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Is my friend gay?

Unread postby Iconictay » 4 April 2019, 22:11

Ok. So I have a friend that I have been trying to “test” to see if he is gay or not. I have to because he sorta is my crush. Like... my perfect crush out of everyone in my college. He is short, chubby, hairy, but also is a strong football player too(basically my dream man). I’m good friends with him and I chat when him on a daily basis. I don’t take any classes with him so I try my best to get into contact with him. And ever since 9th grade, I’ve been trying to give him some good head but I can’t tell if he is bi or gay. He usually talks to girls and mess around with them ( he even had a gf) and he also hangs out with guys too. I naturally talked gay with him in a funny way to see how his reaction would be. I would say “Hey big daddy” or “ Ready for a penetration” and he would just call me gay. Keep in mind that I’m not openly gay so these attempts are only to see if he may be in the closet as well. Then, I took it to the next level by rubbing and slightly grabbing his ass( Yes.... I know this is sexual harassment but this was how I found my first bf surprisingly). It feels really good to touch and it is hypnotizing when he bends over( must be those squats when he works out....). He would naturally go” Dude you gay” or “ don’t do that again” in a careless tone. I would do it again other days and it’s the same reaction. Normally, someone would try to end it permanently but it feels like he doesn’t mind it or he doesn’t want it to be too easy for me to find out. But... recently, when I call him “big daddy”, he doesn’t respond in a bad way at all. He just let me say it and we keep talking. And now with that and how he doesn’t push my hand away or pinch me when I touch his ass anymore, I wonder if he could be bi. I may just be overly obsessive about him and his long package or.... there might be something else. Any thoughts or suggestions?
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Re: Is my friend gay?

Unread postby Eryx » 4 April 2019, 22:19

Stop touching him inappropriately and come out to him if you really want to let him know about your attraction. I think he's straight.
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Re: Is my friend gay?

Unread postby Iconictay » 4 April 2019, 22:46

I would but I just can’t handle everyone knowing I’m bi. Rumors spread like a disease and since my dad is homophobic, I’m basically stuck. Unfortunately, my friend may have to tell before I do because I’m in a 50/50 situation. Either he tells me that he is bi and we start doing “stuff” or he tells me he is straight and tried to distance himself from me and tell others. Idk if I can take that chance.
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Re: Is my friend gay?

Unread postby Eryx » 5 April 2019, 14:18

Then there isn't much you can do. For your sake, I'd try to move on and fall for someone who's more likely to reciprocate. Straight crushes are a waste of time.
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Re: Is my friend gay?

Unread postby jimjammin » 14 April 2019, 18:24

I agree with Eryx. He does seem to be straight, and he is taking your inappropriate gay “molestation”, (sorry that is what it is), as harmless horseplay. If you are trying to seduce him or see how far he will go, you need to try other means because what you are doing is actually illegal and you are risking your whole world come crashing down on you if he figures out what you are doing. He will be extremely pissed and he will hate you, the ramifications could be disastrous.
Try talking to him about sex, but do it in a way that makes him add his opinions and allow him to take the lead in the discussion. Straight guys are more prone to go further, if they feel they are in charge of what is happening. Get him to ask you questions about sex, and every time the conversation seems to start simmering down, start adding more fuel to that fire. Allow him to make himself horny, because you aren’t, you just need to keep talking about things that turn him on. Men are visual creatures, so help him keep playing the visuals that turn him on in his head.
If you are in your room, find a way to put on some porn, preferably porn that is his favorite type.
Allow him to be comfortable without you being pushy. Then let things happen organically, and let him think he is taking the lead. If he is game for watching porn, then after 15 minutes, if he doesn’t say it, you tell him the movie is making you super horny and you want to jerk off. If he says “go for it”, tell him you will if he will. Then let things happen.
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Re: Is my friend gay?

Unread postby Charlidun456 » 15 April 2019, 23:06

I agree with jimjammin wholeheartedly.
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