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Unread postby knd2020 » 24 June 2020, 17:25

Hi everyone,

I am in need of help. I’ve been with my husband for a little over 6 years. During my first pregnancy in 2016, I found that he was addicted to porn. I found mostly him chatting with transsexual people and watching transsexual porn. We talked about his addiction to porn and he told me he’d tone it down, which he did. I asked about the transsexual porn And if he was bi or gay but he didn’t say much just that it just happened to be one of the things he watched.... Around 7 months of pregnancy, I found out that he was about to leave me and was starting a relationship with his female co worker and was going to move out. We again talked about it, he told me they had exchanged pictures but nothing physically sexual had happened. It took a lot of realization of him to know what he was doing was wrong. Although he kept working at the same place, he ended cutting relationship ties With the female and maintained a professional relationship. Fast Forward to 2020.....at the beginning of the year I asked to use his phone to look up something since mine was dead....I noticed he had downloaded the grindr app. Of course I got upset but I asked him what this was about right then and there, he said that he was curious as to who is on the app. I didn’t buy it for one second. But I once again went against my instincts and ignored it and kept it moving. A few days ago i went to go get breakfast and came back and he busted out the bedroom. When he acts strange like that I know something is up. He didn’t have time to Close the web pages or porn and apparently forgot about it. We finished eating breakfast and he jumped right into the shower. Me being curious what he was hiding I checked his phone. He had about 10 webpages of selected transsexual videos that he had watched. I’m wanting to get a view from a mans Or transsexual persons perspective as to what might be happening? If he might be bisexual or if he might be gay. I have absolutely no problem if he comes out as gay to me. I am absolutely not one to judge or make him feel bad about what he is, but as a woman and mother I need to also look out for myself. I have emotions and needs too. It’s not fair to me to be neglected because my husband would rather be with a man. I’d rather he be straightforward with me so we can amicably separate and move on so we each can be happy. Any advice, feedback, or stories is certainly welcome. Thank you.
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby Derek » 24 June 2020, 18:43

Gay men generally don't watch trans porn, and straight men generally don't use Grindr. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Diagnosing his sexuality isn't going to help if the fundamental issue is that you don't trust him.
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby ThatNomad » 24 June 2020, 19:12

Derek wrote:Gay men generally don't watch trans porn, and straight men generally don't use Grindr. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Diagnosing his sexuality isn't going to help if the fundamental issue is that you don't trust him.


I have to second this. If you don't trust him, and he's given you plenty of reason not to trust him, I don't really think his sexuality is what's at issue here. His behavior is, as well as his disrespect towards you and your marriage, however, is definitely at issue.

As Derek pointed out, most gay men don't actively seek out trans porn, but there are likely exceptions to that. However I have never met a straight man who used Grindr. It is specifically set up for use by men seeking men. I fail to see what possible logical reason a non-gay male would have for using it.
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby Frigid » 25 June 2020, 17:53

He wants dick. Try a strap on if you’re into it or have it out with him.
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby Eryx » 25 June 2020, 19:20

I agree, the problem here isn't his sexuality, it's that he's chatting up other people and nearly had an affair with a coworker. There are more serious issues in this relationship than the fact that he enjoys trans porn.

As for his sexuality specifically, I don't think he's especially attracted to men, but maybe he's interested in women and penises, or transvestites specifically. That would be fine if it was just the porn, but some of his behavior tells me that he's reaching that point where he's going to act on it, or even already did.

You two need to have some very serious conversations or maybe seek therapy.

I applaud you for your patience and understanding, I don't think I'd be able to stand this for as long as you did.
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 26 June 2020, 05:07

Only straight guys like transexual porn. Well, a select few anyway. Gay guys aren’t into that. It has to do with sexual illusions (similar to optical illusions) of placing together most straight men’s sexual cues rather than some latent homosexual inclinations you’re worried about. Just wear a strap on.
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby simplyb1 » 4 July 2020, 19:43

Well if you make him feel guilty about having these desires good chance he'll be with a transexual or another man I loved looking at men's dicks had buy penthouse no to explain a playgirl not saying go do hell porn videos watch together I lived with a woman loved being with two bisexual men same I'd never told my desires giving oral to men till she brought out then me she said wanted me to experience it after three years realized wasn't going to happen with her get so pissed when I wanted talk about being with a man always led back what do you want me for go live with men come find out her boyfriend run off with his boyfriend never had any intentions following through got mad left me on a Friday told girlfriend about my homosexuality desires she sent her young gay black friend over. I'd always been honest soon she got home Sunday I told all about it but like always I cheated so do things together she was first person ever told about eating my cum I'd always cum slightly inside my wife oral was what I loved. So hot my cum running down between her ass cheeks. I licked my wife ass first time so hard getting back she somewhat enjoyed my fingers if a man is ill eat ass have a straight man all he's interested in me giving him a blowjob putting my tongue deep inside and I have a lot married straight that can't talk their wives will not get involved with another woman fear causing trouble but come to me because they want a blowjob like whore most don't swallow being a queer man I want his cum they love calling me bitch suck my dick things most women couldn't understand . But more problems have at home more I get only reason I didn't go see a queer man I didn't find him attractive and I wanted to suck dick so if you can't make him feel comfortable to be open will find someone will almost every tells same story as mine same but I'm pleasure giver
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Re: Husband watches transsexual porn.

Unread postby Brenden » 4 July 2020, 20:13

simplyb1 wrote:

Holy run-on sentences, Batman!
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