Coming out Is bUllshit

Soooo... I think being out is dumb. I came out to my dad tonight after we got waaay drunk tonight, he beat the fucking hell out of me. I think he is right though, THe world cant operate with a bunch of fags and i think my stupidity is over. I think even if you might be gay, you gotta be with a female and thats only acceptable answer. Seriously though, if you are gay NEVER come out. My right eye is like swollen shut and black, its gross.... i feel really ashamed, I'm like.. a super top type guy and I didn't want to hit my Dad, and I got thr worst of it. I'm so fucking ashamed of myself right now... I feel disgusting. My fucking life is ruined because Im stupid as fuck. Excuse typos, im drunk.

i think my stupidity is over.

Hehe..

I'm sorry that your dad is an ignorant asshole retard and I'm sorry that it rubbed off on you.

Yeah, your dad's a dick. I would've hit him back. Who you sleep with is none of his business. Also, you don't hit your kids. Ever. But, you know what, if you want to go online and advise other people not to come out because of your bad experience, you're equally as small-minded. I'm sorry your parents can't accept who you are, but fuck right off with your limited view of the world, and don't add to the negative influences many gay men have causing them to hide their sexuality. Move out, grow up and get over it.

baileyscheesecake wrote:Yeah, your dad's a dick. I would've hit him back. Who you sleep with is none of his business. Also, you don't hit your kids. Ever. But, you know what, if you want to go online and advise other people not to come out because of your bad experience, you're equally as small-minded. I'm sorry your parents can't accept who you are, but fuck right off with your limited view of the world, and don't add to the negative influences many gay men have causing them to hide their sexuality. Move out, grow up and get over it.

+1 Very well said.

Ugh, That's awful. I'm sorry you had to suffer that response from someone who is supposed to love you. But I hope when you sober up, you'll realize that you're not in the wrong; that he's the one who screwed up here. A father is supposed to love his son. What does it matter whom you happen to fall in love with or find attractive? You shouldn't have to take that shit from your dad. If I were you, I'd move out immediately. Go to New York, LA, San Francisco... even Atlanta if you cant leave the South; anywhere where you can be yourself without having to suffer others' bigotry, even your family's. I hope your dad apologizes in the morning, although I wouldn't count on it. Regardless, it's time to move out and make your own life choices.

If you need someone to talk to, you can always pm me.

You should've beat the living daylights out of him until he didn't get back up!!
I don't think you should keep calling him 'dad' anymore.

You went through an awful situation, your father is an ignorant, violent asshole that doesn't deserve life. You shouldn't be ashamed of yourself, you did the right thing(or rather: you didn't do anything wrong), the one that should be ashamed of himself is the lowlife of a father you have.

But that doesn't mean coming out is idiotic. You had an awful experience not because you came out, but because you came out to an ignorant jerk. HE is the one at fault, not you. Coming out is the only way for a largely invisible social minority to find peers and be themselves and as such important and can greatly improve one's life - given one isn't surrounded by people like your father.

I'd advise you to get help and to get far away from him and other people that have similar mindsets. You are an adult, use your freedoms! Your father didn't "just" hit you, he physically harmed you and you can and should sue him for that. Your father commited a hate crime on his own son.

Fuck, okay let me say this. I didn't mean coming out is stupid (even though I pretty much used those exact words). I meant MY coming out was stupid, I was pretty fucking wasted drunk when I typed this thread up.... like really, REALLY drunk. I support coming out if your father isn't an ignorant,violent psycho. I just thought since he was drunk it would lessen the blow. It didn't.

Hnngh, don't be a bitch. I didn't mean I'm "done being gay" (not like that is even possible). I meant I was done typing (clearly I wasn't).

Thanks for the kind words everyone and xyz72 I wont be putting a law suit on anyone. It wouldn't help my situation at all. Fucking hate the legal system....

Now if yall shall excuse me

What's the situation now?

I think the biggest mistake you made was getting drunk, which led to you coming out. I assume that you would not have done so if you hadn't been drunk since you hadn't done it already and the alcohol lowered your inhibitions. Alcohol is a stupid drug that makes people do stupid things.

