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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby andyroo » 2 March 2019, 01:40

I don't know how effeminate I am. I used to measure it by how often I got asked if I was gay. Now, I never get asked so that no longer works. I think camp and creepy are quite close together. I don't have the sex appeal to be camp so I just seem creepy.

In terms of attraction, I think I like small guys to be 'masc' whereas I prefer big, beardy, muscular guys to be effeminate. And when I say masculine and effeminate, I'm only talking about they way they speak.

I know attraction isn't a conscious, personal choice and you don't owe anyone your erections, but widespread preferences may be caused by prejudice. It's not unreasonable for femmy guys to be frustrated over this. Especially when gay and effeminate are often equated. For people who were never good enough because they were gay / effeminate, coming out and going into the gay world to see that effeminate men are undesirable (according to some) there, too, is probably a bit shit, too.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby uncut7in » 26 May 2019, 12:55

Having sex with an effeminate guy wouldn't worry me in the slightest. I like guys who are feminine rather than masculine, cute rather than hunky, and I'm turned on by androgynous guys. My ideal partner would be short, slightly built, totally smooth, maybe with long blond hair.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby Jryski » 27 May 2019, 14:52

It really depends on who youre around. People usually think Im bi and some people can't tell what I am. Its normally around the more traditional, older people and I dont know how to describe this and I don't mean it in a racist way, but more "white" people that Im seen as effeminate and girly. Ofc it doesnt help that Im a makeup artist and wear makeup sometimes as well as being asian and having softer features. The girls that are into anime and kpop usually go crazy for me though. What Im trying to say is it depends on where people are from and their culture. Boys that are born with softer more delicate features that act more feminine are super cute in my opinion. There's alot of people that are attracted to that as well as alot that aren't. What the gay community doesn't like I should say, is the lack of personality and the catty bitchy behavior usually exhibited by the feminine guys. They tend to fit into the obnoxious, attention seeking, and over the top stereotype associated with the feminine gay guys. Just be yourself and if you're feminine be feminine. Its super hot when someone is comfortable in their own skin. The stereotypical feminine guys who act super fake are definitely not attractive at all but the natural fem boys are definitely a catch.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby Wetone » 8 June 2019, 18:08

I think efeminit guys are so sexy the way they talk walk just the way they hold themselves the more fem the better
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby Softheart » 8 June 2019, 19:57

alilou wrote:What do you think guys?


I'm pretty much filling that role for my boyfriend. I'm not all that obvious in public, but I can be all he wants me to be everywhere else. In many ways I fulfill the role of his wife in domestic duties since he works full time in the medical equipment field, and that income allows me to work part time at a retail shop. So I take care of the bills, groceries, housekeeping and housekeeper, the lawn people, etc, and often meet him at the door in one of his dress shirts and panties. I admire a woman's sexuality with a man. It is very impressive, and I hope our relationship can continue to support it.

As far as early life, gay men never respected what masculinity I showed, and treated me like a little faggot anyway. In a strange way they taught me how to act so as to not have to compete with "real" men. I found lots of gay men interested in me for sex, but not that interested in having me on their arm most of the time. IMO, gay men don't want to be seen to benefit from the nurturing that a fem gay can provide to a relationship.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby Jzone » 8 June 2019, 21:23

I'm not attracted to fem guys -- not to pass any judgement, just not my thing. Just last night I was in line for drinks behind a couple that was practically a caricature of fem boys. I loved that they were comfortably out with their sexuality, and honestly, they looked fabulous. (The party was hosted by an older gay couple, so no surprise there.) It's just that every time these two opened their mouths the "gay speak" was soooo thick and feminine I had to try hard not to laugh. It was too much.

I can only imagine that they are from a big city with a large gay community where that behavior can pass without notice. Out of that context, it stood out like a sore thumb (or something). I found them very attractive as long as they refrained from speaking. Fortunately, they had nothing to prove to me.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby mxguy01 » 9 June 2019, 02:23

I'm thankful that we finally live in a day and age where it's ok to be yourself. Why judge on something that doesn't mean shit. While I'll say I'm not attracted to the femmine attention seekers, Im not going to judge them on that but rather just assume they have a need.

Now the cute asain, who was tall and slim, but bounced up and down, in the most sincere queer way, just rocked my boat! Attraction/non-attraction is way different than judging.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby AndyBB77 » 9 June 2019, 16:41

Hi alilou, I'm very similar. I'm tall skinny and very fem looking and I also occasionally crossdress. Fem guys have come a long way when I was going through my emo phase I was more popular than ever. They may not be attracted to you but they will accept you, I think the ones who don't like fem guys are the minority. I think some guys just don't get why we want to look feminine, but it's just the way we are and they just have to accept it.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby Jzone » 10 June 2019, 01:08

AndyBB77 wrote:Hi alilou, I'm very similar. I'm tall skinny and very fem looking and I also occasionally crossdress. Fem guys have come a long way when I was going through my emo phase I was more popular than ever. They may not be attracted to you but they will accept you, I think the ones who don't like fem guys are the minority. I think some guys just don't get why we want to look feminine, but it's just the way we are and they just have to accept it.

You're right, I just don't get why you want to look feminine. I do get that that is the way you are, and I'm fine with that. There seem to be plenty of guys who are looking for that -- I'm not one of them. I might be happy to spend time with you, go out for dinner with friends, chat late into the evening, etc, but I won't invite you back to my place after. Not sure if I'm in a minority or not, but I don't give a fuck.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby AndyBB77 » 16 June 2019, 09:53

I get you, Jzone. I don't really try to look fem it's just the way I was born. Very high cheekbones and a very soft, or weak as my dad used to call it, chin. I used to crossdress because I looked good, but over time I realized I was attracting the wrong kind of guy so I don't dress that much anymore. But I know not everyone is attracted to fem guys, it's all about preference. Hey, I go drinking with a group of guys who I know only really one likes me sexually, but I'm fine with that. I'm the same with fat guys, I just don't see the attraction but some guys go crazy over them.
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Re: Effeminate guys

Unread postby uncut7in » 16 June 2019, 12:29

I do make a difference between effeminate and feminine guys. I'm not attracted to guys with very camp mannerisms, but I do like guys who are feminne-looking or androgynous - beautiful rather than handsome you might say.
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