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HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Hendrik10255 » 30 July 2019, 05:00

Hi Guys,

for the past 8 months I have been experiencing extreme Anxiety of catching HIV.
last year November I really had a big scrare. I was sick for almost a month and I was scared to death that my Illness was due to HIV, i spent a lot of money going for different HIV tests ( Elisa, PCR, different instant tests) just to make sure I don't have HIV, I know the repeated testing was unnecessary.

My sexual life:
Because of my HIV Anxiety that started last year I chose to only have unprotected Oral sex (Mainly as the giver). I probably had Oral sex with about four or five guys this year. I know there is a minute chance of cathing HIV via Oral sex and a slighty higher chance for other STD's

My current situation:
for the past three weeks I've been feeling unwell. I have body aches ( Groin, Neck, under arms and chest), I had a headache for about a week, my mouth is dry and I have fatique. I don't have any swollen lymph nodes or a fever. I went to see the Dr and he suspected a Common viral infection. He gave me some meds but I still don't feel well.

Just like last year I have convinced myself that I acquired HIV, the only difference is I'm scared to death to go for an HIV test this time around. Does anyone else experience this type of Anxiety?
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 30 July 2019, 05:39

You have hypochondria. It’s not uncommon. Your best bet is to just try and consciously manage yourself.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Iamjava » 30 July 2019, 10:59

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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Hendrik10255 » 30 July 2019, 11:21

Thanks for the response Iamjave,

Is this really something I should be worrying about? My only exposure this year was Oral sex and I was definitely negative before. I know oral sex is a low risk.
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Unread postby Iamjava » 30 July 2019, 11:27

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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Eryx » 30 July 2019, 12:35

Yeah, I think you're worrying too much, especially if all you're doing unprotected is oral sex. Doesn't South Africa offer PrEP? If you get so anxious about it, maybe you should get under the treatment so that you're even more protected from HIV and can rest a little easier.

But even that might not help you if it's a psychological issue. Maybe you rationalize that you're anxious about HIV, but there's something about the sexual acts themselves that are triggering this response. A therapist is a good idea regardless of using PrEP or not.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Hendrik10255 » 30 July 2019, 12:43

Hi Eryx,

South Africa has the highest number of people living with HIV of any country ( about 7.5m people in South Africa has HIV). I think this statistic is what is driving the Anxiety
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Brenden » 30 July 2019, 12:48

Hendrik10255 wrote:Just like last year I have convinced myself that I acquired HIV, the only difference is I'm scared to death to go for an HIV test this time around.

Just go get tested if you think you have it. If you do, you're only making the situation worse by prolonging diagnoses. If you don't have it, you'll know and then can stop worrying about it.

By the way, the risk for receptive (and insertive) oral sex is less than 1 in 10,000 exposures. That means the odds of getting it each time you suck off someone who has it is less than 0.01%.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Hendrik10255 » 30 July 2019, 13:13

On my way now for a quick rapid test. The Anxiety is driving me crazy
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Eryx » 30 July 2019, 13:18

Here is all the information you need about PrEP in South Africa. From the way you're looking at this, it sounds like you need it.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Hendrik10255 » 30 July 2019, 13:25

Thanks. Should have done it a long time ago. Just really hoping for a negative result
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby rogonandi » 30 July 2019, 17:10

Iamjava wrote:Or see a therapist. Your brain can actually trick itself into thinking that it's sick.

Yes and stress itself can also make a person sick with cold/flu symptoms.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 30 July 2019, 18:22

Well one could simply go and get an HIV test. The rapid test part you get back right then and there, with certain time frames having high degree of accuracy. The other test results back typically within a few days. So not going and getting the HIV test is just being dumb.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 30 July 2019, 19:42

HIV transmissions through oral sex are so incredibly unlikely that the risk is considered negligible. If someone hypothetically did catch HIV through giving someone a blowjob, it would probably have to be through having like a mouth ulcer or bleeding gums and having perfect timing of the cum or precum hitting that specific spot in the mouth. Saliva is inhospitable to HIV so it has a hard time causing infection in that area of the body.

If you are using condoms whenever you have anal sex, or better yet if you are on PrEP like Eryx said (which I think it would definitely benefit someone like you to consider getting on), then your risk of catching it from anal sex is just as low as oral sex.

It is good to be prudent to some degree, especially if you are hooking up with different guys. I'd never go without a condom for anal sex with a guy I don't know well, especially whilst not on PrEP but probably even then. I'm stingy with the boypussy, to the point I haven't actually let anyone fuck me without a condom yet. However don't let it consume you. As long as you take the necessary precautions then you can enjoy sex without the worry that it's going to blow up in your face. Be aware of what the risks are and act accordingly, then stop worrying.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Iamjava » 30 July 2019, 21:42

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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Hendrik10255 » 31 July 2019, 14:58

I went for the HIV Rapid test yesterday (although it's been only four weeks since my last Oral exposure). I'm happy to say it was negative. I actually had to walk out of the clinic for 15 minutes whilst the test was 'running'. I fucking hate those tests!
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby Eryx » 31 July 2019, 15:05

I can't say I'm surprised... :P
But good for you! I hope you pay attention to our suggestion and seek a therapist. Becoming afraid of having HIV after every time you suck a dick or get sucked is overkill and way too stressful for anyone.
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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 31 July 2019, 15:42

I suggest you do some research on STDs and testing. You can start at https://www.cdc.gov/msmhealth/index.htm.

Once you get an established testing regiment going for your particular needs perhaps it will calm your fears.

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Re: HIV Anxiety - Is it just me?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 31 July 2019, 17:39

Have you tried lathering on some activated charcoal paraben-free soap on penises prior to sucking? Gwenyth Paltrow says that even one suck from an activated charcoaled penis can detoxify your body of all these bad chemicals we consume daily.
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