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When were you first attracted to adult men?

I was attracted to men since I was a young boy.
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I was attracted to other boys when I was growing up and only grew into men as I became one.
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first attraction to men?

Unread postby OutOfPlay » 30 June 2019, 15:20

I knew I was gay when I was 12 and had my first crush on my sister's 17 year old boyfriend. In High School I had crushes on other students, usually a year or two older, but NEVER on any adult teachers. It was the same at college and I wasn't attracted to full grown adult men until 4 or 5 years into my career when I was seduced by a man at work who was in his late 30's.

My room mate in college was also gay (luckily we were never attracted to each other!) One time we were talking about when we first knew and he said it was in the early 90's when he was 12 and had a major crush on Richard Gere. I thought this was so strange and that he was weird until my current boyfriend told me that he remembers being attracted to men when he was 7 - 8 years old.

So I would like to do a poll. Were you attracted to men since you were a young boy or were you attracted to other boys and grew into men as you grew older?
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 30 June 2019, 23:21

Both men and boys actually when I was a kid/teen, just grew out of the attraction to boys as I got older like most people do.

I've pretty much only ever been attracted to my age or older (or maybe very slightly younger). It seems as I get older I just lose interest in whatever age is a couple years below me, but I remain open to significantly older men. Now I'm in my late 20s, I'm not really into guys in their early 20s anymore unless they look older. I'm regularly attracted to men in their 30s or even 40s if they're taking good care of themselves and aging well.

It was very subconscious pre-puberty, I never really realised what I was doing at the time, but I now realise in hindsight I was checking out other boys and men from a really young age. Good looking guys would just catch my attention for some reason.

I gradually became self-aware in my teens.
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby Oztrich » 3 July 2019, 18:48

I could not vote on this. I was a teen when I fully realized that I was happy with either gender. For me, yes, it's about the sex... BUT! It's more about the person than whether they have a penis or a vagina.

But my first real attraction to a man was an accidental discovery. I spent an entire weekend with a guy - a friend - and found myself looking forward to seeing him again as I headed off to my own place on a bus. Leaving him was difficult. On the bus I had a pleasantly sore butt, some of his sperm had dried on my stomach not long before, and I found myself thinking of him and the weekend. Looking around the bus, I kept thinking, "If they only knew!"

The following weekend I spent with him again. I couldn't wait to see him again... I knew then that it was a deep attraction to another man.
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 3 July 2019, 22:04

When I was a kid, I could have been with a kid-teen range.
When I was a teen, I could have been with a teen/young-man
when I was a young-man I could have been with a young-man,
when I was middle aged, I could have been with a younger man or someone middle aged if in good shape.
Now I'm so damn picky they tend to fall between 30-40.
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby Iamjava » 4 July 2019, 01:23

I was attracted to boys as a boy (and girls at the time) but grew into piking men.
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby Curious5 » 4 July 2019, 11:36

I became attracted to men few years back but I still have not been with a man yet, though the desire grows stronger every day tbh.
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 4 July 2019, 16:42

My uncle was rather cruel to his son, so my cousin came to stay with us (my grandparents and mother -- his mother was my mother's sister). When he came it was his paternal grandparents and an uncle who was in his 20's. who drove him to our state

That uncle got up the next morning just wearing his underware: his entire body was covered with beautiful dark fur from head to toe. I was only 4.5 years old, but I felt like a moth attracted to the light.

There were very few boys my own age that I was ever attracted to. I was always attracted to the secondary characteristics of manhood that don't kick in until testosterone affects men during puberty: broad shoulders, deep voice, muscles, and of course for some beautiful body hair, to name a few things.

Emotionally, I was always attracted to older men. I think it was partially because when I did finally live with my dad (11-14) he turned out to be a cruel jack ass. (We made our peace before he died, but perhaps this may make sense to someone who had a similar problem with their dad. I will always love my father, but I never liked the man.)

I must say I had some very shameful habits during my teen years. I wanted so bad to touch the behinds of adult men, but I knew I would get beat up if I did. So I had a bad habit of patting women on the behind as a poor substitute. It was stupid and rude. I wish I could go back in time and change my behavior.

