Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

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What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

≤10
41
17%
11
18
7%
12
30
12%
13
37
15%
14
19
8%
15
16
7%
16
14
6%
17
8
3%
18
9
4%
19
2
1%
20
7
3%
21
3
1%
22
0
No votes
23
3
1%
24
2
1%
25
2
1%
26
3
1%
27
3
1%
28
1
0%
29
2
1%
30s
11
5%
40s
5
2%
50s
4
2%
≥60
4
2%
 
Total votes : 244

Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Archaeopteryx » 13 April 2020, 23:54

Complicated question. Probably realized it in my mid teens. Finally admitted it...to myself....in my 50s.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Neuro » 14 April 2020, 03:16

When I was a kid, I always attracted to my male teachers in primary school.
I like girls in a way of admiration.
Never question my sexual orientation and feel abnormal.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby theone » 21 April 2020, 03:13

I practically came out of the womb gay, but didn't come to terms with it until I was 16, if not later than that. Didn't come out until I was 22.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby OhHeyItsZach » 21 April 2020, 03:49

I was 16 when I realized I was gay as that is when I started to get hard anytime I was around a hot guy.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Lil-Joe » 29 April 2020, 05:17

14, Four difficult years, Guess i was a year of 18 while i heard the first time about homosexuality.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby tu144 » 23 May 2020, 05:59

So here's the thing... Not for a while after I started having "gay" thoughts. Like, I understood I was different, but I didn't know how or why, and there was a denial phase too--I only came out to my parents my senior year of high school. But if I was totally honest with myself, I probably first had thoughts about another dude as early as fourth grade.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Ander1969 » 18 June 2020, 03:58

I really had no interest in guys till my mid thirties :wide-eyed: . I fooled around with boys when I was young, but that's because there were no willing girls handy. I had one male crush in my early twenties at college, but that passed quickly. Otherwise, it hit me like a ton of bricks in my thirties.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby abmis » 23 June 2020, 01:36

Whew! So glad I realized I was gay when I was 9. The most amazing realization ever! ;)
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What age were you?

Unread postby Jdog911 » 30 June 2020, 12:54

What age were you when you knew you were gay? What do you recall of that time?
I was 8.
I was looking at a magazine with a photo of a shirtless guy and i told my brother he looked awesome. He said are you gay? But in a mean way. I shut up.
Don't most str8 boys not like girls until puberty? Why was i so interested so young?
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Re: What age were you?

Unread postby Eryx » 30 June 2020, 13:48

My first crush was at 6.
My first experience was at 9.
Only at 12 I realized what I was feeling for my best friend was more than friendship, and that I liked dick.
Came out to family at 16.
Lost my virginity at 18.
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Re: What age were you?

Unread postby ThatNomad » 30 June 2020, 14:56

Looking back my first crush was on a boy in my kindergarten class. Can't even remember his name now. After that it was the boy next door when I was about nine or so, when he moved in. But the age I actually understood, that was probably eleven, when I met a boy who transferred into my sixth grade class.

Unfortunately for me my family was rather homophobic, and I had been raised in the Southern Baptist church, so I was both afraid, and revolted that I was gay, and refused to admit it. It wasn't until I was eighteen and met the person who would become my first real gay friend that I finally realized there was nothing wrong with it and accepted it about myself. Came out that year, and lost my virginity a few months later.
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Re: What age were you?

Unread postby René » 30 June 2020, 15:14

It's not that unusual I think. My first proper crush was at 14, but I definitely had some feelings in that direction before puberty.

I thought my cousin Michael was really cute I wanna say around age 8. (He actually was, and still is. :3)

And around I think age 10 I was definitely attracted to a guy I saw in a magazine.

(Came out at 16, lost virginity on my 21st birthday.)
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Re: What age were you?

Unread postby goDXes » 30 June 2020, 18:07

I agree that its not unusual to have an attraction before puberty.

I had a friend growing up when I was around 7 or 8 and him and I used to fool around a lot. We got caught by our parents multiple times that we set up booby traps to alert us is someone was coming close XD. This went on until I was 11.

