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Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby TheBrabant » 31 December 2021, 22:12

Hey everyone. First time visiting this forum (and posting here) but I've got something on my mind. A couple of weeks ago during a lunch break at work (I'm in delivery) I parked my car somewhere which turned out to be a pretty well known cruising area for men (it's called Vaarle). I was just standing there, watching some Netflix when I noticed someone with his penis outside his pants, walking around, obviously looking for some action. Just playing with it a little bit while doing so.

I had heard of these places but never really gave it any attention. What I did notice however was that I got turned on. Not necessarily because of the guy, but because of the sexual tension if that makes any sense. After that encounter I got on my way, got back to work, but I had this desire to find out more, so I returned to this parking lot after work (around 22.00). Parked my car and there were other cars, and occasionally some men walking around, but I didn't know how to handle this new situation and I was scared out of my mind. I probably just sat there in my car for a good 30 minutes, when I decided that this was enough for me. Started the car, started driving, figured out I wanted to take a piss before the 30 minute ride home so did that of in some dark corner. Got back into the car and I noticed this dude walking up to my car. I was already inside but hadn't started the car yet, so no lights and windows up, but this guy started masturbating himself next to my car. Again, here I was, scared shitless, but it turned me on, so I decided to roll the window down... This guy came through the window, unzipped my pants and started giving me a blowjob. I figured to give him a handjob. While this was happening two other dudes came over and I think they were about to have full on sex, but after I came I flinched, started the car and drove off.

Here's the thing though: I've got a wonderful girlfriend, we're living together and I'm not in any way attracted to men. I also do not enjoy the idea of having actual sex with men, but handjobs and oral work somehow fascinate me in a sexual way. This one experience has me wanting more, but I have no idea where to look or how all this works. Are there do's and don'ts? Is there etiquette? Are there signals? Is there talking involved or not? How do I know how to give a blowjob or handjob to someone else? Anyone here that can point a newcomer in the right direction? :P
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 31 December 2021, 23:11

“I promise, Officer! It’s not what it looks like! I didn’t know this was a place men came to have sex, I just came here to watch Netflix and I tripped and my penis came out and fell into his mouth! I’m straight, I have a girlfriend! This is all a big misunderstanding!”

Let’s put the pretence, convinced though we all were by it, to one side.

I think it’s a stretch to say that you’re in no may attracted to men whatsoever when you go to the park every day after work to get blown and give out handjobs to strangers. Take the time to be honest with us, if nobody else. Rare will be other opportunities for you to shelter behind the veil of anonymity.
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby TheBrabant » 1 January 2022, 18:12

I can't change the way it all happened. It's not like I came there 'watching Netflix' the first time. The first time I just parked because it was the last parking place before my first delivery. The second time was after work and that time I was curious as to what would happen.

But yeah, in no way am I attracted to men. It's also not like I wanna give blowjobs and handjobs everyday either. I'd like to be on the receiving end to be honest, but I can't deny that I'm curious as to what it's like to be on the other side.
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby René » 1 January 2022, 19:11

Be aware that you're putting yourself at risk of STIs, some of which can't be cured and may increase your risk of developing serious illnesses like cancer and Alzheimer's Disease later in life. At the very least, you should sign up with a sexual health clinic and get HPV (and Hepatitis A & B) vaccination and regular testing. These will not cover all (strains of) STIs but will reduce your risk to some extent.
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby asianduck888 » 2 January 2022, 14:03

there are some STD can transmitted by getting blowjob, even being gay i have no eager to do random cruising. because i believe there are some guy didn't give a shit about STD, they just do it for pleasure and don't give a fuck if they transmit to other.
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby pozzie » 2 January 2022, 21:27

There probably is some universally understood etiquette related to cruising, but there are also local 'rules' and absolutely localized signs, signals, and locations. Also, it clearly sounds like the locale described is fairly loosely or not controlled. I wouldn't be surprised if nearby was a popular spot for shooting up or fencing stolen property.

But that said, I guess I don't feel particularly generous towards an MSM who uses gay men for a quickie. (Thanks for being a great example of a man who has sex with men (MSM) but in no way identifies as gay or bi.) If you are intent on getting your jollies in such a setting, my best advice is to actually get to know some of the regulars and have them school you in the ways of the Vaarle, but then knowing how to get talking right in a cruising spot is a relatively delicate art. After all, talking while cruising is often frowned upon.

However, that said, public m2m sex is commonly punished, even in relatively progressive communities, but clearly it still seems to exist.

I'm also not sure that it's any more or less risky than hooking up on some app. Sure there might be a way to report bad behavior and get someone banned from an app, but there's little stopping the same person from having (or starting) a second account. We fool ourselves when we think "He's nice, cleancut, etc. I'm sure he's social-disease free." Believe it or not, a dude doesn't turn skeezy when he catches the clap -- the two function entirely independent of each other.
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 2 January 2022, 21:42

TheBrabant wrote:But yeah, in no way am I attracted to men. It's also not like I wanna give blowjobs and handjobs everyday either. I'd like to be on the receiving end to be honest, but I can't deny that I'm curious as to what it's like to be on the other side.

Im not sure what you think the word “attracted” means.

You’re interested in engaging in sex with men. You’re actively pursuing the idea, because you are attracted to the idea of doing it. To the idea of having sex with men. You’re attracted to the idea of having sex with men. You’re attracted to men.

I don’t wanna beat you over the head with your own rationalisations, thin and senseless though they are, but why in the world are you lying to yourself? Much less lying to us, a group of international halfwits with no notion of who you are.

Get over yourself. Suck dick in as many car parks as takes your fancy if you want. It’s your life, do what makes you happy. Just afford us the courtesy of not lying to us about your motivations whilst simultaneously jerking off to the idea of confessing what you did to us. We’re not prostitutes, your sexual gratification isn’t what we’re here for.
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Re: Gay cruising? (I'm new to this)

Unread postby pozzie » 2 January 2022, 21:54

I think we're missing out on a lucrative opportunity. We should set up a site for guys to pay us to post about shemales, public sex, and getting wet and dirty! If each of those posts cost a dollar ...

I just know if I hang around here long enough a "bug chaser" will hunt me down. Jeesh, what an Internet we all live in.
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