I didn't know the mechanics of gay sex, but there was always something special about some guy's behinds that I gravitated towards. (As an example in the TV world, Robert Conrad from the Wild Wild West had such a handsome face, and beautiful behind that those tight pants he wore always showed off. Most of you are twoo young to know that, but TV shows do have lots of reruns.)

I was never a crotch watcher, but I was definitely an ass man. It is funny that when I was in high school, I tried to read up about sex. For some reason I was under the impression that vaginas were like milking machines from the way they described the female orgasm and including muscle contractions (I had no idea about male thrusting -- beyond the silly behavior of male dogs that they sometimes exhibit on someone's leg.) So I figured sticking your cock in a guy's ass would only lead to feeling connected -- not orgasm because there were no muscle contractions as described in female orgasm. (Since gay sex is usually not in text books you don't hear about the wonderful contractions of the asshole when the prostate contracts at orgasm!)


With my religious background, I was afraid that if I ever did gay sex, God would probably take my grandma life. Thus I didn't have my first encounter until I was 21.5 years of age. (There comes a time in life when sexual urges are SO strong that it trumps any hang ups to getting it on (religious, social, shyness, etc).

I remember the day well 15 Aug -- The Assumption of Mary. To be honest the guy was unattractive -- skinny, bulging eyes, thick glasses, smokers breath. He was so manly with his deep voice. I was attracted to his voice like the mythological story of Pan attracting children with his music.

To be honest, I think I just wanted a friend I could confide in to try to understand these feelings I had. He however was only interested in having sex with someone new. I would visit him, Then one day on one of my attempted visits. I knew he was home, but no one answered the door. As I was leaving I saw a kid -- maybe 15 look out behind the window. I was devastated as I thought he had feelings for me even if all I felt I wanted was friendship.

To quickly summarize, I had sex with him a week later. Not because he was hot, not because I was in love, but because I wanted to prove I was as sexually desirable as the young teen he had looking out the kitchen window. Sadly, the sex sucked -- pun intended.

I had sex with several guys over the next couple or so years after that. Each time made me wonder why I did it as I disliked it. I know emotionally I loved being close to a man -- his warmth, his scent, his sounds, his dense body mass of muscles. But I couldn't care less about how they all seemed to want to bang my mouth or ass with their penises. I figured there must be some curse of homosexuality -- desiring a man's love love and closeness, but having miserable sex. Finally, one day a guy let me fuck him, then my outlook changed -- gay sex could be indescribably beautiful.

In some ways I'm still glad I waited until I was 21.5 to have sex. Yes my orientation was top even as a teen. Had I found an adult who was willing to bottom that early , I might have found sexual fulfillment at a much earlier age. However, most guys who are fixated on youth, outgrow their interest when you get older. I would have been devastated to on one hand find sexual paradise while finding emotional hell when the guy said time to move on because you are getting too old for him.

As to the bottom experiences, though I would have been happier never to have had them, perhaps it gave me an appreciation and respect for bottoms. You should never treat a bottom like he is an object and something beneath you. You should always do everything in your power to make sure he is thoroughly enjoying himself too. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate the privileged of being inside him.

I also find that the best outcome is when the bottom sets the pace for when you have sex. By myself, I was way too oversexed. My record was j/o'ing 17 times in 24 hours when I was 17. (I had read my first gay porn story book about sex in prison with stories about butch men getting fucked and enjoying it. While some may be proud of such, so much time was wasted in sex and thoughts of sex that nothing else got done. When I met my current partner, I remember one of our early fucks, when he said we need to stop and go meet his friends. He promised we would pick up where we left off later that night. While I ached to get off, that promise made all the difference. Sometimes I wonder if my over-sex drive was partially the fear that I would have a sexual dry spell if I didn't get off while I had the chance.

