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Is weight an issue?

Unread postby c1ask0 » 17 October 2015, 23:32

I just posted in the "What are you thinking about?" thread something that's plaguing me at the moment and I've realised that this might make for an interesting debate.

So, I pose to you, is weight an issue for you when it comes to relationships and/or sex?

In terms of me, I'm actually underweight - I currently weigh about 9st 8lbs (just under 61kg) - so I find it hard to picture myself with someone who is rather overweight. Flab in general isn't a deal breaker though. Most people have it, after all! So I don't necessarily look for slim guys, mainly because it's an unrealistic expectation now that I'm nearing 30...

Anyway, please share your opinions.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 17 October 2015, 23:40

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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Jacketh » 18 October 2015, 00:34

Yeah, it is. I just don't find myself attracted to guys on the larger side - I'm more attracted to skinnier guys. I don't necessarily think it is because they are overweight, because I'm not attracted to bulkier guys, either. Channing Tatum would be a massive no, for example :P
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 18 October 2015, 00:52

Jack™ wrote:Yeah, it is. I just don't find myself attracted to guys on the larger side - I'm more attracted to skinnier guys. I don't necessarily think it is because they are overweight, because I'm not attracted to bulkier guys, either. Channing Tatum would be a massive no, for example :P

I want to slam my flat stomach on your skinny lower back repeatedly.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Beans Goodfellow » 18 October 2015, 01:49

I’d love to appear insanely enlightened and say “weight is irrelevant – it’s really about the person,” but I know that’s not true for me! I’m somewhere between average and athletic in build, and I’m attracted to lots of different body types.

Here’s a silly pic I found:
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Based purely on aesthetics, ‘skinny’, ‘toned’, ‘’fit’, ‘athletic’, ‘built fat’ and ‘chubby’ would all be up for consideration! I’ve occasionally crawled into bed with ‘built’ and ‘strongfat’…but they really hold limited interest for me.

Why? I don’t REALLY know, but I have a few ideas:
*I think it’s about health. I don’t wanna be in bed with someone who I think is unwell, and I think someone who is dangerously skinny, or carrying far too much weight (fat or muscle) is not particularly well.
*I think there is something innate and out of my control about who I am naturally attracted to
*I think there is a significant amount of cultural programming at work here. I’ve had 39 years of the media presenting me with images of what western culture finds desirable – it’s bound to have an effect.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Paragon » 18 October 2015, 02:16

Right, the body thing is just a sexy bonus that is not as important as the attitude. I'm into guys who take care of themselves.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby bluesunstorm » 18 October 2015, 02:34

I'm very underweight (6'1", 115 pounds) and I'm only attracted to thin and average build guys. I just don't find excess fat attractive, I'm sorry, I wish I could say personality is all that matters, but that's just not reality. I don't think I'm asking too much since I'm not overweight myself.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby vbsx » 18 October 2015, 02:54

I'm fat and overweight. I tend to prefer leaner/skinner/muscle guys. I've been with all sorts of guys, but I just prefer someone a stronger, leaner, body. Tall too is preferred :P

Not bad thing having a preference, I've been turned down many times. It's just how you go about it which matters. Never make someone feel badly because they aren't your physical type.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Talevarde » 18 October 2015, 04:10

I just care about the face. No matter how gorgeous a guy's body is, if their face is unattractive, nothing can redeem that. The inverse is also true, barring any extreme deformities. That being said, someone who's "Fat" or "Auschwitz" on that image would probably not have a cute face that I'd be attracted to.

Also the images used in that scale don't seem appropriate. The one for "skinny" is not skinny at all.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Beans Goodfellow » 18 October 2015, 07:23

you're right Talevarde…..there's something missing between 'Auschwitz' & 'Skinny' isn't there…...
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby c1ask0 » 18 October 2015, 08:10

Beans Goodfellow wrote:you're right Talevarde…..there's something missing between 'Auschwitz' & 'Skinny' isn't there…...

Yeah, whatever that inbetween is, that's what I am.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby xyz72 » 18 October 2015, 08:12

I don't think you can completely separate one's body from their personality. If you're obese, that's a reflection of your choices and shortcomings in all but very rare cases(there's very, very few people that couldn't lose the weight if they properly tried) and having a more muscular, toned body is a sign of at least a few positive characteristics - it may come with other negatives of course.
I'd draw the line at anything that starts resembling "rolls", slight overweight would be ok, though it might be a point where actually having sex with the person could turn unappealing to me. I just don't find bodies without any visible amount of muscle definition attractive.
I wouldn't want to be with an obese person for the same reasons I wouldn't want to be with somebody who smokes cigarettes: I find it disgusting and I don't want to outlive my partner by 20 years.

Now somebody that is currently overweight but in the process of (successfully) losing weight? I'd go for that.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby LGBTPharmacy » 19 November 2015, 07:33

Weight is not an issue for all people, its depends upon every individual view. Yeah, but being overweight can cause some serious health issues.
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Re: Is weight an issue?

Unread postby Mystery » 19 November 2015, 10:19

Yeah, i include weight in my decision of dating or anything in between for a guy. I'm not attracted to bigger sized people.
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