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Unread postby caliboy95 » 18 August 2020, 23:26

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum and need some advice. I have a hard time cumming while bottoming - I can cum after but ideally want to cum while my boyfriend is inside of me. Any advice? Anyone have the same issue?
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Unread postby Stuart0109 » 19 August 2020, 13:29

Hi this is a position I love with my boyfriend . Im usually the one who is dominant , although we are both vers . he cums almost every time in this position , I help hi a bit by masturbating his erection whilst he is astride my penis , we obviously talk to each other duirng the session and can time dul cumming . It took a bit of practise but was fun . However we alo like it when I remove my penis just before orgasm and we both cum on his belly . So its just eperiment and practise with your guy and dont get too down if it doesnt haappen right away
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby René » 19 August 2020, 13:34

Interesting, I don't always get hard and jack off (I don't always feel the need), but when I do, I always come really easily in that situation. Usually my husband will come first in a position that doesn't give me easy access but then he'll keep thrusting afterward while I jack off until I come too. Feels great with him inside of me. :D
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby jake.wriley » 19 August 2020, 14:20

Stuart0109 wrote:Hi this is a position I love with my boyfriend . Im usually the one who is dominant , although we are both vers . he cums almost every time in this position , I help hi a bit by masturbating his erection whilst he is astride my penis , we obviously talk to each other duirng the session and can time dul cumming . It took a bit of practise but was fun . However we alo like it when I remove my penis just before orgasm and we both cum on his belly . So its just eperiment and practise with your guy and dont get too down if it doesnt haappen right away

I agree; talking during the session and working on that timing to cum at the same time is incredibly hot! I used to do that with one of my boyfriends. Not only was it hot to orgasm at the same time, but that communication and process of timing it added some extra sexual chemistry which was amazing.

René wrote:Interesting, I don't always get hard and jack off (I don't always feel the need), but when I do, I always come really easily in that situation. Usually my husband will come first in a position that doesn't give me easy access but then he'll keep thrusting afterward while I jack off until I come too. Feels great with him inside of me. :D

If you don't mind me asking, in situations where you don't get off and "don't...feel the need" to, do you usually jerk off after your husband pulls out, or do you just not get off at all during that session?

I can relate in that I don't always feel the need to get off during sex. Sometimes I'll jerk off after my partner pulls out, and sometimes I just won't get off at all. I'm just curious what other views are and if I'm the only person who doesn't always seek an orgasm during sex haha.
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Unread postby René » 19 August 2020, 14:36

jake.wriley wrote:
Stuart0109 wrote:Hi this is a position I love with my boyfriend . Im usually the one who is dominant , although we are both vers . he cums almost every time in this position , I help hi a bit by masturbating his erection whilst he is astride my penis , we obviously talk to each other duirng the session and can time dul cumming . It took a bit of practise but was fun . However we alo like it when I remove my penis just before orgasm and we both cum on his belly . So its just eperiment and practise with your guy and dont get too down if it doesnt haappen right away

I agree; talking during the session and working on that timing to cum at the same time is incredibly hot! I used to do that with one of my boyfriends. Not only was it hot to orgasm at the same time, but that communication and process of timing it added some extra sexual chemistry which was amazing.

René wrote:Interesting, I don't always get hard and jack off (I don't always feel the need), but when I do, I always come really easily in that situation. Usually my husband will come first in a position that doesn't give me easy access but then he'll keep thrusting afterward while I jack off until I come too. Feels great with him inside of me. :D

If you don't mind me asking, in situations where you don't get off and "don't...feel the need" to, do you usually jerk off after your husband pulls out, or do you just not get off at all during that session?

I can relate in that I don't always feel the need to get off during sex. Sometimes I'll jerk off after my partner pulls out, and sometimes I just won't get off at all. I'm just curious what other views are and if I'm the only person who doesn't always seek an orgasm during sex haha.

I sometimes jack off after he pulls out, but not often. It's usually either before he pulls out or not at all.

I would say I experience it a bit differently: I feel I get off every time. It just doesn't always involve me having an orgasm or ejaculating. Getting fucked feels amazing enough on its own. :awesome: Though coming at the same time like you described can certainly be incredible.
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby jake.wriley » 19 August 2020, 15:28

René wrote:I would say I experience it a bit differently: I feel I get off every time. It just doesn't always involve me having an orgasm or ejaculating. Getting fucked feels amazing enough on its own. :awesome: Though coming at the same time like you described can certainly be incredible.

Yes! I agree with that completely! Getting fucked feels so incredible; I personally prefer to enjoy that feeling over jerking off and having an orgasm.
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby Cowie1 » 19 August 2020, 15:51

I love big cocks streatching me, how about you guys
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby caliboy95 » 19 August 2020, 20:17

Hey all - so we ARE communicating and it feels great, but for some reason I'm having trouble getting to the point of cumming, even when he's fucking me for a long amount of time. I think I maybe tense certain muscles while cumming usually and those muscles are difficult to tense when he's inside of me?
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby jake.wriley » 19 August 2020, 20:45

One thing that might help is strengthening the muscles of the pelvic floor. I am a total bottom myself but also have difficult cumming while bottoming, and doing some exercises have definitely helped me over time.

