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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Petite » 20 May 2021, 16:44

Rym2018 wrote:So I love bottoming but I don’t get physical pleasure from being penetrated in and of it self. I’ve read about bottoms having anal orgasms and how many are able to cum “hands free,” but I always have to jack off during sex get pleasure. My pleasure is 100% psychological. I derive great pleasure from knowing I’m being used by someone stronger and bigger for their own pleasure. And for some reason, I get really turned on knowing I’m assuming “the girl’s” role in sex. I even act more effeminate during sex, although I’m very “manly” in public. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I know many bottoms deride being compared to “the girl” during sex. This post is not meant to offend anyone. If it does I apologize. But this is how I feel and what I enjoy, and was wondering if anyone else feels the same.

This depends on your partner and type of sex. With some guys I wouldn't think that but my recent partner would sometimes ask me to wear a miniskirt so that changes how I feel too. About anal orgasm, you just haven't found the right man yet.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 22 May 2021, 20:35

For the most part, I have to agree with those who see comments of "being the girl" as totally bizarre. I'm a top (except I cannot perform because of ED), and I have always loved being inside a beefy, HAIRY, muscular, manly man. Why I said "for the most part" is that I have my own twist... I wish I cold impregnate such a man.

Part of the reason, I never pursued impregnating a woman is that in my early 20's I had been so disillusioned with relationships with men (no decent loving relationships of any length), I figured I should simply go str8 and have a family like I always dreamed. However, I found out I was VERY VERY infertile. I had always wanted to sire kids, and even before knowing I was infertile, I had fantasized impregnating another man. Though I knew it wasn't the nature of things, it is so ingrained in my sexuality that the more the hunk is my type, the more I wish I could mix my genes with his and have him give birth.

Beyond male impregnation, I also see some emotional advantages to females - as I have seen them in my own personal experiences. I seem to observe that women are more likely to form family bonds with people that they care about and many times those bonds last. Where as in my history of men, it seems like you are always competing with them AND many times it seemed like you have to constantly "earn" what little scraps of love they might occasionally throw your way. (Specifically, I'm eluding to my own pathetic relationship with my own dad [who passed way back in 2008]).

So with the idea of a bottom being a "girl" I don't think of a man I'm fucking as being such. Yes, I do wish I could pro-create with a man. Plus I love lasting bonds with men that seems so rare in real life. But that is not gender switching. It is wanting the best of human bonding to be possible between two MEN. I personally am so VERY blessed that my man is a such a good match for my ideal.

I get on another LGBT board, and there is so much of this love-cock-not-men, trans worship, cross dressing, etc kinds of fetishes dominating the forums... I guess I'm old fashion (and I suppose boring) simple man loving and desiring another simple man. If I didn't have ED, I would still be trying to get inside my guy every chance I could. He is NOT my girl, he is my guy -- all 5'10" of him including his beautiful, very hairy, very muscular, manly ass. There is nothing feminine about his demeanor nor his acceptance of my obsessive lust for his behind. Even before the ED, I made sure to put my lust for his behind on a leach because even more important is for him to know that I love him and never want him think I'm only in it for the sex.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Ballparkdogg » 9 June 2021, 23:38

I usually like to top and have been with some sunny bottoms. While I have been with some that like to be used for sex. I like my partner to feel just as good as me during sex.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Ballparkdogg » 9 June 2021, 23:39

I usually like to top and have been with some subby bottoms. While I have been with some that like to be used for sex. I like my partner to feel just as good as me during sex. I have been with a transgender woman recently who liked being used
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby lufia » 10 June 2021, 21:46

I don't get off on the whole submission thing, but I am somewhere out there on the gender spectrum. My mannerisms are masculine enough that most people assume I'm straight until I happily tell them otherwise. On the other hand, I keep my body completely shaved, and wear more women's clothing than men's at this point. When I comes to relationships, I prefer to assume a traditionally feminine role. I prefer to be treated like a girl. I like to have doors opened for me. I like to be romanced and pursued. I am a total tease, and nothing gets me hotter than feeling the sexual tension build up to the point that I know the guy is desperate to fuck my brains out. When it comes to sex, I will top if it's necessary to keep a guy happy, but I don't really enjoy it. I don't even consider it sex unless I am being penetrated, and my idea of a perfect session is when a guy romances me and gets me so hot that he doesn't even need to touch my cock to get me off. I love it when a guy just pulls my thong to the side, licks me until I'm begging for it, and then goes to town. I get immense pleasure from being penetrated, and buttgasms have always come easily for me (thankfully). For me, my ass functions like a pussy in many ways, so I feel like a girl most of the time, and I enjoy being treated like one.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Cali Ed » 13 June 2021, 10:00

I like thinking of gay sodomy as the pinnacle of sexual encounters, the aspiration for all other erotic engagements. Therefore, when I bend over to be taken by a man, I'm not the "girl." Instead, when a female receives the penis of an obviously less-discerning heterosexual male, she's assuming the role of the "gay bottom" in the relationship.
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