Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

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What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

≤10
77
17%
11
26
6%
12
46
10%
13
62
13%
14
47
10%
15
36
8%
16
31
7%
17
14
3%
18
21
5%
19
6
1%
20
13
3%
21
7
2%
22
1
0%
23
4
1%
24
4
1%
25
7
2%
26
3
1%
27
4
1%
28
6
1%
29
1
0%
30s
20
4%
40s
12
3%
50s
7
2%
≥60
10
2%
 
Total votes : 465

Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Jakolero » 6 October 2021, 18:26

I think when I started masturbating and imagining boys was when it started for me around 11-12yo .Then i had crushes in highschool but i ddnt really wanted to “be” with males. I was just fasinated by masculinity. Then i was fully into it by like 25(?) when i started orgaziming exclusively to the sexual thought of men who also thought of men sexually.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Kemontol » 8 October 2021, 16:10

I live in a conservative & religious society. Evethough homosexuality is not illegal here, it is not acceptable.
I knew I liked boys since the first time developed I interests in romantic/sexual relationship.

People from my childhood always told me that I was girly. But I grew up adoring masculine values, and turned into the average men trying to be masculine without being "macho". People in my circles came to the conclusion that I'm gay because I don't date girls nor show any interest in them. I've not came out to any of them. And I don't really get along with girls (not really the reason but the last time I did, a couple of classmates threatened to beat me up out of jealousy).

I thought homosexuality was the norm and that the majority were faking their desire for people of the opposite sex. Sometimes I still do think that straight men are just acting straight because of society pressure.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby ThatNomad » 10 October 2021, 18:29

I had to go with 18, but I want to clarify. I was attracted to boys from about the age of five. I had a crush on a kid in my kindergarten class. I then had a major crush on two boys around the age of twelve. One was a boy who transferred to my school in 6th grade, the other was my next door neighbor. However, I did not consciously accept that I was gay until much later. It wasn't until I was around the age of 18 and was exposed to the son of my parents friends, who was openly gay, and had a boyfriend. I was introduced to them both and through them I came to understand what it all meant, and realize that despite what I was raised to believe as a person indoctrinated in the cult of the Baptist church, that it was okay to be gay, and that my feelings and urges were completely natural.
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Unread postby flopssdy » 30 October 2021, 23:50

I found out i was bi by a downword spiral on a porn sight watching Seshi Knight Millcream get railed by tentacle monsters and wanting to be the one being railed.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Laserman1964 » 3 November 2021, 18:33

I think I was confused in my childhood, was attracted to girls but also had something for boys I wasn’t sure about and never questioned. But two events changed that. I was abused one night when alone in a tent. I was 15. I was masterbated and also held his penis. I was more scared about not making it alive than the fact he had made me cum for the first ever. I had secretly enjoyed it. I always had this in my thoughts of course but continued to “pretend” I liked girls. But one day I was at a swimming pool, a handsome young dark skinned lad in white shorts came out of the pool same time as me. I turned around to see him and it was like an alarm bell going off! He was simply gorgeous. I had an immediate erection and had to go back into the pool. I knew then I was gay. But still in denial a bit and had a long relationship with a woman. She had a fairly high sex drive and I couldn’t do it for her. One day we went to a swingers night. I was turned on by one particular guy, in fact I couldn’t keep my eyes of him and others. Time was near to come out. One day she wanted to know why I didn’t want sex with her. So I told her. She said that makes total sense and understood. But it freed us up. Inevitably we did go our separate ways but not before we had both explored other men sexually. I came out to some friends too and they were supportive. I even found a boyfriend which became quite intimate. First time we made love, it just made sense totally. Love being naked with a guy, and exploring him.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Peter123777 » 22 November 2021, 11:20

lightnight wrote:16. In the window from 13-16 I was so hormonal and attracted to girls as well as boys. It was very exhausting and scary because I had no idea what was going on.
But I guess when you're older being bi must be fun. Too bad that ship sailed at 16 when my body just knew women didn't do it for him anymore. I think I'm thankful for that too. Less confusion at least.


That kinda interesting what you've written. To be attracted to girls at ages 13,14,15 and then it suddenly stopped at 16. those aren't young ages like 7,8,9 etc, when you don’t understand a thing about yourself and your sexuality.

I had some opposite experience, where at age 13 I thought I was completely gay, though I had watched straight porn (because at the time, I wasn’t much turned on by vagina… which had changed later). Then, later in my teens and through my early 20’s, I’ve realized I’m attracted to both girls and guys, through porn and through real life experiences.

Had you watched straight porn ages 13-15? Had you had crushes on girls these ages? Had you ever had a sexual experience with a girl?
Except for the hormonal changes you went through these ages, what are some other causes you think influenced your sexual orientation, specifically going from being attracted to girls to not being attracted to them?

How old are you now? How would you consider your sexual orientation nowadays?
Curious for your reply
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby LokiMayBeSalmon » 11 December 2021, 14:39

I had a crush on a boy in pre-school aged 4. Whenever I tell straight people this they tell me I'm projecting, it can't be real, it's impossible, etc, etc, etc.

But I know for a fact I very much enjoyed looking at and being around Robert Evans at my pre-school. Which after my parents seperated became my primary school aged 7. I still had a crush. But I got a girlfriend and wasn't sure what that involved other than kissing. I remember it felt weird but nice, kind of.

My puberty sex-drive kicked in relatively early at about 8-9 and that's when I found myself looking at boys underpants in Littlewoods clothing catalogues more than I did the women in Wonder Bras. Eventually, I started rubbing myself to the pictures.

