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Unread postby Floridadude8484 » 15 January 2019, 03:36

Well, I'm a 34 bi oral masculine bottom. I think about hooking up constantly. I'm very particular in what I like and I can easily meet my wants. My problem is, as aroused as I get and want to hook up I get nervous when it's actually time to meet. What do.you guys think I should do?
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Unread postby betonhaus » 15 January 2019, 03:39

Best guess? Wank just before you meet. One thing I found worked great was to be in continuous communication over text right as you're meeting so you know what each other is thinking.
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Unread postby Eryx » 21 January 2019, 19:43

When single, I always get nervous right before meeting a new guy too. There's a lot of variables and as an anxious person, that can be overwhelming sometimes. I just power through it though, usually things mellow out after some conversation and a glass of water.
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Re: Hello. Need advice same here

Unread postby Jjaawlco » 7 April 2019, 16:52

I have the same issues floridadude, I have haff sex with men when I was in my thirties. Then got married, then divorced. I think about it constantly, and gay and bi porn is very erotic for me. I've been single for four years now and haven't been with a guy. Add with you, I ....cant seem to bring my self to following through with a meeting/ hookup. The managing beforehand isn't the answer for me, it has the opposite effect, especially if I cum, after I finish I have thoughts of gay sex being the worst thing I could do. Buy I always return to the porn and erotic thoughts
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Unread postby Eryx » 7 April 2019, 22:44

You need to work on accepting yourself so you can truly enjoy yourself. There's nothing wrong with gay sex. What's really unhealthy is to feel that there is.
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Unread postby jimjammin » 13 April 2019, 23:45

Stop putting expectations before you. In your mind resolve the matter beforehand. Plan to meet at one of your favorite places, (i.e. coffee shop, fast food chain, park, beach,...etc), then tell yourself, “...I am meeting this guy, if things don’t click at least I can enjoy my day here at....”). Don’t expect much, that way if things click then you are pleasantly surprised and that will just make you hornier. Have fun, and relax.
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