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First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby Logharr33 » 22 February 2018, 20:20

I want to bottom for my first time, and I found a guy I think i’d feel comfortable doing it with. But he is about 8-9 inches, which I know could cause problems (pain). Am I out of my mind to try that big for my first time? Any advice on that? As I said I think I could enjoy bottoming for him. Mostly just a size thing.
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Re: First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby lynx » 23 February 2018, 07:54

Wow, your first time bottoming.

Rule number one is make him get tested. The reality is a lot of gay and bi guys engage in unprotected sex like they were discussing the weather. And while a lot don't, it's impossible to tell who does and who doesn't just from meeting and knowing a guy. As a newfound bottom, your top priority is to get through life without contracting a sexual virus. It benefits the community as a whole. If he says he wont get tested, that either means he has had a lot of unprotected sex such that he is scared the results might come back positive or he's just not interested enough in you to go through that trouble (in which case there's no reason to be sleeping with him).

Rule number two is choose your penises wisely. By that I mean size, look, smell, feel. I assume you want to get through life without having your anus "destroyed." This means, first off, not having sex with guys that are well-endowed. Nine inches sounds well-endowed. You would be permanently stretched after so many times. Preparing for fellatio will also present you with a good opportunity to determine sanitization issues. If his penis has weird colorations, bumps, funguses or spots on it, or stinks like two day old"butt", you might want to consider passing. If he didn't take the time to clean in the shower for you, get rid of him. he doesn't respect you.

Rule number three: Make sure he wears a condom. Even if he says you are clean and/or his test results come back negative still make him wear a condom (obviously if test results come back positive that's a no go on the sex). Always make him wear a condom. More importantly, if he doesn't bring up wearing a condom, you may want to consider kicking him to the curb. Buy the condoms yourself so you know they haven't been sitting in his drawer since 2015. Make sure you buy the right sized condoms. Also use lots of lube so as to avoid breakage.

Rule number four is cleanliness. Naturally, if and when he does achieve penetration, assuming he even lasts more than a minute, you want to be clean so there's no messy stuff. That said, anything can happen. but it would be tremendously disrespectful of you to not to engage in the cleaning process beforehand.

Rule number five: Help Him Insert. Even if he wears a condom, there's no telling whether he will slip it off during sex. Remember, this is only your first time with the guy, you don't know what he's really like. By helping him to insert it, you can check to make sure that it's still on. The guy topping may have difficulty locating the precise entry point, so it gives you a good excuse. Missionary position is also ideal as that makes it harder for him to slip the condom off right under your nose. "doggy style" puts you in a blindspot, but if you must do it, you can casually reach back pretending to help him find the point of insertion while simultaneously verifying he still has it on. You should also check like this at regular intervals to make sure that the condom is where it is supposed to be and hasn't begun to unroll towards the tip of his penis.

Rule number six is accept pain. As a newbie, you are very, very tight. At his size, don't count on him being able to penetrate you upon first meeting. If and when he does, I would assume that you are in for a nightmare of a time. All the advice about being relaxed will go out the window once your body comes under the stress of having a big penis trying to enter it through a tight opening. You just need to like deal with it. Scream if you must but know that with each scream you are one step closer to enlightenment (hopefully).Anal sex can be very pleasurable but there is always pain involved in the entry (unless his is like a pencil shape or you have been permanently stretched -- in which case see rule number two).
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Re: First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby Mayn » 7 January 2020, 07:00

Just relax and enjoy the experience.
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Re: First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby René » 9 January 2020, 18:23

Bit late for the OP, but here is some general advice I just posted somewhere else, for anyone else who comes across this based on the thread title:

For cleanliness, it's very helpful to make sure you're eating a good diet with plenty of fibre (ideally the recommended 38 grams a day for men); a good breakfast cereal will have a decent amount and you can mix it with All-Bran or something similar to increase your fibre intake. Always go for 100% wholegrain products (among cereal, bread, biscuits etc.) over refined grain. Choose high-cacao dark chocolate over milk chocolate and you can get some fibre from there as well. Plenty of fruits & veggies. Leave the skins on apples and potatoes etc.

Also, the most comfortable way for the penis to enter you IME is to sit on top of it and guide it in yourself. That gives you a lot more control over the process. Needless to say, plenty of appropriate lubricant should be used, and it is helpful to apply some yourself using a finger prior to entry (of course make sure your nails are short and filed around so they're not sharp :D).

It won't necessarily be painful, but for most people it is the first time, especially if the penis is rather large.
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Re: First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby Eos » 9 January 2020, 20:32

I really want to prepare myself even more but I'm still afraid of buying dildos... I mean, I'm having a lot of pleasure with my finger why would I try something different ?
And I'm afraid of buying one, either through internet (I don't how the package would like and if the one who deliver it will know what it is) or IRL for obvious reasons. And I don't know what I should take. And I won't like to have to hide something like this, especially since I'll need some help to move out.
I know I'm overthinking things but I still can't find a way to make up my mind.
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Re: First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby René » 9 January 2020, 21:06

Eos wrote:I don't how the package would like and if the one who deliver it will know what it is

Brown cardboard most likely, with a label with your address on it. It will not have any details about what's inside, unless you order something from outside the EU or something that contains a battery.
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Re: First time bottom, any advice?

Unread postby wanker » 10 January 2020, 21:24

Catch on cam that exquisite moment.
You never get a second chance to bottom for the first time again.
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