I miss being inside my guy every day, but that is where love trumps even hot sex. If the tables had been reversed and my cock worked like it used to, but he couldn't be fucked anymore, I'd never leave him. I also wouldn't have the heart to be with someone else even if it was a quick meaningless encounter. We have our spats at times, but my guy is wonderful

I still remember waking up last fall from my sedated state (I almost died from West Nile). There was my guy right there by my side. You would never know he was gay unless he told you, and yet this butch man cried as he told me that I almost died. (I was so out of it, that all I had remembered is having something like a flu. Then boom about 3 weeks later, waking up.) His life was a worse hell than mine (that I just slept through) as he took care of all our animals at the farm, and the dogs and cat, then drove to the hospital to spend his day at the hospital hoping I would wake up. At the same time, his mother getting diagnosed with cancer. (I hope to God I never put him through such an ordeal again.)

Being inside a guy's ass is to die for, having a man's love and devotion to that level is to live for each day. (I will never understand so many guys who crave cock, but have no interest in the man behind the cock. I know that sexuality runs through a broad spectrum, but to dissect a body part from the human being isn't about a fetish but about being a callous individual. As much as I crave the male behind, I have the courage and the wisdom to admit that a man's best feature is really his heart. If he has a kind one, keep him in your life and cherish him.)
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby uncut7in » 4 July 2019, 20:55

I was attracted to boys not girls through my teens, but not older guys. I didn't think of it as being gay, as there were no positive role models then. By my early 20s I knew I was gay and attracted to other men, though I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 31 - he was a couple of years older.
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby Bli6485 » 21 July 2019, 19:44

I used to work seasonally as a bartender for this guy who ran a gay bar. He would call me in for special events or certain holidays if he new it would be hectic. I was about 22 at the time and up until that point i had never felt a connection with a guy like i did with him. Theres was always this really awkward and probably really obvious sexual tension between us but he has a boyfriend so neither of us ever really pursued it
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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby Jryski » 22 July 2019, 02:46

NobodySpecial wrote:My uncle was rather cruel to his son, so my cousin came to stay with us (my grandparents and mother -- his mother was my mother's sister). When he came it was his paternal grandparents and an uncle who was in his 20's. who drove him to our state

That uncle got up the next morning just wearing his underware: his entire body was covered with beautiful dark fur from head to toe. I was only 4.5 years old, but I felt like a moth attracted to the light.

There were very few boys my own age that I was ever attracted to. I was always attracted to the secondary characteristics of manhood that don't kick in until testosterone affects men during puberty: broad shoulders, deep voice, muscles, and of course for some beautiful body hair, to name a few things.

Emotionally, I was always attracted to older men. I think it was partially because when I did finally live with my dad (11-14) he turned out to be a cruel jack ass. (We made our peace before he died, but perhaps this may make sense to someone who had a similar problem with their dad. I will always love my father, but I never liked the man.)

I must say I had some very shameful habits during my teen years. I wanted so bad to touch the behinds of adult men, but I knew I would get beat up if I did. So I had a bad habit of patting women on the behind as a poor substitute. It was stupid and rude. I wish I could go back in time and change my behavior.

I didn't know the mechanics of gay sex, but there was always something special about some guy's behinds that I gravitated towards. (As an example in the TV world, Robert Conrad from the Wild Wild West had such a handsome face, and beautiful behind that those tight pants he wore always showed off. Most of you are twoo young to know that, but TV shows do have lots of reruns.)

I was never a crotch watcher, but I was definitely an ass man. It is funny that when I was in high school, I tried to read up about sex. For some reason I was under the impression that vaginas were like milking machines from the way they described the female orgasm and including muscle contractions (I had no idea about male thrusting -- beyond the silly behavior of male dogs that they sometimes exhibit on someone's leg.) So I figured sticking your cock in a guy's ass would only lead to feeling connected -- not orgasm because there were no muscle contractions as described in female orgasm. (Since gay sex is usually not in text books you don't hear about the wonderful contractions of the asshole when the prostate contracts at orgasm!)


With my religious background, I was afraid that if I ever did gay sex, God would probably take my grandma life. Thus I didn't have my first encounter until I was 21.5 years of age. (There comes a time in life when sexual urges are SO strong that it trumps any hang ups to getting it on (religious, social, shyness, etc).

