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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 31 December 2020, 19:33

I ejaculate maybe once a month by masturbation, my partner is a total top and isn't into cock at all. My partner and I have sex 5 times a week and he cums in me most of the time. I tend to enjoy him ejaculating in me more than getting off myself and it makes me feel attractive and sexy when he cums, and it doesn't happen often, but would feel like I was a little unworthy if he didn't. Is this normal?
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 31 December 2020, 20:03

I wouldn’t have any interest in remaining in that relationship, no.
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Unread postby René » 31 December 2020, 20:28

I don't think that's too unusual (I certainly enjoy my husband/boyfriend's orgasms, especially inside me), and if you're happy with it, there isn't a problem, except that it may not be good for you to ejaculate that infrequently. AFAIK there are indications ejaculating 5-7 times a week may be optimal for health (in terms of prostate cancer, coronary heart problems, etc.).

I'm surprised you never jack off during sex. I don't do every time, but probably most times... does he not let you? That would be selfish and kind of hot, but, again, not the best healthwise.
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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 31 December 2020, 20:39

Rene, we do some dom-sub roleplay. Obviously he is dominant and wants sex to focus on his pleasure. I play along as I find it fun. He can spank me and hold me firmly but we have our limits like no choking or anything. I probably should ejaculate more often, I do enjoy it somewhat, but my interest in receiving is much higher.
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Unread postby Severelius » 31 December 2020, 20:43

I think I've said somewhere (maybe on here... probably on here) that I think my brain is wired up in a fundamentally weird way in that the vast majority of time I find giving the guy I'm sucking off an orgasm just as satisfying, if not more satisfying, than actually having one myself.

Most of my hookups have been me getting the guy off, not cumming myself, and I don't think I've ever once felt dissatisfied with that state of affairs.

Though I'm probably very weird in that regard but oddly I've not had any complaints from the guys who have benefited from it.
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Unread postby Brenden » 31 December 2020, 20:47

I love it when my bottom orgasms while I’m inside them. :keke:
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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 31 December 2020, 21:51

Severelius wrote:I think I've said somewhere (maybe on here... probably on here) that I think my brain is wired up in a fundamentally weird way in that the vast majority of time I find giving the guy I'm sucking off an orgasm just as satisfying, if not more satisfying, than actually having one myself.

Most of my hookups have been me getting the guy off, not cumming myself, and I don't think I've ever once felt dissatisfied with that state of affairs.

Though I'm probably very weird in that regard but oddly I've not had any complaints from the guys who have benefited from it.



There is nothing wrong with your brain, you just aim to please!

Outside of the bedroom I don't think about sex very often. Being shy and lacking assertiveness is a part of it too. I love knowing my partner is enjoying sex. I can actually say that my lack of enjoyment of ejaculation probably stems from lack of a partner who wants my ejaculation. I slept with women until I was 24, and my long term college girlfriend loved it when I came inside her vagina, so I remember wanting to please her. I seem to remember being more satisfied with my ejaculations then..
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Unread postby Jzone » 31 December 2020, 23:22

Yes, I enjoy my partner's orgasm. I enjoy bringing someone to orgasm, being brought to orgasm by my partner, and especially orgasming together.
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Unread postby René » 1 January 2021, 01:20

jaredjoy90 wrote:Rene, we do some dom-sub roleplay. Obviously he is dominant and wants sex to focus on his pleasure. I play along as I find it fun. He can spank me and hold me firmly but we have our limits like no choking or anything. I probably should ejaculate more often, I do enjoy it somewhat, but my interest in receiving is much higher.

That's hot. :D

I would probably jack off some more often just for health reasons then.

Actually, a way to incorporate that into your dom-sub play could be if he made/expected you to cum right before sex, so you'd enjoy it less (or at least get less immediate physical satisfaction out of it) and it'd be even more focused on his pleasure. :P (I may have got hard while writing that sentence. :lol:)

Brenden wrote:I love it when my bottom orgasms while I’m inside them. :keke:

Aww :3 :heart:
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Unread postby Jasper1 » 1 January 2021, 17:07

jaredjoy90 wrote:my partner is a total top and isn't into cock at all.


He can be a total top and still love your dick. What do you mean he isn’t into cock at all?

This does not sound right to me. I could not be in a relationship with someone like this. He sounds completely selfish.

If you like men then surely you like their bodily parts too.
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Unread postby OutsideIn » 1 January 2021, 23:02

jaredjoy90 wrote:Is this normal?

How do you define "normal" and why do you care?

It is not uncommon for some people to enjoy giving pleasure more than getting it themselves. The red flags start appearing when you begin giving up too much or when the other person starts taking too much. The fact that you made this post suggests that you may have reached this point.
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Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 4 January 2021, 18:33

Jasper1 wrote:
jaredjoy90 wrote:my partner is a total top and isn't into cock at all.


He can be a total top and still love your dick. What do you mean he isn’t into cock at all?

This does not sound right to me. I could not be in a relationship with someone like this. He sounds completely selfish.

If you like men then surely you like their bodily parts too.


How should I put this? He has his baggage. He is a bit ashamed of having sex with and being attracted to men. His parents disowned him once they found out about me. I thought that would mean that he was free of them and could live guilt-free but I know a part of him still seeks his parents approval. Pretty bad for a 51 year old with 80 year old parents! Our relationship outside the bedroom is great and I am not complaining about it in the bedroom. I love being a sub bottom!
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Unread postby NobodySpecial » 7 January 2021, 23:46

Jasper1 wrote:
jaredjoy90 wrote:my partner is a total top and isn't into cock at all.


