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Fetish, what to do?

Unread postby SFFLM » 5 November 2019, 00:00

Nearing 30yo male, have been in a settled relationship with a man for 5 years. Bedroom time is a rarity in the relationship but the rest is good, dates, etc.

I have had this fascination with men wearing leather gear for many years, ie. Biker gear, trousers, harness, etc. It has got to the stage where any men I find even slightly attractive I am picturing them in it. My other half has made it clear in the past that he does not like leather and would not try it. Then following this has mocked me for years anytime we see a biker on the road or anything of the likes.

I would never cheat and don't plan on it but know nothing will happen in this relationship regarding my desire and it kills me that I may never experience it.

Can anyone share advice or stories which may be in relation to this?

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Re: Fetish, what to do?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 5 November 2019, 02:03

Honestly I think it sucks if a partner wouldn't do something so simple as wearing a little leather to light the spark for his guy.
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Re: Fetish, what to do?

Unread postby SFFLM » 5 November 2019, 16:05

Thanks for your reply. At this stage after the mocking and lack of interest I would just find it weird if he were to suggest trying it out
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Re: Fetish, what to do?

Unread postby rxxli » 6 November 2019, 15:51

Relationships are based on compromises. Probably your partner has fetishes or fantasies of his own... See what they are and propose a bit of a trade. You try to accommodate his fetish and he yours.
Maybe ask him to do something simple for your birthday or other special occasion.
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Re: Fetish, what to do?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 15 November 2019, 15:28

Seems to be just an unlucky quirk of fate that he does not like to wear leathers. I can understand your site in this, since I share that fetish and the craving that comes with it.
Yet I wouldn't advise trying to somehow push fetish gear onto someone who just doesn't like it. He could have a reaction or something, he could just despise leathers or the smell, the feel of it. He could think about fetishes as strange or he can't understand the turn on in this, thinking it makes him less worth being desired, as the man he is. All such kinds of thoughts may bubble up - never know.

It's possible to live out the fetish alone, or fabricate a dummy of sorts. That's what I do all the time. Pull some skidoo coveralls into another and stuff them with pillows or random old clothes and put the leathers on the outside. Helmet and Boots, gloves, leather mask. Makes it look like a human shaped dummy.
You could keep it some place else of which he doesn't know, then play pretend the dummy was your leathered dude.
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