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Unread postby spens45 » 10 January 2020, 08:32

Hey there,
I struggle a lot with myself recently, as I cant handle my urge for sex and masturbation - plus I am really attracted to mature men, like really. Which kind of is a problem, as I am 19 and in a relationship with a boy my age. I love him, but there are like two sides of my self - the one that is happy in the relationship - the other one urging for rough sex with an older man. Every time after masturbating to porn containing what I would want to so badly (in that moment), I feel ashamed of myself. I know it would be wrong for me to hook up with men that age. I experienced it and liked it very much but afterwards, turning back to normal life and casual activities of a 19 year old, I cant understand why I fucked a 40 year old (or more).
Well, moreover I cant stop masturbating, even though I've got sex with my boyfriends regularly, which is a problem, regarding the fact that I wank to daddy porn..
Any advice? :heart:

By the way - I've got an excellent healthy relationship with my dad, so I don't think it's a father complex thing.
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Re: Hornyness and mature men

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 10 January 2020, 09:27

Hey.
It sounds to me like you have a really high sex drive with a particular attraction/kink thrown into the mix.
I don't really know that there's much you can do about it other than continue having sex and masturbating, or alternatively, end your current relationship and get involved with someone that fits the other criteria.
At the end of the day, it's a decision you need to make and live with. I'm not sure what the age of majority is where you live.
Should you choose to enter into a relationship with a much older man, just be prepared that not everyone will be accepting of it. Society has hang-ups regarding relationships that have such a large age gap, but that is society's problem. In the end, you and your partner need to be ok with it.

Wishing you all the best!
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Re: Hornyness and mature men

Unread postby spens45 » 10 January 2020, 10:05

Thanks for that wonderful response, i agree with you. It's still hard to face it as rationally as you do.. probably normal. What I'm scared of tho - what if it's just a sexually wild phase?
Spreading the news that I've got a boyfriend the age of my dad really would be a freaking tough one, couldn't even imagine that. Actually I think I wouldn't even want one as my partner - I'd only would want to have sex with one.
Man I really hate society sometimes, being me is an adventurous journey, but a tough one..
Don't know what to add anymore, but feels good to talk about it. Thanks a lot
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Unread postby rogonandi » 10 January 2020, 10:47

As long as you don’t actually cheat on your boyfriend with any other men older or otherwise I don’t think you have anything to worry about. What you jerk off to is your business and no one else’s. Don’t shame yourself over something that was entirely in your own mind.
Why are you?

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Unread postby spens45 » 10 January 2020, 13:01

rogonandi wrote:As long as you don’t actually cheat on your boyfriend with any other men older or otherwise I don’t think you have anything to worry about. What you jerk off to is your business and no one else’s. Don’t shame yourself over something that was entirely in your own mind.


No, I would never cheat on anyone.
Okay good to hear that from others, thanks:)
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Unread postby Willie » 13 January 2020, 02:37

It will get better as you get older (but not much).
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Unread postby Eryx » 13 January 2020, 17:24

Something similar happens to me, I kind of just got it out of my system by having the sex I wanted while I was single. Nowadays I'm with a 22-year-old and the porn I watch is usually related to what we tend to do in bed, so it's all good. Do you think your boyfriend would also be attracted to older guys? You could maybe invite people over just so that you can feel like you've done it. From then on you can masturbate to past experiences and that tends to do the trick (at least for me). Good luck!
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 13 January 2020, 17:34

I think you should also discuss it with your BF. Chances are he somewhat realizes already. What I'm saying is you should feel comfortable about talking about such things with the BF and done right he'll know he's still yours even if you have that attraction. Then who knows maybe for your birthday or some other special occasion he might arrange to get that out of your system as Eryx suggests. But more importantly, wouldn't this be a nice thing to be able to discuss with a BF (potential partner).
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Unread postby uncut7in » 14 January 2020, 21:51

I feel lucky that as a mature gay guy (72) that I still have a high sex drive, though it is variable so I might have sex twice a week then go a month or more without it. One thing I do find is that when I have an orgasm I have to recharge my batteries for 48 hours before having sex again.

One advantage of getting older is that I'm finding plenty of young guys who are attracted to older guys like me. At the moment I'm fucking a couple of 18 yr olds.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 14 January 2020, 22:12

Wow I guess your pretty coordinated that you can fuck a couple 18 y/o's while typing.
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Re: Hornyness and mature men

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 15 January 2020, 06:17

Too, think that might be some type of kink temptation, and you may like your BF even more, once you two grow like 35 and older, so it can only get better with additional years of age. ;)

I don't think you should break up with the BF just because of that kink thing, but you should talk to him about it at some point. A lot of people experience such certain temptations. When I was that age, I wanted to cuddle with a cute jet pilot in full gear, it almost got me to craft a dummy of sorts and try to dress it up. :lol:
I wrote to an USAF-pilot for some years and it got me get forbidden dreams of romance in flight gear and stuff that like.
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Re: Hornyness and mature men

Unread postby spens45 » 16 January 2020, 10:42

Eryx wrote:Something similar happens to me, I kind of just got it out of my system by having the sex I wanted while I was single. Nowadays I'm with a 22-year-old and the porn I watch is usually related to what we tend to do in bed, so it's all good. Do you think your boyfriend would also be attracted to older guys? You could maybe invite people over just so that you can feel like you've done it. From then on you can masturbate to past experiences and that tends to do the trick (at least for me). Good luck!


