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Unread postby Petite » 20 May 2021, 16:44

Rym2018 wrote:So I love bottoming but I don’t get physical pleasure from being penetrated in and of it self. I’ve read about bottoms having anal orgasms and how many are able to cum “hands free,” but I always have to jack off during sex get pleasure. My pleasure is 100% psychological. I derive great pleasure from knowing I’m being used by someone stronger and bigger for their own pleasure. And for some reason, I get really turned on knowing I’m assuming “the girl’s” role in sex. I even act more effeminate during sex, although I’m very “manly” in public. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I know many bottoms deride being compared to “the girl” during sex. This post is not meant to offend anyone. If it does I apologize. But this is how I feel and what I enjoy, and was wondering if anyone else feels the same.

This depends on your partner and type of sex. With some guys I wouldn't think that but my recent partner would sometimes ask me to wear a miniskirt so that changes how I feel too. About anal orgasm, you just haven't found the right man yet.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 22 May 2021, 20:35

For the most part, I have to agree with those who see comments of "being the girl" as totally bizarre. I'm a top (except I cannot perform because of ED), and I have always loved being inside a beefy, HAIRY, muscular, manly man. Why I said "for the most part" is that I have my own twist... I wish I cold impregnate such a man.

Part of the reason, I never pursued impregnating a woman is that in my early 20's I had been so disillusioned with relationships with men (no decent loving relationships of any length), I figured I should simply go str8 and have a family like I always dreamed. However, I found out I was VERY VERY infertile. I had always wanted to sire kids, and even before knowing I was infertile, I had fantasized impregnating another man. Though I knew it wasn't the nature of things, it is so ingrained in my sexuality that the more the hunk is my type, the more I wish I could mix my genes with his and have him give birth.

Beyond male impregnation, I also see some emotional advantages to females - as I have seen them in my own personal experiences. I seem to observe that women are more likely to form family bonds with people that they care about and many times those bonds last. Where as in my history of men, it seems like you are always competing with them AND many times it seemed like you have to constantly "earn" what little scraps of love they might occasionally throw your way. (Specifically, I'm eluding to my own pathetic relationship with my own dad [who passed way back in 2008]).

So with the idea of a bottom being a "girl" I don't think of a man I'm fucking as being such. Yes, I do wish I could pro-create with a man. Plus I love lasting bonds with men that seems so rare in real life. But that is not gender switching. It is wanting the best of human bonding to be possible between two MEN. I personally am so VERY blessed that my man is a such a good match for my ideal.

I get on another LGBT board, and there is so much of this love-cock-not-men, trans worship, cross dressing, etc kinds of fetishes dominating the forums... I guess I'm old fashion (and I suppose boring) simple man loving and desiring another simple man. If I didn't have ED, I would still be trying to get inside my guy every chance I could. He is NOT my girl, he is my guy -- all 5'10" of him including his beautiful, very hairy, very muscular, manly ass. There is nothing feminine about his demeanor nor his acceptance of my obsessive lust for his behind. Even before the ED, I made sure to put my lust for his behind on a leach because even more important is for him to know that I love him and never want him think I'm only in it for the sex.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Ballparkdogg » 9 June 2021, 23:38

I usually like to top and have been with some sunny bottoms. While I have been with some that like to be used for sex. I like my partner to feel just as good as me during sex.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Ballparkdogg » 9 June 2021, 23:39

I usually like to top and have been with some subby bottoms. While I have been with some that like to be used for sex. I like my partner to feel just as good as me during sex. I have been with a transgender woman recently who liked being used
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby lufia » 10 June 2021, 21:46

I don't get off on the whole submission thing, but I am somewhere out there on the gender spectrum. My mannerisms are masculine enough that most people assume I'm straight until I happily tell them otherwise. On the other hand, I keep my body completely shaved, and wear more women's clothing than men's at this point. When I comes to relationships, I prefer to assume a traditionally feminine role. I prefer to be treated like a girl. I like to have doors opened for me. I like to be romanced and pursued. I am a total tease, and nothing gets me hotter than feeling the sexual tension build up to the point that I know the guy is desperate to fuck my brains out. When it comes to sex, I will top if it's necessary to keep a guy happy, but I don't really enjoy it. I don't even consider it sex unless I am being penetrated, and my idea of a perfect session is when a guy romances me and gets me so hot that he doesn't even need to touch my cock to get me off. I love it when a guy just pulls my thong to the side, licks me until I'm begging for it, and then goes to town. I get immense pleasure from being penetrated, and buttgasms have always come easily for me (thankfully). For me, my ass functions like a pussy in many ways, so I feel like a girl most of the time, and I enjoy being treated like one.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Cali Ed » 13 June 2021, 10:00

