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Unread postby Gay-paul » 15 November 2018, 09:21

Does fact that I feel for about 99% that I'm gay make a bad person, does if I'm fantasizing about young man make me a perv?





Unfortunately, I'm gay, in addition, gay sexist because I think that guys are cooler than women, despite the fact that women have contributed a lot to the development of our earthly civilization



Unfortunately, I'm a homosexual, I wonder if the fascination with young-looking men makes me a paedophile:-(



I know that soon there will be a lot of hateful entries that challenge me with a degenerate, that Jesus will get me, etc, so get out of me because I know that already :-)



I wonder why I have fantasies about young teenage (but adult teenagers!) And young men in their twenties. I used to see a 60-year-old elderly gentleman once, also a pedal who, apart from grey hair, had a well-groomed body as if he was 18 or 23 years old, and he was almost an old woman, I am almost 33 years old and my body's appearance is an epic failure, have BMI 36,43 with 183 cm height and 122 kg weight, I have so-called insulin resistance, no one guy or woman would want have sex with me :(



I also have a small Asperger Syndrome, and a problem with human relations, because if someone was making fun of me, bullied me, I always insulted such a person, even the boss: -) I know that the problem lies in me, I have a subscription in the McFit gym network, it is a German gym network present in most EU countries, including Poland. I wonder if other gays but also normal heterosexual women, the size of the penis is important because mine is quite small :-(



Our Polish Catholic Church often combines homosexuality with degeneration and paedophilia, but they tolerate these paedophiles in their own ranks, I personally like to go to church and I have never been hurt by any priest.



My name is Pawel (Paul) one priest when I confessed him during holly confession, he said that my famous namesake Apostle Paul also struggled with some sins, he quoted my passage from Bible Romans 7:15-20 “And really, I know of nothing good living in me -- in my natural self, that is -- for though the will to do what is good is in me, the power to do it is not: 19 the good thing I want to do, I never do; the evil thing which I do not want -- that is what I do. 20 But every time I do what I do not want to, then it is not myself acting, but the sin that lives in me.”
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Zoop » 15 November 2018, 20:58

Sorry for my short answer but honestly, no. A lot of people do, and a lot of straight people like young adults of the opposite sex. If they're of age, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that whatsoever :)

I do feel though like sometimes youth is over-emphasised among gay people, with the twink culture and all that. It's okay to like young adults like that and you're not a perv, but sometimes I feel like older men might feel bad about themselves whenever people go on about twinks and young men and stuff. The fact you're insecure in yourself kinda makes me think too much emphasis is put on physical attraction in cases like this.

Sorry if I'm rambling and I don't mean to say bad stuff to you at all. Just remember that although it's fine to be attracted to young people and to be turned on by them if they're of age, you need to love yourself and all your imperfections too :heart:
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 16 November 2018, 00:56

On this forum, I feel like I'm gonna ruffle some feathers saying this, but fuck it I'm gonna stand by my opinions on this.

It does make me wonder sometimes. I don't like throwing out direct accusations, especially if you make a point of only dating men who are legal adults. However a part of me does find it real suspect, especially when it's not just younger men, but especially younger men who LOOK very pubescent and not fully developed (think Troye Sivan types). If you're a significantly older guy, I look at it almost like "Are you with him because that's the (legally anyway) closest you'll get to fucking a child?", because that's what it looks like to me. I feel this way especially when it's an apparently grown man being sought after who really does look like a child, I don't know how you can be attracted to that look but then not be attracted to actual children.

I don't really have a whopping great moral problem with it if everyone involved is a legal adult, it's not really my business to stick my nose in, but in passing I'd notice it and find it strange.

On a collective level I also don't think these "men" should be the standard of beauty uplifted among gays. When there's already a stereotype in conservative circles that gay men are predatory and are out to "recruit" your impressionable teen sons, I'll be honest I fucking hate seeing gay men perpetuating that narrative by uplifting/pursuing really boyish looking men. It's also why I hate movies like Call Me By Your Name, which promote pederasty, that's not positive representation for gay men, it plays into awful stereotypes. Yes, you have a valid point that straight men also fetishise "barely legal" girls, but we're not straight men, we're not seen as individuals and given the privilege of individuality the way they are. Also it is considered highly inappropriate for older straight men to pursue young girls, even if she is slightly over-age, it's not really defended by anyone on a widespread level.

