Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

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What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

≤10
14
18%
11
8
10%
12
10
13%
13
9
12%
14
6
8%
15
7
9%
16
5
6%
17
3
4%
18
1
1%
19
1
1%
20
3
4%
21
1
1%
22
0
No votes
23
1
1%
24
0
No votes
25
0
No votes
26
1
1%
27
2
3%
28
0
No votes
29
1
1%
30s
2
3%
40s
1
1%
50s
1
1%
≥60
1
1%
 
Total votes : 78

Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 25 July 2019, 01:52

PopTart wrote:When I was a kid, I crushed on the boys and never the girls, who I got on famously with.

So you were the neighborhood thot. Gotcha.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby PopTart » 25 July 2019, 12:01

poolerboy0077 wrote:
PopTart wrote:When I was a kid, I crushed on the boys and never the girls, who I got on famously with.

So you were the neighborhood thot. Gotcha.

:lol: I might have crushed on the boys, doesnt mean I got to do anything about it with most of them, and surely, one cant be regarded a dirty slut, without putting in the work? :)
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 25 July 2019, 17:36

Contemplative thot?
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby lightnight » 27 July 2019, 20:30

poolerboy0077 wrote:
lightnight wrote:16. In the window from 13-16 I was so hormonal and attracted to girls as well as boys.

Which means those who knew before puberty are even gayer than the rest of us. Thems is some super gay niggas.


We're all in the same gay boat now though. Sailing at full mast towards our futures in hell which would be lit. Literally.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Iamjava » 28 July 2019, 08:05

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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby René » 3 August 2019, 15:33

14.

Having said that, I was aware I felt some kind of attraction toward one or two guys as early as about 10 but didn't think anything of it.

Anyway, interesting bulge at 13 in the chart. :P
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby René » 3 August 2019, 15:33

Ammon wrote:I knew from age 7 or 8, knew what it meant around age 11, had my first boyfriend at age 14 LDR( he was 2 years older), only saw him every december and every summer for two months, at age 17 the day I arrived in morocco, he came to my house and I was so happy to see him and kissed him on the lips and he took a step back and I knew what time it was, he broke up with me saying that we are now old enough to know what we did is taboo as muslims we should know better.. I froze in fear when he used religion to break up with me.. I simply nodded and told him that I agree. Summer just started and I had to hang out with him and his friends as if nothing ever happened, it was the most horrible feeling I ever experienced till this day.

I went back to Belgium and stayed there for two years, at age 19 I decided to go to morocco again and tell him how I feel! I couldn’t bare it anymore and fck concequences! When I arrived there my neighbour visited me and I asked him if he saw my friend today? And he tells me “haven’t you heard?” At that moment my heart sanked to my stomach, he tells me “he got married last year with a swedish girl and moved to sweden”

Another summer just started and all I could do was visit the places he took me to, we had a nice private hideout somewhere at the beach between giant rocks, I spend most of my days there crying, hoping/imagining him to show up there..

That summer my personality completly changed, I repressed my sexuality, became stubborn, closed off my heart and let nobody near it, not even my own mother, I became cold hearted towards everyone.

If only I could’ve talked about it with someone close to me.. I got over it at age 24, that was the day he sended me a long email that he misses me and wished he could turn back the time.

Sry for the long post, but this topic brought those memories back up cuz he was that first cute best friend at age 8 I experimented with..

Aww... :hug:
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 3 August 2019, 16:48

I'm in the "always knew" category. My first hard-on and the ones that followed were for boys and not girls. Pretty definitive right there. I picked 12 because I think that it was right around 7th grade that I really knew that I was different in that way. I guess puberty hit me pretty quick as I don't think it was long before having those feelings to being a boy that jerked off to boys in his head. Given the time and place of my circumstances, those thoughts remained private in my head.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby rxxli » 4 August 2019, 17:47

I’ve known forever. I have a vidid memory of dreaming about my naked classmates when I was like 8 or something. And when we had PE I always liked seeing my classmates in the changing room.

When puberty hit I went to the internet and found pictures of shirtless guys and later found some real porn.

I don’t really know when I finally accepted that though. Before it was always: “I am not gay, I just like looking at guys”. I think I was around 18 when I finally really accepted it. And not long after that I joined GTF which helped me a lot.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Ammon » 6 August 2019, 19:19

René wrote:Aww... :hug:


:hug:
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby rocketquentin » 10 August 2019, 10:23

only when I was 17 I started to understand the feelings I had with another guy in my wrestling team
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby ThisBeautifulSilence » 27 August 2019, 03:47

Hiding from my sexuality when I was a teenager/in my early 20s was an emotional roller coaster. Much more comfortable nowadays but still a healing process.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 26 September 2019, 10:17

Wow, quite the poll (at least in my opinion). Thanks for all who have elaborated. I find the line of thinking particularly fascinating. I put my age as 12 because by then I think I started to really fantasize about guys etc. That being said, I probably knew way before then.
Without going into too much detail, I found out about porn and sex at the age of 9 and from the beginning, was more interested in the naked guys. I subscribe to the "born-gay" school of thought as I tried really hard to not be gay (as I'm sure a lot of guys did). But yeah....

The Kinsey scale plays a role, of course. I have no problem performing with women, just prefer men. Once I eventually decided to acknowledge what I was feeling, I labeled myself as bi for a long time. Then decided it's just denial, so I'm gay.

Now, though, I wonder. Am I still slightly bi? But I doubt this is the post for that question that seemingly has no answer :p

Thanks for creating the poll, Brenden! :)
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby ShawnTexas » 4 October 2019, 02:54

I was having fantasies about my doctor at 13. 10 yrs later was my first
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Shy-guy-luck » 7 October 2019, 17:29

It was when I was about 20 started having thoughts about the guys I worked with and my friends but it wasn't until about 25 ish i knew i was attracted to men.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby roxylovesheels » 8 October 2019, 12:32

I was 15 had a nice encounter with a guy in public toilet my first time aswell not the best place to have but i really enjoyed but i was always curious even from a younger age
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Philkc33 » 9 October 2019, 00:51

Really started to notice guys at around the age of 12, in junior high. Also when I started watching porn and wanting to see the guys. It wouldn't really hit me until 14, in 9th grade, that I was gay.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Botanical Boy » 16 October 2019, 14:22

I said 12 years old because I think that's where I started to understand what my deep set feelings meant. I had been quite keen on comparing my penis with my friends even from the age of around 5 or 6 and generally being quite emotionally invested in my close friends. I had my first proper crush when I was around 11 or 12.
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