You can look up exercises called Kegel exercises which are used to strengthen those pelvic-floor muscles. The idea is that by strengthening and gaining better control of those muscles, you can use them to stimulate your own prostate without having anything inserted. With enough practice, this technique can be used to give yourself a hands-free orgasm just by using those pelvic-floor muscles to stimulate your prostate.

Although a self-induced, hands-free orgasm usually takes several months of practice to achieve this way (I still haven't been able to that yet), the same idea can be applied to enhancing stimulation of your prostate when playing with toys or getting fucked. By using those muscles with a toy or the real thing inside you, you can increase the amount of stimulation which will likely help you cum. Regardless of cumming or not, it feels out of this world once you can stimulate yourself while your partner is inside of you. With practice, I'm sure it will help you cum while bottoming, but in the meantime as you practice, it will likely blow your mind as to how amazing it feels.

Based on your last sentence, it seems like you're already aware of this and using certain muscles but may just have difficulty doing that when you're bf is inside you. When I first started doing Kegel exercises, I had trouble doing that while bottoming or playing with toys. Having control of those muscles while having something else inside you is a lot going on and harder than it sounds, at least for me. With practice--especially with toys to get used to the sensations and control of flexing those muscles while also having something inside of you--it gets a lot easier, and again, the sensations are mind-blowing.

Not a guarantee to solve the problem for which you're seeking a solution, but it might help, and even if it doesn't help you cum after you've practiced for a while, I'm sure you will enjoy how it feels.

Happy bottoming! :P
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby lufia » 20 August 2020, 08:47

I've never had much trouble there. For me, the biggest part was mental. I view my ass as more of a sexual organ than my penis. I only even get fully erect when something is my ass. I guess I'm just a cock whore, I don't know. Anyway, when something is in my ass, I simply focus on the sensations I am feeling there, and I'm spraying all over the place before I even know it. Sometimes I don't even touch my penis. Just try to concentrate solely on what is happening down there.
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby SkinnySub » 24 August 2020, 02:40

I can cum from bottoming, but I need to be Dominated and feel like I am being used for a man's pleasure as I submit to him.
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Unread postby MichaelWSF » 25 September 2020, 15:03

You need to find your comfort zone. I am a total (100%) bottom, while my husband is a top. There are times when he is so amazing that I cum without ever touching myself and there are other times when the pain is intense and I am unable to cum. The majority of times though we both cum and to cum while his dick is inside me is the most amazing feeling.
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Unread postby Rob 999 » 9 October 2020, 15:48

As soon as my bf cums inside me I cum instantly I can't hold back but I love it
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby Eos » 9 October 2020, 17:40

Am I the only that thinks it is really annoying to see old threads resurrected with irrelevant posts ?
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby René » 9 October 2020, 18:16

Eos wrote:Am I the only that thinks it is really annoying to see old threads resurrected with irrelevant posts ?

You're not! This is nothing, though. Occasionally, someone will bump a thread from 5-8 years ago :lol:
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Unread postby Eos » 10 October 2020, 19:56

René wrote:
Eos wrote:Am I the only that thinks it is really annoying to see old threads resurrected with irrelevant posts ?

You're not! This is nothing, though. Occasionally, someone will bump a thread from 5-8 years ago :lol:


I wonder why people do this...
And only to say that they like sex, most of the time.
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby Nourty16 » 16 October 2020, 00:40

I’ve found that having my partner keep me stimulated (as in touching my downstairs) has allowed me to cum during the act of sex. Also clenching while he is in me has helped me feel more turned on and overcome by the situation. But usually foreplay and doing stuff during intercourse is most beneficial
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby MarkF » 17 October 2020, 01:21

I hope that I may also be permitted to add to this (and personally, I do not see anything wrong with a certain amount of "resurrecting" an older thread as long as the posts are part of the topic of said thread - some of us come along well after the the original group of posting stopped who would still like to be able to add a comment of our own).

I've found that when my boyfriend and I have sex, when we are doing it where the person who's bottoming is laying down on his back and the person who's topping is laying down on him, the one who's bottoming often cums during sex. I think it has to do with the fact that the body of the one on top is (while the top is thrusting) rubbing along the bottom's dick, and it helps stimulate the one who's the bottom. When we do anal in other positions (we've tried it both doggy style and where the one who's bottoming is laying on his stomach with the one on top laying down on top of him) sometimes the one on top will reach underneath the one on bottom and play with his dick and balls while thrusting (and a couple of times during doggy style the one on top grabbed the dick of the one on bottom and would jack him off in rhythm to the thrusting, though we could never get the timing quite right). When the one on top cums first, he usually pulls out and then either jacks off the the one on bottom or gives him a blow job.
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Re: Cumming while bottoming

Unread postby Eos » 17 October 2020, 06:56

Don't worry Mark, I said I didn't like to see threads resurrected with uninteresting comments. Or that has nothing to do with the subject.

Your comment was interesting to read, thank you !
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