When I came out I was fully embraced by my (Christian) family, but I only chose to do that after I had carefully determined that they are all genuinely sweet open-minded people who love me unconditionally.

Leave home forever! Did he really think that a bruise on your face will make you straight? I see that you're 24 and I assume that your father is at least 45 years old. How come he dares to beat you because of your very private life! You know what! Tell him that you might be gay because of him! Lack of fatherly love is a big reason of homosexuality. Tell him that!

Onur wrote:Leave home forever! Did he really think that a bruise on your face will make you straight? I see that you're 24 and I assume that your father is at least 45 years old. How come he dares to beat you because of your very private life! You know what! Tell him that you might be gay because of him! Lack of fatherly love is a big reason of homosexuality. Tell him that!

I wonder if his dad was drunk too. It would partly explain his inexcusable behaviour.

René wrote:

Onur wrote:Leave home forever! Did he really think that a bruise on your face will make you straight? I see that you're 24 and I assume that your father is at least 45 years old. How come he dares to beat you because of your very private life! You know what! Tell him that you might be gay because of him! Lack of fatherly love is a big reason of homosexuality. Tell him that!

I wonder if his dad was drunk too. It would partly explain his inexcusable behaviour.

Well, my father gets drunk more often than not. I never let him do any harm to me no matter how drunk he gets. He cannot even think about a bad joke let alone any insult or beating. Adam should've shown him that he was an adult with his own way of life. His father should definitely apologize. He should apologize for his unrespectful ideas and because he beat his own son.

The situation now is I have a nice dark black eye that I'm gonna have to explain when I get to work. I'm also very hung over. It shouldn't be to bad though, he is a step father and not even really with my mother anymore... shouldn't be to hard to cut him out of my life, he has just been around forever.

*sigh* I love my life...

At least my hangover will explain how drunk I was when I "fell down my stairs".

The both of you getting smashed seems like the problem. Your own sense of self hate doesn't help to strength your perception anyway.

In short. Son you done fucked uppppp.

Adam88 wrote:The situation now is I have a nice dark black eye that I'm gonna have to explain when I get to work. I'm also very hung over. It shouldn't be to bad though, he is a step father and not even really with my mother anymore... shouldn't be to hard to cut him out of my life, he has just been around forever.

*sigh* I love my life...

At least my hangover will explain how drunk I was when I "fell down my stairs".

Would your mum react badly as well? I imagine she'd be even more angrier at the fact that her husband who she's not really with beat up her son.

upthebracket. wrote:

Adam88 wrote:The situation now is I have a nice dark black eye that I'm gonna have to explain when I get to work. I'm also very hung over. It shouldn't be to bad though, he is a step father and not even really with my mother anymore... shouldn't be to hard to cut him out of my life, he has just been around forever.

*sigh* I love my life...

At least my hangover will explain how drunk I was when I "fell down my stairs".

Would your mum react badly as well? I imagine she'd be even more angrier at the fact that her husband who she's not really with beat up her son.

My mother would likely beat me even harder.... Yeah, my family is "like that".

Adam88 wrote:

upthebracket. wrote:

Adam88 wrote:The situation now is I have a nice dark black eye that I'm gonna have to explain when I get to work. I'm also very hung over. It shouldn't be to bad though, he is a step father and not even really with my mother anymore... shouldn't be to hard to cut him out of my life, he has just been around forever.

*sigh* I love my life...

At least my hangover will explain how drunk I was when I "fell down my stairs".

Would your mum react badly as well? I imagine she'd be even more angrier at the fact that her husband who she's not really with beat up her son.

My mother would likely beat me even harder.... Yeah, my family is "like that".

I hate to be "that guy", but.. yeah... you should move. Ain't nobody got time for crazies like that.

I don't need to move. I don't live with him.But thanks for all the kind words guys.

Adam88 wrote:The situation now is I have a nice dark black eye that I'm gonna have to explain when I get to work. I'm also very hung over. It shouldn't be to bad though, he is a step father and not even really with my mother anymore... shouldn't be to hard to cut him out of my life, he has just been around forever.

*sigh* I love my life...

At least my hangover will explain how drunk I was when I "fell down my stairs".

I would definitely talk to the police. He can't go around doing things like this without suffering any consequences.