic trying to offer adult circumcision.

Btw ignore the summer sale they have going on for teen circumcisions. :lol:

Circumcision is also practiced heavily in some south African countries as well.

@op. What do you mean it's visible through your wrestling gear?

On a side note. This thread had me looking at my own dick wayyy to much. :lol:


I can't believe that this topic - in a gay forum - raises so many questions. I'm a (closeted) wrestler myself and I suppose it should be pretty obvious that wrestling singlets don't leave much to the imagination. Go check tumblr, loads of threads with pictures. Like manys) (American guys I was cut when I was just borne, I'm used to it AND totally happy with it. I guess you can call it tight, yes. Then the effect is that the penis head is very prominent when you wear lycra gear like a wrestling singlet. Stuartmc, I'm sure you boyfriend liked this (as many gay guys do). While the wrestling community is pretty homophobic, much of it is pretty homo-erotic I should admit, and I'm sure there a lot more (closeted) gays involved than just me (and you stuart?)
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Unread postby SteveIsNotMe » 29 June 2019, 15:12

Victor_Laszlo wrote:http://www.gentlecircumcision.com/adult ... technique/

That link sorta helps explain the "high and tight" part. But keep in mind the link is for a clinic trying to offer adult circumcision.

Btw ignore the summer sale they have going on for teen circumcisions. :lol:

Circumcision is also practiced heavily in some south African countries as well.

@op. What do you mean it's visible through your wrestling gear?

On a side note. This thread had me looking at my own dick wayyy to much. :lol:


Ha! Thanks for this link. LOL I've never knew that there are different kind of circumcisions.
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby PopTart » 29 June 2019, 15:28

If your concerned about appearance, either clothed or unclothed. Dont be.

Penises come in so many shapes, colours and varieties, that you cam be sure you own will not look out of place in a line up.

Sometimes, being able to see the well defined outline through a guys cloths, can be quit exciting and suggestive. So dont panic there.

As for loss of feeling or sensitivity, I cant really say, I was circumcised in childhood because my foreskin was too tight if I recall, my first few erections were such agony that I was rushed to the hospital as a result.

Being so young, I cant say I remember if the sensation was different after, from before.

I do know that some people suggest that sensitivity of the glands around the head, can become leas sensitive with time, due to friction and drying out of the glands.

For all I know, this is bs, but I heard it early enough, that I took to using a water based moisturiser on my penis, to ensure it remained in good condition, staying clean and keeping well washed down there helped with that.

How do you feel having had it done?
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Re: circumcized, what is normal?

Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 29 June 2019, 15:34

StanJ wrote:I'm a (closeted) wrestler myself and I suppose it should be pretty obvious that wrestling singlets don't leave much to the imagination. While the wrestling community is pretty homophobic, much of it is pretty homo-erotic I should admit, and I'm sure there a lot more (closeted) gays involved than just me (and you stuart?)


Sorry for being OT but, what's it like being a closeted wrestler? Doesn't it drive your hormones crazy to be throwing around fit muscular dudes, whilst your drenched in each others sweat and wearing nothing but boxing shorts or wrestling singlets?

I don't think I could keep composed. :P

StanJ wrote:Much of it is pretty homo-erotic I should admit,


I think some straight guys like showing of their body and expressing their masculinity or sex drive in the company of other straight guys, almost like they feed of each others hormones/masculinity. I am not sure why they do this, but I wish I could get in on it.
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Unread postby GaySpacePirateKing » 29 June 2019, 16:08

lightnight wrote:But surprisingly enough, the majority of these non-religious people are really happy they got circumcised. We had a discussion on a facebook group one day. Many atheists or cultural muslims were also saying they think circumcised penises look less frumpy/gross and are cleaner looking.


I think views like the penis being more attractive and cleaner circumcised are just ways for guys that were forced into being circumcised when it wasn't needed, to try and rationalise it. Otherwise they have to accept that an intimate part of their body was modified (mutilated really) for them without their consent. There is an internalized oppression thing going on I think, so in cultures where circumcision was forced upon you, it would make sense to end up not being against it, otherwise you outcast yourself by setting yourself against the dominant culture/religion/social group and practices of where you live.

In any case your likely to think that your own dick is attractive whether its a circumcised or uncircumcised dick.
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Unread postby PopTart » 29 June 2019, 20:42

GaySpacePirateKing wrote:
lightnight wrote:But surprisingly enough, the majority of these non-religious people are really happy they got circumcised. We had a discussion on a facebook group one day. Many atheists or cultural muslims were also saying they think circumcised penises look less frumpy/gross and are cleaner looking.


I think views like the penis being more attractive and cleaner circumcised are just ways for guys that were forced into being circumcised when it wasn't needed, to try and rationalise it. Otherwise they have to accept that an intimate part of their body was modified (mutilated really) for them without their consent. There is an internalized oppression thing going on I think, so in cultures where circumcision was forced upon you, it would make sense to end up not being against it, otherwise you outcast yourself by setting yourself against the dominant culture/religion/social group and practices of where you live.

In any case your likely to think that your own dick is attractive whether its a circumcised or uncircumcised dick.

I dunno about that, I've been with some guys, who clearly dont pull back their foreskin and wash, what has been residing under there has been enough to ask them to leave.

There is some truth to the saying, out of sight, out of mind.

I dont think snobbishness is needed by either the circumcised or uncircumcised amongst us, instead, perhaps we should leave derogatory opinions by the way side and celebrate our sexy bits, whatever cloak they don (or dont)
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