I remember the day well 15 Aug -- The Assumption of Mary. To be honest the guy was unattractive -- skinny, bulging eyes, thick glasses, smokers breath. He was so manly with his deep voice. I was attracted to his voice like the mythological story of Pan attracting children with his music.

To be honest, I think I just wanted a friend I could confide in to try to understand these feelings I had. He however was only interested in having sex with someone new. I would visit him, Then one day on one of my attempted visits. I knew he was home, but no one answered the door. As I was leaving I saw a kid -- maybe 15 look out behind the window. I was devastated as I thought he had feelings for me even if all I felt I wanted was friendship.

To quickly summarize, I had sex with him a week later. Not because he was hot, not because I was in love, but because I wanted to prove I was as sexually desirable as the young teen he had looking out the kitchen window. Sadly, the sex sucked -- pun intended.

I had sex with several guys over the next couple or so years after that. Each time made me wonder why I did it as I disliked it. I know emotionally I loved being close to a man -- his warmth, his scent, his sounds, his dense body mass of muscles. But I couldn't care less about how they all seemed to want to bang my mouth or ass with their penises. I figured there must be some curse of homosexuality -- desiring a man's love love and closeness, but having miserable sex. Finally, one day a guy let me fuck him, then my outlook changed -- gay sex could be indescribably beautiful.

In some ways I'm still glad I waited until I was 21.5 to have sex. Yes my orientation was top even as a teen. Had I found an adult who was willing to bottom that early , I might have found sexual fulfillment at a much earlier age. However, most guys who are fixated on youth, outgrow their interest when you get older. I would have been devastated to on one hand find sexual paradise while finding emotional hell when the guy said time to move on because you are getting too old for him.

As to the bottom experiences, though I would have been happier never to have had them, perhaps it gave me an appreciation and respect for bottoms. You should never treat a bottom like he is an object and something beneath you. You should always do everything in your power to make sure he is thoroughly enjoying himself too. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate the privileged of being inside him.

I also find that the best outcome is when the bottom sets the pace for when you have sex. By myself, I was way too oversexed. My record was j/o'ing 17 times in 24 hours when I was 17. (I had read my first gay porn story book about sex in prison with stories about butch men getting fucked and enjoying it. While some may be proud of such, so much time was wasted in sex and thoughts of sex that nothing else got done. When I met my current partner, I remember one of our early fucks, when he said we need to stop and go meet his friends. He promised we would pick up where we left off later that night. While I ached to get off, that promise made all the difference. Sometimes I wonder if my over-sex drive was partially the fear that I would have a sexual dry spell if I didn't get off while I had the chance.

I miss being inside my guy every day, but that is where love trumps even hot sex. If the tables had been reversed and my cock worked like it used to, but he couldn't be fucked anymore, I'd never leave him. I also wouldn't have the heart to be with someone else even if it was a quick meaningless encounter. We have our spats at times, but my guy is wonderful

I still remember waking up last fall from my sedated state (I almost died from West Nile). There was my guy right there by my side. You would never know he was gay unless he told you, and yet this butch man cried as he told me that I almost died. (I was so out of it, that all I had remembered is having something like a flu. Then boom about 3 weeks later, waking up.) His life was a worse hell than mine (that I just slept through) as he took care of all our animals at the farm, and the dogs and cat, then drove to the hospital to spend his day at the hospital hoping I would wake up. At the same time, his mother getting diagnosed with cancer. (I hope to God I never put him through such an ordeal again.)

Being inside a guy's ass is to die for, having a man's love and devotion to that level is to live for each day. (I will never understand so many guys who crave cock, but have no interest in the man behind the cock. I know that sexuality runs through a broad spectrum, but to dissect a body part from the human being isn't about a fetish but about being a callous individual. As much as I crave the male behind, I have the courage and the wisdom to admit that a man's best feature is really his heart. If he has a kind one, keep him in your life and cherish him.)

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Re: first attraction to men?

Unread postby 02cscott » 26 July 2019, 15:58

I was about 14 when I had my first crush on a guy and it freaked me out big time. It was the guy who played Peter in the Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe film Hahaha
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