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Unread postby Zurdoknoc » 7 January 2019, 03:20

I met this nice guy online. The first time we met in person we had sex. After that, we started going out or hanging out. It’s been 2+ more months. We have Kissed and hugged and made out a couple of times. We text each other many times during the day and we talk on the phone frequently. He is recently single. We have not had sex again. We went out and we had a great day together. We kissed at the end before I left and hugged. But no sex. He is definitely interested. He knows I’m melting for him.
I don’t know if we are dating or hanging out but the lack of sex sort of stays in my mind. He has said a few times “ sex is not everything” and that is what he wants to take eveyrhing slowly because it’s been only 6 months since he was dumped by his ex, cheating on him.
Please advice.
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Re: Dating and sex

Unread postby Aunty Eva » 7 January 2019, 08:13

Hi

If he has only been out of the relationship for 6 months, chances are he is still unsure whether this is a rebound and wants to take it slow so that he doesn't hurt either of you by getting to close right away. What I would do in your situation is speak to him, face to face. Be nice and polite, ask him if you are dating or seeing each other. Tell him that even though sex isn't everything and you are falling for him, that you want some intimacy and that it makes you feel wanted. Tell him how much you care for him, how much you enjoy spending time with him. Reassure him that you don't want to hurt him and respect his feelings. Listen to his response, be honest with him.

He is right though, sex isn't everything but if he has a very low sex drive and yours is normal or high, it might not work out for you.

Kyle xx
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Re: Dating and sex

Unread postby Zurdoknoc » 7 January 2019, 17:52

You are correct. He just wants to take it slowly. What’s the different beteeen dating and seeing each other? I agree sex is not everything but st this early stage of Gerri g to know each other maybe is worth to try it and see how it adds up...or not to the process. He has said he wants to take it slowly...and he likes when sex happens spintsnuely. Spontaneously which is great but He won’t innitiate it, I will seems like. The only time we had se , I initiated it and he was hot as hell during. The only time we had sex was when we met in person, to have sex and after that we started seeing each other more and more. I’m just confused but I won’t have a conversation about it. I’ll go with the flow as he says. At least we kiss, hug and talk and text often.
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Re: Dating and sex

Unread postby Aunty Eva » 7 January 2019, 17:56

Seeing each other is not classified as anything. Just getting to know each other. Showing affection but no emotional attachment until you decide to pursue it further. Dating comes after, once you've decided more is wanted from both sides.

Maybe make it clear to him the your up for sex whenever she let him know, you're ok should he initiate it. He could be waiting for you to initiate it.
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Re: Dating and sex

Unread postby Zurdoknoc » 7 January 2019, 19:11

This is what we do:
We text every day throughout the day, every day.
We talk on the phone sometimes every day. Sometimes every other day. A few times a week for sure. We talk personal stuffs, work, etc. Sometimes we joke about sex. In general a good funny conversation.
We see eachother when he can. Most of the time it’s me asking him out. Sometimes he is busy and he can’t.
When we are together in private we kiss and hug eachother. We met at his place and I’ve seen al the rooms or when it’s messy etc
I am the one initiating when we meet, or kissing him hugging him. He responds nicely I have to say, doesn’t say no to any form or affection. He has said “it’s been only 6 months I am single, I am testing the wetters because I want to make sure I pick the correct person and I don’t make the same mistake like in the last, I want to take it slow and go with the flow”
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