I like thinking of gay sodomy as the pinnacle of sexual encounters, the aspiration for all other erotic engagements. Therefore, when I bend over to be taken by a man, I'm not the "girl." Instead, when a female receives the penis of an obviously less-discerning heterosexual male, she's assuming the role of the "gay bottom" in the relationship.
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Re:I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby Newbe37 » 17 July 2021, 08:01

Hi, so I’m very new to this. I have a secret. I love crossdressing. I love dressing in women’s clothes and fantasizing being used like a girl to get a man off. I crave cock all day. I’ve been holding this in for so long now n I’m ready to fulfill this fantasy. Can I get some advice on how I should go about doing this? Im very shy I don’t even no where to find a man. Can somebody help
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Unread postby Brenden » 17 July 2021, 10:57

Newbe37 wrote:Hi, so I’m very new to this. I have a secret. I love crossdressing. I love dressing in women’s clothes and fantasizing being used like a girl to get a man off. I crave cock all day. I’ve been holding this in for so long now n I’m ready to fulfill this fantasy. Can I get some advice on how I should go about doing this? Im very shy I don’t even no where to find a man. Can somebody help

You don't need a man, you need a psychologist who is an expert in paraphilic disorders.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby blondambition » 17 July 2021, 11:48

I am a total bottom and love giving it all, but good tops are scarce. I wouldnt say that I am pretending to be a girl. Just a guy that loves to please tops who love dominating another guy. I love a guys body.
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Re: Re:I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby lufia » 25 July 2021, 18:30

Newbe37 wrote:Hi, so I’m very new to this. I have a secret. I love crossdressing. I love dressing in women’s clothes and fantasizing being used like a girl to get a man off. I crave cock all day. I’ve been holding this in for so long now n I’m ready to fulfill this fantasy. Can I get some advice on how I should go about doing this? Im very shy I don’t even no where to find a man. Can somebody help



Don't pay attention to Brendan. He feels the need to bring others down to make himself feel more important. He made similar comments to me as well. How he is allowed to even be a part of this community, let alone as an administrator, is beyond me. He doesn't comprehend the fact that being gay was once considered to be a paraphilic disorder as well. Ignorant and prejudicial people like him are the reason so many people remain marginalized within our society. As for your choice of clothing, there is nothing wrong with it. It is just clothing. If it makes you feel sexy and gets you off, then go for it. Life is too fucking short to be miserable. It has taken me a lifetime to learn that lesson. Do what makes you happy, and just ignore the people who are so jealous and unhappy with their own lives that they feel the need to make others miserable.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby zepher » 9 February 2022, 14:43

Rym2018 wrote:So I love bottoming but I don’t get physical pleasure from being penetrated in and of it self. I’ve read about bottoms having anal orgasms and how many are able to cum “hands free,” but I always have to jack off during sex get pleasure. My pleasure is 100% psychological. I derive great pleasure from knowing I’m being used by someone stronger and bigger for their own pleasure. And for some reason, I get really turned on knowing I’m assuming “the girl’s” role in sex. I even act more effeminate during sex, although I’m very “manly” in public. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I know many bottoms deride being compared to “the girl” during sex. This post is not meant to offend anyone. If it does I apologize. But this is how I feel and what I enjoy, and was wondering if anyone else feels the same.


This is pretty much 100% how I feel too. I don't want to be a girl but I want to have a girl's role. It gives me so much satisfaction. I don't even want to come, because the thing is to get the partner to come. Of course it's horny to have an orgasm without hands while having a dick inside you.

