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How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby Lolo90 » 3 October 2019, 01:25

Hello everyone! I am wondering how i could tell my actual girlfriend that i am gay. Ive been with her for a year and a half but for a longtime ive been confused with my sexuality and its becoming clearer that I am gay. She loves me very much and i really don't know how to approach this. Im scared that i might destroy her and she doesnt deserve to suffer. Help me please!!
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby erti » 3 October 2019, 04:56

The best thing you can do is to be straight up honest. If you're not happy overall with women than it's best to end it before the relationship gets more serious than it already is. You don't want to be married and possibly have kids with this girlfriend only to decide you don't want that.
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby Eryx » 3 October 2019, 08:55

I agree with erti. Plus, the sooner you get it over with, the more time she'll have to find someone else who will be attracted to her. These kinds of things happen and we all need to be able to overcome them.
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby Lolo90 » 4 October 2019, 16:57

Yes you're right! The faster the better. It might hurt now but at least the healing process will come faster. Does anybody had to go through something like this and how long did it take you to overcome something like that?
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 7 October 2019, 11:56

I was in a serious relationship with a girl when I had to start accepting that I was gay. I'll admit, I took the "easy" way out and broke up with her for some other reason.
Truth be told, especially in hindsight, it would have been better for us both if I had told her the real reason why. As difficult as it may be for her to accept that you're gay, it will be more difficult and painful if you broke up with her for another reason. Knowing that you're gay helps reassure her that it is not her fault that things have not worked out.
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby Lolo90 » 8 October 2019, 02:46

I think you're right. Telling her the truth will be the best solution. When she realised that its not her the problem, she'll
Feel better i guess. Im so stressed to tell her im gay! Wish me luck! I feel like ill breath again after coming out to her!
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby Jzone » 8 October 2019, 03:15

Good man, Lolo. And good luck!
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Re: How to come out to your girlfriend?

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 8 October 2019, 12:20

All the best!
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