Also side-note, tbh you're 33, it's not like you're totally "past it" as far as being able to get in shape. You're still at an age where you'd likely have a lot of energy and fairly decent metabolism to shift a lot of weight and even get quite toned. Lots of men in their 30s are still in great shape.
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby RJD » 16 November 2018, 01:39

Yeauxleaux wrote:On this forum, I feel like I'm gonna ruffle some feathers saying this, but fuck it I'm gonna stand by my opinions on this.

It does make me wonder sometimes. I don't like throwing out direct accusations, especially if you make a point of only dating men who are legal adults. However a part of me does find it real suspect, especially when it's not just younger men, but especially younger men who LOOK very pubescent and not fully developed (think Troye Sivan types). If you're a significantly older guy, I look at it almost like "Are you with him because that's the (legally anyway) closest you'll get to fucking a child?", because that's what it looks like to me. I feel this way especially when it's an apparently grown man being sought after who really does look like a child, I don't know how you can be attracted to that look but then not be attracted to actual children.

I don't really have a whopping great moral problem with it if everyone involved is a legal adult, it's not really my business to stick my nose in, but in passing I'd notice it and find it strange.

On a collective level I also don't think these "men" should be the standard of beauty uplifted among gays. When there's already a stereotype in conservative circles that gay men are predatory and are out to "recruit" your impressionable teen sons, I'll be honest I fucking hate seeing gay men perpetuating that narrative by uplifting/pursuing really boyish looking men. It's also why I hate movies like Call Me By Your Name, which promote pederasty, that's not positive representation for gay men, it plays into awful stereotypes. Yes, you have a valid point that straight men also fetishise "barely legal" girls, but we're not straight men, we're not seen as individuals and given the privilege of individuality the way they are. Also it is considered highly inappropriate for older straight men to pursue young girls, even if she is slightly over-age, it's not really defended by anyone on a widespread level.

Also side-note, tbh you're 33, it's not like you're totally "past it" as far as being able to get in shape. You're still at an age where you'd likely have a lot of energy and fairly decent metabolism to shift a lot of weight and even get quite toned. Lots of men in their 30s are still in great shape.


Totally agree with the legal age and the "he still looks like a kid" thing. I personally prefer people who look at least mid/late 20's, but I've never really bothered forming an opinion on other couples. Can't say I've ever thought "Oh that old dude is a perv", but I have looked around in bars and thought "Wow, he looks 15, I'm not accepting this drink..."
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Derek » 16 November 2018, 01:40

There's nothing legally wrong with it, and there's nothing morally wrong with it as long as you hold yourself to a decent standard of behavior. Based on how you describe yourself, though, it sounds like this attraction will remain hypothetical, so it doesn't really matter.

That said, I think it's a poor trait in a person and very likely indicative of other personality flaws.
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby PopTart » 16 November 2018, 02:18

This is tricky :P

I do agree with yeauxleaux on alot of points. I also agree with Zoop. :shrug:

Technically, there isn't anything wrong with it. So long as everyone is legal in age. Do I sometimes find an aversion to very large age gaps, yes and nowhere is it more noticeable than with the very young.

I was 17 when I slept with a guy who was 40, I was hit on by alot of older guys in bars, who were much older than me, I kinda liked it (teenage me was a major attention whore) but it was clear even to me, that they were interested in my youth, more than they were interested in me. That I looked an athletic 12, rather than the 17 I was. The 40 year old guy was different, in that we were friends for abit of time before hand and he was attracted to me more for who I was and not what I was. A teenage boy.

Looking back, do I see him as a letch? A perv? no, I knew alot of guys that hit on me who gave off that vibe. He wasn't one of them.

His interest wasn't limited to young boys as I had been, I knew him to have things with guys of a great many ages, I remember being mildly jealous of another guy he later got together with, who was in his thirties. :lol:

I think, for me, while 17 year old me, thought age was an arbitrary number, 35 year old me, sees things differently. I can appreciate the asthetic beauty of the Troye Sivans of the world, but it's often in that way of, I'd have loved to have met him when I was younger. :shrug: I struggle as is with people in their 20's.

And yeah, I was one of those people, that didn't adore Call Me By Your Name. Sure the book might be alright, but the film was horribly miscast in my opinion, I felt it said the wrong things.

