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I am not having a boner with guys

Unread postby Snowflake » 7 February 2019, 06:22

I started having sex with guys 6 months ago. Firstly I had pepe hard when it came to kisses, anal, oral and everything, but now even cutiest boy can't give me a boner. Last night I was along with the most popular and cute guy in my university, if not the whole city. He said that I can do with him whatever I want. He was all mine, but whatever I or he did my penis was not feeling any of it. Nothing happend as a result and both of us were pretty much disappointed. I always feared that I might not be gay, as I never had any kind of sexual experience with females. I need an advice. Should I try it out with women or I should somehow work with myself? Female bodies never grabed my attention too much as it does for other straight guys I know. I wouldnt stare at one's boobs or booty if she is a she. Also, I don't think women are interested in me either, however gay dudes are willing to have sex with me, be it gay club, apps or univercity corners. I am so confused. I had an idea of not masurbating for a long while to really lust for sex with boys. What do you folks think?

P.S. I am not impotent. My dick gets hard when I watch porn of any kind and I also have boners randomly popping up during the day, especially at lectures. It is all about sex.
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Re: I am not having a boner with guys

Unread postby erti » 7 February 2019, 06:40

erectile dysfunction?
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Unread postby Stardust » 7 February 2019, 06:44

You could be nervous maybe, that can have an impact on performance. A lot of things can.
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Unread postby Snowflake » 7 February 2019, 06:55

I am not nervious at all. I was nervious when I had boners. Now even BDSM wont turn me on. I am not blushing or anything I really want damn sex. My dick just wont give it to me.
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Unread postby erti » 7 February 2019, 07:02

are you on any kind of medications?
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Unread postby Snowflake » 7 February 2019, 07:47

no, not at all. I am quite healthy.
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Unread postby PopTart » 7 February 2019, 09:11

Hey snowflake.

Do you feel sexually aroused during encounters, do you get that horny feeling?

When did you first notice this start to happen? Had you had any actual sexual experiences when you DID get hard?

Do you have times during solo play, when you lose your erection or you dont get one, even of aroused?
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Unread postby Eryx » 7 February 2019, 09:50

Maybe you're hooking up with guys who aren't really your type? How many times do you masturbate a day?
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Unread postby Dextroque » 7 February 2019, 10:56

You should go and see a real doctor, who can prescribe you medication such as Viagra.
That certainly will show you the way....whatever that might be...
And you should also be looking for friendship!
Being a human being, gay or straight, is more than just having sex!

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Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 7 February 2019, 13:46

PopTart wrote:Hey snowflake.

For a second I thought you were being an alt-right troll until I scrolled up to see his username.
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Unread postby Snowflake » 8 February 2019, 04:36

I had actual sexual experiences when I was at the bottom. I had long boners. It started to happen after the winter break. I get boners during solo play and it wouldnt disaplear until I ejaculate. Maybe its because this guy wants me to be at the top, while I want musculine male with monster dick?
PopTart wrote:Hey snowflake.

Do you feel sexually aroused during encounters, do you get that horny feeling?

When did you first notice this start to happen? Had you had any actual sexual experiences when you DID get hard?

Do you have times during solo play, when you lose your erection or you dont get one, even of aroused?
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Unread postby PopTart » 8 February 2019, 11:48

It may be that you dont feel as stimulated and aroused in a top role. Theres nothing wrong with that, but if that's the case, it's important to convey that to your partner.

Before you do so, I'd suggest giving it some more practice, you could try different foreplay. Have him play with your ass while you warm each other up. If you like being penetrated, try using a prostate stimulator/massager to get hard, a butt plug can work here too, then stop him with the toy inserted. Obviously you need to consider what positions would be comfortable in such a situation.

If none of that works, it could be you just aren't into topping and you and your guy will have to look into other ways of enjoying sex together, toys being a prime example.

If you find you can't top, communicate with your partner to think up solutions and alternatives.
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Unread postby PopTart » 8 February 2019, 11:50

poolerboy0077 wrote:
PopTart wrote:Hey snowflake.

For a second I thought you were being an alt-right troll until I scrolled up to see his username.

:rofl: I do enjoy abit of friendly trolling here and there, for mutual amusement (hopefully) but I wouldn't even know how to be alt-right :P
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Unread postby erti » 8 February 2019, 12:24

PopTart wrote:
poolerboy0077 wrote:
PopTart wrote:Hey snowflake.

For a second I thought you were being an alt-right troll until I scrolled up to see his username.

:rofl: I do enjoy abit of friendly trolling here and there, for mutual amusement (hopefully) but I wouldn't even know how to be alt-right :P


living with a primarily alt-right family it's quite easy.

'murica fuck yeah?
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Re: I am not having a boner with guys

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 8 February 2019, 14:50

It sounds like ED. That's what I have and I'm using Viagra.
Try living nude!
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Re: I am not having a boner with guys

Unread postby artboy » 18 February 2019, 19:46

Snowflake wrote:I am not nervious at all. I was nervious when I had boners. Now even BDSM wont turn me on. I am not blushing or anything I really want damn sex. My dick just wont give it to me.
If your cock wont cooperate and you feel excited inside it may well be a dysfunction of some sort - have you tried Viagra? or some other medicaton or technique for erectile dysfunction. . I know youare young but inability to attain erection can affect anyone. Perhaps there is a psychological inhibition? Also - are you a bottom or a top or versatile/. If You are a true bottom you may crave sex with men as a path to anal penetration and anal orgasm without penile erectionand ejaculation. In that case you may NOT need an erection to enjoy yourself with a man. Many men actually prefer a man who is very anally focused and does not require penile stimulation or ejaculation and can focus on using his hole to satisfy his( the top man's ) penis .
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