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Unread postby Bri_guy » 1 December 2019, 09:07

Hi everyone, this has been on my mind for a while now so here goes. I'm in my mid 40s but look a lot younger; I've been told that the oldest I look is 30s. I kinda feel trapped in a twink's body lol. I'm fairly masculine though. I haven't had (penetrative) sex in YEARS, but I'm a bottom. Here's the dilemma I'm having: I occasionally chat on Grindr, and get messaged/hit on almost EXCLUSIVELY by much younger guys in their early-mid 20s, guys who are tops and into banging older bottoms. This surprised me at first, but apparently some guys are really into this. Part of me thinks "Hey if I'm into it and they're into it then go for it". But then another part of me says "You're twice their age, you don't want to be that creepy older guy who sleeps with boys half your age do you?". Sometimes (ok usually) I sext with them. While I've been very tempted, I haven't met up with anyone yet. Part of me is really turned on by the fantasy of getting pounded by younger guys full of raging hormones, but I'm not sure. I don't want to do anything that I might regret (and haven't we all done sexual things in the heat of the moment that we later regret? Or am I alone in that?). Do you see anything wrong with this? Whenever I chat on Grindr, there's usually a couple guys nearby into this (I live in L.A.). Who knew?!
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Unread postby LostGuy94 » 1 December 2019, 11:15

Bri_guy wrote:Hi everyone, this has been on my mind for a while now so here goes. I'm in my mid 40s but look a lot younger; I've been told that the oldest I look is 30s. I kinda feel trapped in a twink's body lol. I'm fairly masculine though. I haven't had (penetrative) sex in YEARS, but I'm a bottom. Here's the dilemma I'm having: I occasionally chat on Grindr, and get messaged/hit on almost EXCLUSIVELY by much younger guys in their early-mid 20s, guys who are tops and into banging older bottoms. This surprised me at first, but apparently some guys are really into this. Part of me thinks "Hey if I'm into it and they're into it then go for it". But then another part of me says "You're twice their age, you don't want to be that creepy older guy who sleeps with boys half your age do you?". Sometimes (ok usually) I sext with them. While I've been very tempted, I haven't met up with anyone yet. Part of me is really turned on by the fantasy of getting pounded by younger guys full of raging hormones, but I'm not sure. I don't want to do anything that I might regret (and haven't we all done sexual things in the heat of the moment that we later regret? Or am I alone in that?). Do you see anything wrong with this? Whenever I chat on Grindr, there's usually a couple guys nearby into this (I live in L.A.). Who knew?!


I feel if they are consenting adults and really want that then there's no issue at all, have seen a few younger guys on Grindr claim to prefer older guys especially as they are often more experienced. I don't think it's weird at all and if it's all above board then go for it if that's what you want.
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Unread postby Bri_guy » 1 December 2019, 12:31

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Unread postby Eryx » 1 December 2019, 17:45

Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Go have fun! It's not like it's a relationship. And even if you got around to being in one, it wouldn't be a problem either. My ex-boyfriend is 40, I'm 27, it was completely fine.
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Unread postby rogonandi » 1 December 2019, 18:21

It’s not weird or perverted at all.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 1 December 2019, 19:31

Welcome to Daddy Life. LoL. I'm older and mess around with guys half my age. Then again that age is fairly mature. When it comes to just sharing an sexual/intimate experience and not expecting much more, it works to both guys advantage - the question becomes why not. As long as you can say there are no reasons not to, then I'd say it's all good. In a way it's really not much different than your being into guys with blue eyes or etc. BTW, if you haven't noticed there are plenty of younger guys who actually like older guys even off of Grindr. It's only when the age/situation gets to be a thing that your taking advantage of the other person - to me that's when it's not acceptable anymore. Beyond that, nothing wrong with a mutually enjoyable situation and a little bit of friendship.
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Unread postby Jzone » 1 December 2019, 20:12

Bri_guy wrote:Do you see anything wrong with this? Whenever I chat on Grindr, there's usually a couple guys nearby into this (I live in L.A.). Who knew?!

On the contrary — I recommend it. It's not like you are stalking teens. Let the guys in their mid-20's initiate a convo on grindr, then do whatever everyone involved consents to. Keep it fun, keep it safe, maybe make some long term friends along the way. I'm not sure why you anticipate regretting it later.
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Unread postby Derek » 1 December 2019, 21:11

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Unread postby Ericsean20 » 3 December 2019, 21:28

Either way, have fun. Bottoming isn't as awful, shameful, whatever word that you want to define it, as it was say 25-30+ years ago. They younger 20something crowd both men&women are much freer to be open to their sexuality than a generation before. I only wish I was a teen or twenty something now, I wouldn't have pissed away nearly 20 years repressing my sexuality.
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Unread postby Bli6485 » 3 December 2019, 23:30

As long as all the magic numbers are legal idt it matters. I hooked up with guys in their 40s and 50s in my early 20s
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Unread postby Bri_guy » 4 December 2019, 02:07

Eryx wrote:Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Go have fun! It's not like it's a relationship. And even if you got around to being in one, it wouldn't be a problem either. My ex-boyfriend is 40, I'm 27, it was completely fine.
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Unread postby kenzie_matt » 4 December 2019, 08:09

I agree with the others. If you are both consenting adults, then there is no issue. Provided both parties are being honest about their age, all is well.
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Unread postby NobodySpecial » 4 December 2019, 16:44

When I was young, I tended to gravitate towards guys older than me. I'm a top by nature, so it was a pleasant surprise to find such older bottoms. Now, I'm old, and I still find mature bottoms the hottest. I'm still a top, but the equipment doesn't work. It sucks, but that is life.