I will admit that my views are slightly different too, if it's a question of just sex and a full on relationship (consent all around here too ofcourse!)

If everyone is happy and getting what they want out of something, fair enough, but a relationship between such a large age gap. It's got alot of challenges and raises some difficult dilemma's. I don't know where I stand on that one. :shrug:
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 16 November 2018, 07:31

Yeauxleaux wrote:On this forum, I feel like I'm gonna ruffle some feathers saying this, but fuck it I'm gonna stand by my opinions on this.

It does make me wonder sometimes. I don't like throwing out direct accusations, especially if you make a point of only dating men who are legal adults. However a part of me does find it real suspect, especially when it's not just younger men, but especially younger men who LOOK very pubescent and not fully developed (think Troye Sivan types). If you're a significantly older guy, I look at it almost like "Are you with him because that's the (legally anyway) closest you'll get to fucking a child?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umDr0mPuyQc
(watch video is not embodying, that is my reaction xD

I just googled Troye Sivan, i'm not pedo :D
As for i this Aussie (as they call themselves) look handsome :D
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Mitcham

Even though I'm really turned sexually by one professional skateboarder who just recently turned 18 :D
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 17 November 2018, 11:34

Gay-paul wrote:As for i this Aussie (as they call themselves) look handsome :D
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Mitcham
He's got better with age now he has some beardage going on.

Maybe it's my bias. Facial hair is one of those things that's a must for me, it's a very strong preference and there aren't many guys I find more attractive without it than with it (there are some but not many).
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 17 November 2018, 15:08

Derek wrote:There's nothing legally wrong with it, and there's nothing morally wrong with it as long as you hold yourself to a decent standard of behavior. Based on how you describe yourself, though, it sounds like this attraction will remain hypothetical, so it doesn't really matter.

That said, I think it's a poor trait in a person and very likely indicative of other personality flaws.

Now I see why you get so bothered when I bring up Gavin Macintosh. It’s the same response Trump supporters get when you confront them with topics related to decency and decorum.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 18 November 2018, 00:59

Yeauxleaux wrote:
Gay-paul wrote:As for i this Aussie (as they call themselves) look handsome :D
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Mitcham
He's got better with age now he has some beardage going on.

Maybe it's my bias. Facial hair is one of those things that's a must for me, it's a very strong preference and there aren't many guys I find more attractive without it than with it (there are some but not many).


It's the opposite of what I do not like guys with unshaven hair, although I have a problem with it myself, because due to my asperger I often forget to shave myself :-(
The guy should be handsome, strong, imperious, but above all shaved.
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby uncut7in » 18 November 2018, 15:46

As long as the younger guy is of legal age and consenting, I don't see there is a problem. I'm retired and happen to be attracted to and have sex with guys in the 18-25 age range. Both partners enjoy the experience.
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Nutbuttersauce » 18 November 2018, 16:40

Well I must admit I'm a week window shopper if I see a damn good looking man I will stare. But I will not touch any jail bait. I do like my freedom. With that said if a legal younger man had an interest in me I would definitely entertain the idea. Unfortunately since I have long hair and beard. I seem to scare most people which is a good and bad thing.
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Re: Does the fact i like young adults as in teens make me a perv?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 18 November 2018, 16:45

Nutbuttersauce wrote:Well I must admit I'm a week window shopper if I see a damn good looking man I will stare. But I will not touch any jail bait. I do like my freedom. With that said if a legal younger man had an interest in me I would definitely entertain the idea. Unfortunately since I have long hair and beard. I seem to scare most people which is a good and bad thing.


Lol :D
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Re: Does the fact I like young adults, as in teens, make me a perv?

Unread postby Eryx » 19 November 2018, 13:44

Very interesting thread! I never had any interest for younger guys, but I understand it I guess. As long as it's legal anyone can do whatever they want lol.
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Re: Does the fact I like young adults, as in teens, make me a perv?

Unread postby azgayguy » 24 November 2018, 02:12

Eryx wrote:Very interesting thread! I never had any interest for younger guys, but I understand it I guess. As long as it's legal anyone can do whatever they want lol.


Even in my 20's I did not like guys in their 20's. I have only topped one in his 20's and he topped me and we are planning another get together but that was it. He is a emo type but I really like the big hairy bear types, that gets me going.
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