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Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby Mismo » 7 January 2019, 10:45

When I was 18+, I was often attracted to younger boys. Not a problem anymore, but then I was an ephebophile and wasn't sure, if it is normal or not.

I found this video about sexual interest in minors:


What is the cultural attitude about ephebophilia in your country now?
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 7 January 2019, 11:32

being attracted to teenagers is normal. but being attracted to pre-teens isn't.
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby Aunty Eva » 7 January 2019, 11:57

Finding someone attractive, and finding something sexual is a different thing. You can appreciate the attractiveness of someone without it being sexual. If you say for example a 14-year-old is attractive, that's actually fine. You are just acknowledging that they have attractive features. If you were to say that a 14-year-old was sexy and you would pursue a sexual relationship with that person then that is wrong.

A child is a child and should not be seen sexually, in fact, that is why the law stands. Finding someone attractive and finding someone sexually attractive are actually two different things.
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 7 January 2019, 17:49

Teenagers being attracted to teenagers would be natural or normal, if you would call it that. Ephebophile depends - as first on the law of consent and mutual love/attraction. This may differ from country to country and person to person, as well. As some considered still a teenager can be very grown in their mindset and others get there rather late. So I guess some laws would allow, for example, an 18-yearold to be in love with someone 16-yearold, while other countries laws would consider this illegal.

It's not normal to feel sexual or romantic attraction toward minors, meaning children, as they are not even able to conduct a consenting mindset, nor are they matter to sexual interest to anyone. I think there are help programmes available for people who feel toward that kind of disorder.

I'm not even certain, whether it is normal to like people from ages 20-30 if one's double that age, though. When I was younger, I thought it would come along with age, that one would like these at about the same age. But it hasn't changed. So I wonder, same disorder, just different age range?
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby PopTart » 7 January 2019, 18:41

I'm very wary of branding any sexual attraction a disorder, there was once a time we would have been branded as suffering from a disorder.

Not a door I'd like to open or a period in time I'd like revisited.
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Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 7 January 2019, 19:00

PopTart wrote:I'm very wary of branding any sexual attraction a disorder, there was once a time we would have been branded as suffering from a disorder.

Not a door I'd like to open or a period in time I'd like revisited.


Well, in psychiatric terms they see this rather differing:

DSM-5 Category: Paraphilic Disorders
Introduction

Pedophilic Disorder is a DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition), diagnosis assigned to adults ( defined as age 16 and up) who have sexual desire for prepubescent children (American Psychiatric Association, 2013a).Any behavioral expression of Pedophilic Disorder is a criminal offense in the United States, Canada, and Europe, as well as most other places in the world. Some authors differentiate between having deviant desires for children which are ego-dystonic and resisted, causing guilt, shame, and distress, vs. desires which are indulged through fantasy, associating with other pedophiles, possession and trading of pornographic images, or direct observation, self-exposure, or physical contact with a victim (Harvard University, 2010; Vachss, 2013). Pedophilic Disorder is highly treatment resistant and rates of recidivism have been estimated to be 25% -50%, (Harvard University, 2010) This is inconclusive however, as this figure is more accurately described as 25 % to 50% are arrested for child sexual abuse, and an unknown number re-offend but do not come to the attention of law enforcement. For the victim of the offense, it tends to be very psychologically damaging, and can produce long term psychosexual problems, and PTSD (Post- traumatic Stress Disorder).


This one's interesting, too:
http://go.galegroup.com/ps/anonymous?id ... =AONE&sw=w

But then, most paraphilia regarding fetishes, for example, makes them a disorder, just the same. Being in love with someone's leather jacket, the like... :shrug:
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby Mismo » 7 January 2019, 20:16

GearFetTwinkRomance wrote:But then, most paraphilia regarding fetishes, for example, makes them a disorder, just the same. Being in love with someone's leather jacket, the like... :shrug:


If we talk about fetishes, then breast fetishism is still very "normal" for straight men. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breast_fetishism
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 7 January 2019, 23:32

Funny, I always attributed my lack of interest in breast to the fact I was gay. Who knew I just was not suffering some disorder straights are common cursed with.
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby Mismo » 8 January 2019, 09:22

mxguy01 wrote:Who knew I just was not suffering some disorder straights are common cursed with.


Maybe it is wrong to call it a disorder, because it is something that evolution has favored.
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 8 January 2019, 14:52

BlackBoi666 wrote:being attracted to teenagers is normal. but being attracted to pre-teens isn't.


Being sexually attracted to teenagers is normal for teenagers. Not normal for mature adults IMO.
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby Mismo » 8 January 2019, 16:27

Probably the social norms are more conservative in the US, also the age of consent is higher, than in most of the European countries.
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Re: Is sexual interest in minors wrong?

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 9 January 2019, 00:05

mxguy01 wrote:
BlackBoi666 wrote:being attracted to teenagers is normal. but being attracted to pre-teens isn't.


Being sexually attracted to teenagers is normal for teenagers. Not normal for mature adults IMO.

I disagree. teens love sex. :heart:
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