So much of the porn where there is an age difference the focus is on the older one being the top, and the younger being a bottom. That never did anything for me. It always seemed that it would be more natural the other way around. If you think about it, the sex drive of males is highest as we are younger. At least when I was young, I felt the need to get off quite frequently.

Now, from an emotional stand point, I think it is probably better to have someone closer to your age. There are a lot of mature younger guys, but that is not what I'm talking about. My partner of 16+ years is only a few months older than me. If I were to loose him and after a time felt lonely , I would hesitate to get emotionally involved with a much younger guy. As you get older you realize that you aren't going to be around forever. I would hate for a young man to take the prime years of his life taking care of someone in the twilight of his years. I'm sure plenty of younger guys find themselves in that position with their parents. Why add a significant partner to such burdens.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 4 December 2019, 17:24

Jzone wrote:
Bri_guy wrote:Do you see anything wrong with this? Whenever I chat on Grindr, there's usually a couple guys nearby into this (I live in L.A.). Who knew?!

On the contrary — I recommend it. It's not like you are stalking teens. Let the guys in their mid-20's initiate a convo on grindr, then do whatever everyone involved consents to. Keep it fun, keep it safe, maybe make some long term friends along the way. I'm not sure why you anticipate regretting it later.


Really. I always let them initiate the convo. Why not as it's more like I have to beat them off with a stick sometimes. Just got back from El Paso. I figured what the heck and turned on Grindr. You would think those guys never seen a Daddy like me before. LoL Business travel can be rather adventurous in ways I never anticipated.
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Unread postby René » 4 December 2019, 20:15

NobodySpecial wrote:When I was young, I tended to gravitate towards guys older than me. I'm a top by nature, so it was a pleasant surprise to find such older bottoms. Now, I'm old, and I still find mature bottoms the hottest. I'm still a top, but the equipment doesn't work. It sucks, but that is life.

Actually, that is generally cardiovascular disease / metabolic syndrome. The solution can be as simple as switching to a low-sugar, high-wholegrain plant-based diet.
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Unread postby NobodySpecial » 6 December 2019, 16:02

Yes I have that and diabetes. I've tried to get medical info, but the doctors seem rather uninterested. I guess they figure if I'm not married to a woman, it is no big deal.

I tried things like viagra. They used to work great for me. However, a few years ago when I wanted to impress my partner, I took a whole pill instead of a half pill like I normally had done. I ended up getting tinnitus. So I tend to be timid about taking those pills now...

I take so many pills now for diabetes and cardiovascular issues. None of them specifically have a known affect of ED. I guess I tend to be suspect of diet cures as I've had some people go overboard with diet cures. I shared with one lady last year how I struggled with West Nile (almost died). She told me, it was my diet. I simply ignored her until I could get away from her as diet had nothing to do with it. It was a misquote bite that carried a virus. Unless her diet was going to repel insects, there was no logical cause and effect between my illness and what I had eaten.

Note, I'm not a big meat eater, but I have to admit that I still love my sweets. I have given up so much over the years. For instance, I do not drink any fruit juices -- as great as they taste, they are basically flavored surgar waters. I also seldom drink soda drinks, but when I do they obviously have to be sugar-free. I do exercise most days (2 hours 10 min on an elliptical machine). I'm not doing it at a racing speed, but still I think it is good for me.

I just wish when I went to a doctor, they wouldn't treat it as insignificant since I'm not married to a woman. I don't know if they know I am gay for sure. Some may know since my partner is now legally my durable power of attorney. (A change I made after my West Nile bout.) I really do doubt that the medical profession bothers to consider that having a sexual functioning penis isn't supposed to be limited to the young and/or heterosexually married guys.
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Unread postby Jzone » 7 December 2019, 07:48

mxguy01 wrote:
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Bri_guy wrote:Do you see anything wrong with this? Whenever I chat on Grindr, there's usually a couple guys nearby into this (I live in L.A.). Who knew?!

On the contrary — I recommend it. It's not like you are stalking teens. Let the guys in their mid-20's initiate a convo on grindr, then do whatever everyone involved consents to. Keep it fun, keep it safe, maybe make some long term friends along the way. I'm not sure why you anticipate regretting it later.


Really. I always let them initiate the convo. Why not as it's more like I have to beat them off with a stick sometimes. Just got back from El Paso. I figured what the heck and turned on Grindr. You would think those guys never seen a Daddy like me before. LoL Business travel can be rather adventurous in ways I never anticipated.

And what stick are you beating them off with, exactly...? ;)
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Unread postby Jzone » 7 December 2019, 07:54

NobodySpecial wrote:I just wish when I went to a doctor, they wouldn't treat it as insignificant since I'm not married to a woman.

Remember that's your assumption for their reason. Depending on where you live, I suppose you may be right. Have you expressed to your doctor(s) that you would like to have erections as part of an active sex life? Have you requested a referral to a urologist? You mentioned cardiovascular issues, so that might be the cause of the problem. I expect you know that.
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