I knew I was gay since then. Didn't officially "come out" until 13. Lost my virginity during that time mentioned earlier.
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Re: What age were you?

Unread postby Severelius » 30 June 2020, 18:15

The first crushes that I was able to properly acknowledge as a crush were at 13 which was when I started to figure out that I was into other boys.

One of them being on one of my secondary school bullies probably fucked me up a fair bit and made the whole thing more difficult than it needed to be but oh well.

With the benefit of hindsight it's fair to say I had quite a few crushes when I was quite a bit younger than that. At the time I just thought I was really desperate to have friends but looking back on it, nah I was just crushing hard on certain boys in my class without realising that's what was going on.
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Re: What age were you?

Unread postby azureflame » 1 July 2020, 06:37

Around 7 or 8 I was in love with a classmate. In my innocence I remember telling him how cute I thought he was quite a few times. I didn't even know being gay was a thing back then but I knew I liked boys.

Around 13 though my best friend started doing sex stuff that went on for 2 or 3 years. By the time he broke it up (he got cold feet cause he seemed way into it and got scared) I was already sure I was completely gay. So I just went with it and got it on a month later with a classmate who liked me a lot.
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby simplyb1 » 4 July 2020, 19:10

Always had a kinky side I probably would have started very early at 15 I was surprised sexually by a 30yr old married woman honestly she taught me to lick pussy like a lesbian so glad things I learned also work on men I began tasting my precum and cum almost from first time masturbating I always thought something was wrong with wanting to lick cum off my fingers .I didn't always like taste middle or towards end but couldn't get enough of clear sweet precum as it got cloudy I still enjoyed it then just to much cum palm my hand putting my lips deep into it jacking off in a condom very quickly sucking inside out .didn't have sex toys then things I put up in side my ass making my dick limp and dripping cum
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Bigbiguy4sex87 » 7 July 2020, 20:48

I was really young when I was shown the ropes of gay sex... I loved it right from the start and was told that I was gay! I went through a denial period in my 20s and had increased trying to sleep with women... However even though I was in denial, I still craved dick and would sleep with men!
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Rednwhite » 10 July 2020, 17:10

I gave my mate a blow job when I was 14. He came in my mouth we were both silent after, thoroughly enjoyed it.
One day at a time
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby kotek91 » 11 July 2020, 16:01

I was 16 when I thouht I;m a gay man. I always liked man . At high school I had a one teacher who I liked very well . He was a gay too....
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Re: Definitive Poll: What age did you realise you're gay/bi/etc?

Unread postby Dave67 » 26 July 2020, 06:52

I think I was about 12 yrs old. I used to think about sucking guys off. When I was in the 8th grade I spent the night at a friends house down the street. He was about 3 yrs older than me and looking back a nerdie guy real smart good grades type. Anyway we slept in his bed that night during my sleepover and he just whipped out his dick and started playing with it. I had thought about guys sexually but had never said anything, maybe he picked up on me being gay? Not sure but that was bold of him to do. He was rock hard doing things with his dick like forcing the blood to the head to make it bigger etc and I wanted to suck it but he never asked and just jacked off in front of me and came.

I was too scared to make the first move to suck it although I had never been with a guy or girl at that time yet so I didn't do anything. I was hoping he would make the first move and suck me but he came and rolled over and went to sleep. Would be a few more yrs before something like that happened again, 10th grade in HS I finally got my chance and didn't blow it the second time, well yes I did blow it lol and knew for sure I was gay. Then the guilt and all that comes with it poured down.
Suppressed it after HS and got married a few yrs later with only 2 gay encounters prior to marriage and none during the 4 yrs married, I NEVER CHEAT on anyone, shitty thing to do! Even told the EX Wife I thought I was gay when divorce was final and she was not surprised, she said she had her suspicions about it. She was cool about it and said I should explore it more and accept it and that I would probably have some really hot sex, she was right.
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