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Intimacy w/Older Men

Unread postby fabiangb » 3 February 2020, 19:05

So I met a few years back a guy about 25 years older than me on a gay online chat. We were going to meet up at a coffee shop, chat, and then go to his place to keep things going if you know what I mean. Talked to him for over 2 months over the phone, text, chat, and we even met up for coffee - never been into older men but I really liked him specifically, he was relatively attractive and felt a connection. But I got cold feet last minute when he offered to head over and I dropped all contact with him. I've had intimate relationships with others between then and now.

Recently, he reached out just a friendly "hey how's it been". I'm wanting to meet up with him again and see if we can take things further.

Part of me is still scared b/c I don't know what to expect in being with an older man, especially since he's a bottom - do I just have the wrong mental image of an old crummy top who's into daddy/son pounding role play?

I'd love to try being intimate with him, but I just don't know if it'll be different than being with someone my age or if it'll be weird or as intimate and I like to be. Any advise or tips, especially on how to get past the fear? I'm even scared to bring it back up to him that I'd like to meet up. Lastly, I guess I'm also scared of what if that turns into something more serious - never really though I'd be with someone that older.
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Re: Intimacy w/Older Men

Unread postby Eryx » 3 February 2020, 20:26

Just go for it. Don't expect him to want different things or to look different than someone your age. If he's into different stuff, he'll tell you later, when you have more intimacy. At least that's how it should be, I suppose. If it sucks, just don't do it again, or leave if you're feeling uncomfortable, there's nothing wrong with that. Have fun!
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Re: Intimacy w/Older Men

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 4 February 2020, 01:51

Eryx wrote:Just go for it. Don't expect him to want different things or to look different than someone your age. If he's into different stuff, he'll tell you later, when you have more intimacy. At least that's how it should be, I suppose. If it sucks, just don't do it again, or leave if you're feeling uncomfortable, there's nothing wrong with that. Have fun!


Exactly what Eryx said. You wont know until you try. And you'll probably always wonder what if if you dont. So just give it a shot and find out.
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Re: Intimacy w/Older Men

Unread postby UndercoverLover » 4 February 2020, 03:19

Most of the older men I have been with are tops. (I'm mostly a bottom)
Anyways, I LOVED it! Not sure why it was such a turn on, but it was. I understand how it's hard sometimes to not care what other people think or see you as... But in my experience, the sex was always amazing Lol. (some of them couldn't last a while, or as long as I'd like... But I am pretty understanding. Always made them feel like a king, even if sometimes it was a little shorter than expected. But you're the top in your situation, so as long as he can take it.. Youre good!)

Hope everything goes well! <3
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Re: Intimacy w/Older Men

Unread postby Eryx » 4 February 2020, 05:59

Oh fuck, I thought you were the OP and I was so happy that you had supposedly gone through it. I hope OP takes a leap as well.
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