It didn't really click I was 'a gay' until I was in my teens though and that's when the dread and shame kicked in. I got access to the internet and every time I did anything remotely sexual while looking at same sex porn or boys online, I punched myself repeatedly in the stomach and occasionally in the groin out of shame. Crying to myself: "I don't want to be like that. I want to be normal!".

I did masturbate to women and even bought porn magazines my cousin stole off his dad. But guess what? I was drawn more to the "readers boyfriends" section of one particular magazine that had a guy in I liked with his dick out.

Eventually I came out as bi in uni. I went back in the closet afer uni. I finally admitted to myself after a failed experimental relationship with a girl at 23 that I was gay. But I could never physically clal myself that. I played with my words, saying I don't like labels, etc. I was only out online, too. Never had a girlfriend after 24.

Had plenty of boyfriends and flings with guys from as early as 9 up to uni and beyond. I always preferred it. I found the whole flirting with women 'ritual' utterly infuriating. Internally, I'd decided men were far more to the point about sex. It wasn't until I started flirting with guys in a gay bar aged 21 I realised I wasn't so much frustrated with flirting. I just didn't want to put my energy into flirting with something I wasn't that into.

It was a complex, multi-layered self-discovery over several long years.

But looking back - with 20x20 hindsight. If homosexuality had been more socially acceptable in the 80's/90's I may have realised and been more open about the fact my first crush was Robert Evans when I was 4.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby GayinIndiana » 11 February 2022, 04:34

In the seventh grade. Our class was watching Ferris Bueller's Day Off, and for some reason, the scene with Ferris in the shower and laying on the pool lounger made my blood warm and my skin tingly. Matthew Broderick was hot back then, so no wonder why I was aroused. After that, I would get on my computer late at night and jack off to shirtless pics of celebrity men (Andy Roddick, Eminem, Justin Timberlake and Nick Lachey, to name a few). I definitely have a high libido.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby SaltyPickle64 » 14 March 2022, 23:57

I knew I liked sexual play with boys as well as girls when I was about 13-14 and a neighborhood boy and I became JO/Oral Buddies.

I'd like to find a friend like again that now that I'm older
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Unread postby tf » 20 March 2022, 17:46

I was about ten or eleven years old.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Dorkus Malorkus » 7 May 2022, 00:27

In grade 4 i didnt know what being 'gay' was or 'bi' but i had ' feelings' for both genders at a young age & once the internet was a thing.. & as i got older i thought i might be 'gay' at one point...but that didnt even fit, i knew i liked guys too much but i also liked women....

and when i was 14 i came across the word 'bisexual\ biromantic', and i was like ' this is it!'
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby PeterVa4677833 » 17 May 2022, 18:10

poolerboy0077 wrote:A lot of you seem to have known since 10 or earlier. That’s like being ultra mega gay since it happened before puberty kicked in.

Iamjava wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:Hmm, I wonder what would be the correct answer for me. I was in denial but was aware of being turned on my guys at the age of about 14 but denied to myself that I was gay. Then I sort of acknowledged to myself that I was gay around 18 and only in hindsight did I realize that my prior attractions were gay ones. So what does this mean in relation to this thread’s question? Can I say I realized at 14 or 18?


You made the decision that you we're gay at 18, but realized you might be gay at 14. That's the way I see it.

I knew it! It’s a lifestyle choice. Ugh. Damn degenerates.


I knew I was gay very early on, like 11 years old. This was also a time I was going through or starting puberty. I have NO SHAME or MIS-GIVINGS about this.
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Unread postby Retirednav123 » 20 May 2022, 16:33

far too young I'm afraid with an uncle i stayed with and he enjoyed me naked at night and played with me a lot and showed me his what i thought was his Hugh cock that he would keep all shaved smooth and eventually had me suck him and actually show me about anal sex for my very first time going so slow i actually enjoyed it with him . later he would let a girl friend watch me sucking him with her naked showing me what girls locks like naked ..I still love gay sex today
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Unread postby Luvlips » 10 June 2022, 16:41

16
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Unread postby JaelynM » 29 June 2022, 00:42

13 or 14
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Unread postby Twinkboy69 » 25 July 2022, 00:53

Around 14-15 is when I started experimenting with men. My first couple encounters were through Craigslist back in the day. I was glad to have found Grindr too. Lots of good hook ups and orgasms over the years.
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Unread postby James221 » 5 September 2022, 07:56

I still don't know what I am. I'm in a relationship with a woman but love cock. Love taking cock and love sucking it. However I don't want to be labelled as gay.
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Unread postby LokiLover87 » 5 September 2022, 18:49

It took me until my mid-20s to label myself bisexual. Until then there was a lot of confusion and denial. First it was "you aren't into guys, you just lack experience." Then I got with women and loved it and was even more confused when my desire for men did not just vanish.

I feel like if I was gay, I would have come to terms with my sexuality sooner, but the dual attraction made it easy to play into my denial.
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Unread postby JJP301 » 9 September 2022, 20:39

I was cutting the guy up the street grass and the mower stopped. we put the mower under the back porch which had a door so it was like a storage shed. While working on the mower he said hay look at this he had his dick out of his pants. I paid no attention to it. Then he said touch it, so I did. then he started to jerk off. Me being 13 yo I started doing that at home and I new it felt good. He then said I am tired can you do it for me for a little while so not thinking I took over.. then he asked me to kiss it. So I kissed it, he said kiss it again so i did then he shot all over my face. He said he was sorry he just got to excited. He said I did a good job on the grass to and gave me $5. He invited me back every week to mow the lawn and put the lawn mower away
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