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I have a kinky side to me, but also a low libido.

Unread postby anontwink98 » 20 June 2020, 14:19

Ok I'm gonna be honest. I love the idea of kinky sex and all the different fantasies. I love golden shower and stuff like that, I'm very open minded when it comes to sex. :thumbsup: I love watching porn and I have this bad b***hy side to me. But the only problem is that when it comes to having sex and making my fantasies reality, I'm not that good. I just somehow know that people in my life don't enjoy having sex with me that much. It's just that even though I have these kinky ideas and persona, I think my insecurities stop me from having intimate hot sex, and it's usually just dull. I mean if the person is having sex with me, that means he is into me! Right? :shrug: But I still feel insecure, I am usually worried if I have bad breath, if I'm making stupid face gestures or noises, or if I look stupid or fat in different positions while having sex. And that's why even though I love thinking about hot sex, I'm not that hot when it's actually happening. LOL :sadblue: I always get hard, there's no problem with my erection. It's just that I'm concentrating on wrong things I guess. How can I fix this? Any ideas? :noes: Thank you guys!
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Re: I have a kinky side to me, but also a low libido.

Unread postby josheTR » 20 June 2020, 21:55

Reading through these are actually quite normal things to worry about at some point from previous discussions I’ve had - the best way to approach it is just to imagine that the other person probably has the same worries, and what’s the worse that can happen by just letting go and feeling it rather than trying to choreograph it?
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Re: I have a kinky side to me, but also a low libido.

Unread postby Eryx » 21 June 2020, 16:18

I think time and experience are the best weapons against those kinds of insecurities. My libido isn't the highest either but I tend to have sex more often with my boyfriend if I try to abstain from porn for a couple of days. Maybe you could try that. And to prevent bad breath, just brush your teeth well before you meet anyone, it's a no-brainer.
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