Yes I have a fetish for women's lingerie but that's just to highlight my role as a bottom..
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby GayinIndiana » 11 February 2022, 04:37

I identify as a gay man, but I'm definitely the "woman" in a scenario. I don't act feminine, but I am a total bottom and beg for it like a tramp in heat. Doesn't take much to bring it out of me during sex.
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Unread postby pattymarci » 13 February 2022, 09:37

Sometimes I can be just standing, wearing jeans, and I will daydream that I'm a girl. I think about the openness between my legs and at that point I'm totally turned on. At that point, touch me, talk to me like I'm a girl.....a girl with an unusually large clit.....looking for another girl with a huge clit. Two men, being girls together is a liberating experience.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby pattymarci » 13 February 2022, 09:50

What is up with the negative comments in this thread? When I read that feeling like a girl is wrong or sick, all I get from it is a picture of a poster who is sexually immature, robotic in their sexual acts, and generally a lousy lay. I assume the posts are all from really young guys. If not, it might be a good time to grow up and stop undermining your own LGBTQ community.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby pozzie » 14 February 2022, 03:14

Well on some level, let's say I find the topic somewhat distasteful but really believe the answer is a bit more complex though clearly @pattymarci is on to something. I know back in the mid 80s when I was in my early 20s and my partner was in his early 30s, we'd have found the very topic offensive. We were both MEN attracted to other MEN and we were often asked, when we came out to some straight Texan or Mexican, "Who's the woman in the relationship?" That was downright offensive to us both, but we didn't have high expectations of straight people back then and back there.

The ex had friends in the drag community on both sides of the border, so he was more accepting of that aspect than I was, but with experience, especially meeting and getting to know queens, I 'matured' and became more accepting of difference.

At this point, I don't care - it's everyone's own business what they do and what turns them on. I don't need to judge or be involved. But the question reminds me of feelings and a time I prefer to keep as a mostly buried memory. So it's not just about being young and immature. There is a component for some gay men that it's offensive to assume one man has to be a woman in a relationship, be it a one off or long term.

It's the stereotyping that's the concern.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby jaredjoy90 » 20 February 2022, 16:42

This post was meant for me. Even though I would say I am not particularly masculine outside of the bedroom, I am 100% bottom in it. Sometimes I like crossdressing and having a feminine name in bed.
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Unread postby blondambition » 25 February 2022, 14:35

I have always been a bottom and love it!! Love guys that take control
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby spankablebob » 10 October 2022, 15:02

When I first noticed this thread some time ago, it resonated with me but I was reluctant to post at first.

I was in a relationship with another man some time ago. The first time we were together he fucked me, and after another similar encounter he told me his intent was to fuck me every time we were together. At some point early on in our relationship, he started fucking me in the missionary position on occasion. My legs were wrapped around his waist and my arms around his torso.

It occurred to me at that point that I had fucked many women in that position, and suddenly I was in that position with a man for the first time. I truly felt like the girl with him, and shared that thought with him. He certainly didn't have any problem acknowledging that I was in that role with him. He romanced me, then fucked me, and did refer to me as his "girl"

I don't see any problem with that dynamic at all in a male/male relationship.
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Unread postby Rambunctious05 » 10 October 2022, 16:55

The OP is expressing how he feels when he’s having sex, what gives him enjoyment. He’s curious if other guys feel the same. Fair enough. I don’t feel the same when I bottom. I’m a man. I’m into men. I’m versatile. It’s a mutual thing for me. I give to a guy what I like to receive from a guy.
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Re: I like knowing I’m “the girl” when having sex. Anyone else?

Unread postby spankablebob » 10 October 2022, 17:49

Rym2018 wrote:So I love bottoming but I don’t get physical pleasure from being penetrated in and of it self. I’ve read about bottoms having anal orgasms and how many are able to cum “hands free,” but I always have to jack off during sex get pleasure. My pleasure is 100% psychological. I derive great pleasure from knowing I’m being used by someone stronger and bigger for their own pleasure. And for some reason, I get really turned on knowing I’m assuming “the girl’s” role in sex. I even act more effeminate during sex, although I’m very “manly” in public. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I know many bottoms deride being compared to “the girl” during sex. This post is not meant to offend anyone. If it does I apologize. But this is how I feel and what I enjoy, and was wondering if anyone else feels the same.


Well, for what it's worth, as described above, I do enjoy assuming the "girl's" role.

I do also get considerable pleasure from being penetrated anally, and I have had a prostate orgasm from that. A man climaxing side me, especially when it is bareback, adds to the pleasure.
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