Maybe I also struggle with the lack of anal sex recently, it's always so much to prepare, which is why we keep on blowing each other, which is great also but I guess I might be craving for being topped again, and mature masculine men convey top vibes, there may be a connection.. might gonna put up that subject next time..
And in terms of inviting people over - I really dont know if I'm the person for threesomes, i really cant imagine it by now
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Unread postby spens45 » 16 January 2020, 10:45

mxguy01 wrote:I think you should also discuss it with your BF. Chances are he somewhat realizes already. What I'm saying is you should feel comfortable about talking about such things with the BF and done right he'll know he's still yours even if you have that attraction. Then who knows maybe for your birthday or some other special occasion he might arrange to get that out of your system as Eryx suggests. But more importantly, wouldn't this be a nice thing to be able to discuss with a BF (potential partner).



I know that talking is the best solution, yet I sometimes cant clearly figure out the issue myself, which is why I often tend to get over it on my own..
It's not that easy, especially in this case, as such kinks are being seen as socially awkward
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Unread postby spens45 » 16 January 2020, 10:47

uncut7in wrote:I feel lucky that as a mature gay guy (72) that I still have a high sex drive, though it is variable so I might have sex twice a week then go a month or more without it. One thing I do find is that when I have an orgasm I have to recharge my batteries for 48 hours before having sex again.

One advantage of getting older is that I'm finding plenty of young guys who are attracted to older guys like me. At the moment I'm fucking a couple of 18 yr olds.



Wow never seen guys older than 70 still into kinks like that, but good for you, bet you serve them right mister
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Unread postby spens45 » 16 January 2020, 10:51

GearFetTwinkRomance wrote:Too, think that might be some type of kink temptation, and you may like your BF even more, once you two grow like 35 and older, so it can only get better with additional years of age. ;)

I don't think you should break up with the BF just because of that kink thing, but you should talk to him about it at some point. A lot of people experience such certain temptations. When I was that age, I wanted to cuddle with a cute jet pilot in full gear, it almost got me to craft a dummy of sorts and try to dress it up. :lol:
I wrote to an USAF-pilot for some years and it got me get forbidden dreams of romance in flight gear and stuff that like.
I'm still dreaming about Twink dudes, but I would never like to suggest myself to one of them. They're there for all the other Twinks ( and for poolerboy, of course) :D


Yes i think so too! We're both pretty young, which i also like - u know being in the same state of life with all the unique experiences. I couldnt imagine being with a 40 years old as his partner, i am just reaally into getting laid by one.

Hahah can relate, I think pilotes are very handsome, especially with their sunglasses
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Unread postby Eryx » 16 January 2020, 14:52

spens45 wrote:Maybe I also struggle with the lack of anal sex recently, it's always so much to prepare, which is why we keep on blowing each other, which is great also but I guess I might be craving for being topped again, and mature masculine men convey top vibes, there may be a connection.. might gonna put up that subject next time..
And in terms of inviting people over - I really dont know if I'm the person for threesomes, i really cant imagine it by now
It's not really my thing either! I suggested it because maybe it could help, but don't feel like it's the only way out of things.

Getting over hang-ups and preparing less for anal sex might help you get more of it and feel more fulfilled :) as I said in a different thread, you don't need an enema for every time you fuck. If you get over the fact that it can get dirty (then just shower!) sometimes, there's way less pressure about it all.
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Re: Hornyness and mature men

Unread postby spens45 » 14 February 2020, 12:55

Short update:
I still am very attracted to mature men - but I had some quality time with my boy and we had some really good sex where I got the pleasure I desire, so I still wank to my fantasies about older men but I just separate my self pleasure and boyfriend pleasure, and I'm really okay with it.
In general, I guess I start to complain about stuff and be unsatisfied with e.g. my boyfriend, when I dont achieve things in life I'd like to. Just need a reminder sometimes..
Thanks for all your help and shared thoughts.
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Re: Hornyness and mature men

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 14 February 2020, 17:52

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there are too many teens with daddy issues. Kinda makes you wonder about the “30 is gay death” comment they all use.
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 14 February 2020, 17:57

poolerboy0077 wrote:I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there are too many teens with daddy issues. Kinda makes you wonder about the “30 is gay death” comment they all use.

I believe they use 25 as the milestone and you’ve just been in denial.
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