He can be a total top and still love your dick. What do you mean he isn’t into cock at all?

This does not sound right to me. I could not be in a relationship with someone like this. He sounds completely selfish.

If you like men then surely you like their bodily parts too.


I don't think you realize just how varied men are sexually. There are gay guys who love cock, but don't care for men's asses. Does that mean something is wrong with them? I am really not into cock, but I love men's asses (CLEAN, hairy, muscular, masculine asses). That isn't about being selfish nor the opposite (altruistic); rather it is just being honest with one's self. To that extent, I seriously doubt that anybody loves every physical detail of their partner.

That being said, I am very capable of falling in love with a man. Being in love with a man, I want him to have a good time. Still, that doesn't change my nature that i don't crave cock. As I see it, cock simply comes with the territory of loving a man who is attached to one, so you don't ignore that fact. Still, I would be totally dishonest to say that I crave looking at cock, touching cock, having cock in my mouth, having cock in my ass, having someone cum in my mouth or ass. I just don't. I crave a man's textures, temperatures, looks (if he is my type), a deep voice, a muscular body, a hairy body, his smell, his smile. So why would it be selfish if that list doesn't include a craving for cock? I also don't crave pronounced adam's apples on a guy, but if I fell in love with someone who had an adams apple that way, I wouldn't insist that he have it shaved off (like trannys' sometimes do). Why? Because that is what separates love from lust.

Realize that I get on another board where a good many have the exact opposite desires. Many of them claim to be str8 men loving cock, but have no attraction to men emotionally nor physically -- only their cock. I cannot fathom that at all. If all I wanted was a cock (or I guess in my case I should say a man's ass), it would be so shallow. Might as well just get one of those plastic dolls. What good is a cock, if you don't care for the man it's attached to? The weirdest thing is all these guys who only are attracted to the person behind the cock, if they are their versions of female body with a cock. Now I'm not an expert on sissies and/or transsexuals, but how natural is it for an XY born individual to take estrogen, have plastic surgery if breasts don't grow much, (may or may not get castrated), yet to make a str8 man craving cock happy, they also take blue pills to counteract the effect of estrogen on diminishing their libido. That seems a lot more selfish to me from this so-called str8 type of guy wanting this kind of manufactured hybrid-gender than some gay guys who simply don't have a craving for cock.

So it might really be jaredjoy90's partner orientation that cock just doesn't turn him on. What matters is how he feels about jaredJoy90. When you love someone you want them to be happy and content. If he doesn't want JaredJoy90 to be experience pleasure and be satisfied, it has more to do with a problem with his heart than whether he doesn't desire cock at all. He is simply using his orientation as an excuse in that case.
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Unread postby littlecandycane » 10 January 2021, 04:10

Severelius wrote:I think I've said somewhere (maybe on here... probably on here) that I think my brain is wired up in a fundamentally weird way in that the vast majority of time I find giving the guy I'm sucking off an orgasm just as satisfying, if not more satisfying, than actually having one myself.

Most of my hookups have been me getting the guy off, not cumming myself, and I don't think I've ever once felt dissatisfied with that state of affairs.

Though I'm probably very weird in that regard but oddly I've not had any complaints from the guys who have benefited from it.


Your brain is ok, trust me :) I totally agree with what you're saying... I had never been in a relationship or even had sex before this summer. And since I'm having sex with my partner, we've both mostly been cumming each time.. But, sometimes it feels great to give love without expecting something in return.. For example, the first time we had sex with my boyfriend (aka my first time), I was the only one to cum. Since I had no experience, I thought I had done something wrong your know.. But I've simply asked him why he didn't want to cum and he told me that he wanted to give me some pleasure, but he didn't need me to give him that pleasure back... I had no bill for what he had done.. And I think that it's beautiful !

It still happens sometimes that one of us, he or I, would just make love to see the other enjoying the love we're giving him... Seeing that you can make the other so happy, makes you happy too in a way :) So we never feel like there's something missing cause instead of jerkin off, we're appreciating the other's orgasm that we're offering :)
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Unread postby PanicP » 10 January 2021, 11:12

There are so many different scenarios. Im vers and when I bottom I prefer not to play with myself at all. I focus on pleasure from anal.
Sometimes the top will play with me, sometimes they won’t.
Sometimes I’ll want to cum the same time as they do, sometimes I won’t.
Sometimes I’ll want to flip and cum inside them, sometimes they will want me to cum on their face.
One thing is for sure. I will be cum.

I do get great satisfaction and pleasure knowing I’ve made the top climax.
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Unread postby BooBooBear » 14 January 2021, 03:26

Absofuckinglutely even when I was about to marry some chick and never tasted the popsicle love. When your hitting it right, sucking it well or riding that D property you know they’re cumming back and spreading righteous rep your way. More sick,
Ass and even pussy. It’s good when we all
Having fun. I love getting creamed and swallowing
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Unread postby KingJack » 15 January 2021, 18:04

jaredjoy90 wrote:I ejaculate maybe once a month by masturbation, my partner is a total top and isn't into cock at all.

Sounds like a straight guy who just wants to bang someone for his own gratification, but women won't touch him.

I used to suck guys -- including those who identified as straight -- all the time who didn't want to return the favor because I thought it was hot. But I'd never settle with one guy who hates penises.

Find someone else.
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