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Following through with hookup for the first time.

Unread postby Rawbone » 17 July 2022, 18:15

I'm 28 and have been straight my whole life until a few years ago when I finally started thinking about bottoming. I've talked to a few guys to hookup with but have never followed through before. I have been into playing with myself for some time, but am anxious/nervous to finally try. How do you think I can overcome this?
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Re: Following through with hookup for the first time.

Unread postby René » 17 July 2022, 18:49

It's a lot to suddenly jump in bed with a guy for the first time. You might find it easier to find a guy who seems interesting and meet up for something more like a date. Get to know him a little, make sure he's a good guy, talk about how you feel, including your nervousness, that you've never been with a guy before (nothing to be embarrassed about). Then *if* you decide he's nice and if you both decide you want to do anything more intimate, it won't be such a big ominous thing and hopefully he'll give you a nice gentle introduction.

Note you don't have to jump straight to anal sex. (If you do, though, be sure to use an appropriately sized condom and ideally get on PrEP first for protection against HIV, and note that foreplay can be very helpful for both tops and bottoms.) You can always try just kissing, cuddling, mutual masturbation, oral, or anything you feel like, depending on what the other guy is up for also.

Hope this helps! Good luck! Let us know what happens :keke:
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Re: Following through with hookup for the first time.

Unread postby weedan » 24 July 2022, 22:24

I second what Rene has said, and would like to add that talk to your date first to let him know what your limits are to start with, that way there should be no misunderstandings.
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