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I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Rym2018 » 22 March 2020, 16:13

So I love bottoming but I don’t get physical pleasure from being penetrated in and of it self. I’ve read about bottoms having anal orgasms and how many are able to cum “hands free,” but I always have to jack off during sex get pleasure. My pleasure is 100% psychological. I derive great pleasure from knowing I’m being used by someone stronger and bigger for their own pleasure. And for some reason, I get really turned on knowing I’m assuming “the girl’s” role in sex. I even act more effeminate during sex, although I’m very “manly” in public. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I know many bottoms deride being compared to “the girl” during sex. This post is not meant to offend anyone. If it does I apologize. But this is how I feel and what I enjoy, and was wondering if anyone else feels the same.
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Unread postby Marmaduke » 22 March 2020, 16:23

I think perhaps you use sex, and the intrinsically open and vulnerable moment that brings, to allow yourself to explore arbitrary gender boundaries in ways you would otherwise not be confident or comfortable enough to do outside of the bedroom.
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Unread postby Rym2018 » 22 March 2020, 16:41

Marmaduke wrote:I think perhaps you use sex, and the intrinsically open and vulnerable moment that brings, to allow yourself to explore arbitrary gender boundaries in ways you would otherwise not be confident or comfortable enough to do outside of the bedroom.


I think you’re on point. The pleasure I experience is perhaps the feeling of being “on the other side” of that arbitrary gender boundary. Never thought about it that way.
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Unread postby planetguy » 27 March 2020, 10:40

I am a bottom, and I prefer being a total bottom, essentially a "girl" in a sexual encounter. I've always gotten immense physical pleasure from being penetrated. Physically and psychologically its my sex of choice. I even used to take sudafed before having sex because it made it so I couldn't get erect and it made bottoming even more pleasurable. The problem I've faced over the years is finding partners who were total tops. It seems like most guys want to give oral as part of the encounter, and I just want to bottom.
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Unread postby flaguy1122 » 13 April 2020, 12:02

I also get immense pleasure from knowing I am being used for sex. I love being penetrated but I get the most pleasure from knowing a guy is using my ass just so he can cum. I like being treated like the girl during sex and usually like being treated like a whore lol. It's something about knowing a guy is using your body simply to make his cock cum. Nothing more hot then being used like that. So I get your feeling lol
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Unread postby René » 13 April 2020, 12:37

"being used by someone stronger and bigger for their own pleasure", sure.
"the girl", ew, no. I don't want such images in my head when having sex.
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Unread postby Choicespecs » 13 April 2020, 13:10

Just a thought, do you think that your mind cannot comprehend yourself having gay sex? So to rationalize that desires you place yourself in to what you believe to be the mindset of a woman? Ergo, that gay shame manifests itself in the lack of your "masculine" pleasure for yourself and puts it onto the other person, leaving your idea of "feminine" pleasure of being used for their orgasm.
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Unread postby Archaeopteryx » 14 April 2020, 13:27

I can relate to this thread . I love surrendering completely when having sex with another man. I love giving head and get intense pleasure from being penetrated, especially in the missionary position. When I'm the one doing the fucking I'd rather it be with a woman, does that make sense?
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Unread postby Sam9x » 15 April 2020, 05:25

I know it Sounds silly but maybe you need to find the right partner for that , for a long time I had the same feeling and I let guys I like top me because I liked them and not because I enjoyed it .... But once I found someone I really enjoyed it with it has changed for me , I have to admit sex with a condom can hurt after a while , but it's really important if you don't know who you're dealing with......
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Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 15 April 2020, 05:37

Marmaduke wrote:I think perhaps you use sex, and the intrinsically open and vulnerable moment that brings, to allow yourself to explore arbitrary gender boundaries in ways you would otherwise not be confident or comfortable enough to do outside of the bedroom.

Hardly arbitrary.
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Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 15 April 2020, 07:52

No, not at all. Nothing "girl". For I am a man. Just thinking of the situation and the dude calling me "girl" or even just "slut" or "whore" like potential female things. I guess we never would have become close in the first place, if he thought of his intimate partner in such a fashion.
I could not possibly think of anything pleasurable with this an image on my mind. I guess I would gross out.

I'm not an anti-feminist or such. I respect women. I've got quite a few friends who are ladies. All of them live outside my universe, if it comes to partner oriented interest, though. So I never could understand that saying about "the girl's position". What I want is a man! Homosexuality!
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Unread postby flaguy1122 » 15 April 2020, 08:06

Archaeopteryx wrote:I can relate to this thread . I love surrendering completely when having sex with another man. I love giving head and get intense pleasure from being penetrated, especially in the missionary position. When I'm the one doing the fucking I'd rather it be with a woman, does that make sense?



This is exactly how I feel. When I think about having sex with a man I am almost always the one being fucked. When I am in the mood to do the fucking it is almost always with a woman or MTF trans. I also LOVE to give head to both men and women. I think its just because I love to please people. I have come to the conclusion that the easiest way to do that is by making them cum LOL
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Unread postby mrmadness » 16 April 2020, 10:38

What you said really resonates with me. Whenever I have sex I am the bottom, I haven't topped before but I suppose there's still time to try it out. When I have sex, I like to moan like a girl and refer to my ass as a "pussy." I mostly do it as a service to the top because I feel as though he likes it, and the fact that he likes it makes me like it. So, there definitely is a psychological pleasure from "being the girl" during sex. The pleasure could come from giving up control and having a bigger and stronger male authority in ones presence.
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Unread postby René » 16 April 2020, 10:41

This problem is more widespread than I thought.

(J/k, no offence. I just can't relate at all apart from what I referred to in my previous post.)
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Unread postby Brenden » 16 April 2020, 11:22

mrmadness wrote:When I have sex, I like to moan like a girl and refer to my ass as a "pussy." I mostly do it as a service to the top because I feel as though he likes it, and the fact that he likes it makes me like it. So, there definitely is a psychological pleasure from "being the girl" during sex.

As a top, my response to this is: :pukey:

mrmadness wrote:The pleasure could come from giving up control and having a bigger and stronger male authority in ones presence.

You could do this while still maintaining dignity as a male yourself.
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Unread postby Eos » 16 April 2020, 12:20

Fuck, I love bottoming, so now I am a girl ? Wasn't aware at all thanks for the heads up !

Seriously thinking of girls during sex would only turn me off !

Surrender isn't a girly thing. It's just a thing some people like to do.

You know I don't believe that there is more than 2 genders, but they are way too many people that will assume things about the other just because he is a man or not.
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Unread postby Severelius » 16 April 2020, 12:28

I'm all for being a submissive bottom who primarily gets joy out of making other men feel good, but there's a line between that and the whole 'feminisation' thing which is just off-putting for me.
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Unread postby Frigid » 16 April 2020, 15:42

I’m not a top and this makes me wince.

And a rosebud doesn’t mean it’s a pussy.
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Unread postby PeterNS » 11 May 2021, 23:14

Same here. I'm not effeminate but during sex I like being "the girl", psychologically.
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Unread postby jsoze303 » 17 May 2021, 11:39

For me i'm a very submissive bottom and enjoy the feeling of the other guy in control, sometimes i get a little feminine during sex esp when i'm on top riding him. I just think of it as role playing
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