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Unread postby DirkkD » 9 October 2019, 06:57

Im new here and I would like to get your input about my situation...Im a 35 year old, married, no kids... I always liked women and honestly Im usually horrified by the idea of having sex with males however every once in a while i have fucked trasvestites and a couple times I let some of them to fuck me as well... some months ago i was very horny and ordered a fuck machine on ebay one of those reciprocating machines with a dildo, I been using it and Im actually able to experiment orgasms without touching my cock and Im kinda obsessed with bi and tranny porn... so I just kinda need a confirmation about whats goin on with me... I fuck my wife everytime I can and I really enjoy doing that but still every couple days I feel the urge of using the fuckin machine .... any toughts?
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby Eryx » 9 October 2019, 11:44

How did she not find something like that laying around at the house?

Anyways, I have a few opinions: first, you might simply be bisexual, which is completely fine on its own. It doesn't mean you should pursue a transvestite or another guy in detriment of your wife or anything like that. Your feelings are natural and lots of people feel the same inclinations.

I think it kind of sucks that you're cheating for it, though. If you think you can't go without having sex with transvestites and men, simply get divorced and stay single. Take advantage of the fact that you don't have kids yet to make it easier for both of you. If she ever finds out about your activities, she'll be heartbroken and it will be way more dramatic (and costly) to separate from her.

It's interesting when married men come here to the forums for confirmation. They're always so much more worried about gay actions than actually hurting their spouses. The real issue here isn't gay sex, it's the cheating part.
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby Marmaduke » 9 October 2019, 11:45

You appear to have described what’s going on with you in some detail. I don’t know how much more insight into your activities I could possibly offer.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 10 October 2019, 16:15

Since you asked for an honest opinion: those that "cheat" on their wife/partner, which you've made it sound to be your case here, such people are nothing but low-lifes.
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby Sol » 31 October 2019, 10:33

So you are focused only on your sexuality, when you have much bigger issues. First off think of a Sexuality scale as a football field one goal line is male heterosexuality and the other goal line is female heterosexuality. For the vast majority of people there are two problems #1 where do you place yourself on that scale in terms of who you are drawn to sexually. #2 where does you partner EXPECT you to be on that scale.

The reality is that we are all drawn to different things in different people. If there was such a thing as a perfect match divorce lawyers would not be so rich.

Here is where I think you will find your path in life: You must realize that the human brain is always growing, always learning new experiences, some good, some bad, no matter how satisfied you are with your current partner, just like the cow gazing over the barbed wire fence longingly at the lush green pasture, your mind will always be drawn to new experiences, perhaps new partners and perhaps monogamy is simply not natural in humans.

Your biggest problem as I see it is that you are married. For most people that means you entered into a contract with a partner who had certain preconceived notions about what to expect out of a partnership with you. Undoubtedly sexual infidelity was not something that she signed on for. Based on what you have said, weather you realize it or not, your sexual curiosity, exploration, infidelity, whatever you choose to call it are ingrained in your subconscious. It takes a very powerful determination not to let that override your obligations to your wife.

It sounds like you don't have the willpower to be a good husband (in the eyes of the typical wife). It sounds like what you need, is to come clean with your wife, 100% honesty, and if that means divorce, so be it. You owe her that. On the other hand if it means she dresses you up as a sissy and perhaps walks you down the path of becoming transgendered and pimps you out to BBC's or some less extreme reality somewhere in between, who knows maybe you can enjoy exploring your sexuality with your wife as a partner along on the ride, but I sure wouldn't expect most women to be that accommodating.

The bottom line, you will continue to struggle and it will be a curse to you and everything you do relationship wise until you acknowledge that your #1 priority is not God, its not your family, its not your wife and children, it is exploring your sexuality. The sooner you get there the happier your life will be, The odds of you finding a compatible partner to explore your sexuality dim with age so you best get a move on.

Forget about trying to pin a label on yourself. It will be like a price tag in a retail store, it will change each season as the new fads come out.
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby Ericsean20 » 8 November 2019, 20:47

I think it's great you've gotten a chance to experience transwomen. They can give us much more than any women can but I also can't figure out how your wife hasn't discovered your sex machine, unless you have a storage facility that she doesn't know about,if so, Good Job!
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby ejpril88 » 26 November 2019, 17:36

If this is indeed an honest post, I feel sorry for your wife because what you're doing is very unfair.
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby Bri_guy » 6 December 2019, 11:34

Eryx wrote:The real issue here isn't gay sex, it's the cheating part.


I completely agree with you Eryx. And you're mad cute!
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Re: I need an honest opinion...

Unread postby Brasileiro » 8 December 2019, 19:22

How about havng your wife using a dildo in your arse, or having her use a strap on, and that way include her?
You do not need an extra person with a penis for that kind of thing.
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