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Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby Twilight66 » 17 November 2020, 17:36

I am an older guy that has never had a gay experience. Don't like trying to pick up guys in bars (even if they were open), I don't think young guys will be interested anyway because of my age. I have been communicating with a young male escort whose pictures tells me that he's my physical type, and we've had interesting texts. What do you think about hiring him for my first time? I suggested we meet first for a drink to make sure we're compatible.
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Re: Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby PopTart » 17 November 2020, 20:26

I don't see anything objectionable in doing so, aslong as you protect yourself, both in terms of sexual health and also, in terms of making sure this guy is legit.

You'll be surprised as there are some people out there who do enjoy sex with older and much older men, don't discount that possibility, but if you are more comfortable having your first time with a guy, be transactional, you have the funds and it's something you want, then by all means, I see no problem with it

Just dont let yourself be taken advantage of in any fashion.
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Re: Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby Jasper1 » 18 November 2020, 22:47

Agree with PopTart, the most important thing here is safety. Let’s face it, you could use any hook up site and you will for sure get interest but it’s not necessarily going to be any safer if you don’t filter out the nutters and take precautions.
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Re: Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 19 November 2020, 22:06

I’d skip the drink, the reasons being two-fold:

1. It’s a slippery slope emotionally, if you blur the lines between a transaction and a connection, you’re lining yourself up to start developing feelings that aren’t going to be reciprocated.

2. It’s financially stupid. It’s a business transaction, you’re hiring a prostitute. Taking them out drinking first is like taking a rental car for an oil service.

If these two insights seem cold and emotionally distant, the reality of prostitution may prove a disappointment you’d be happier avoiding altogether.
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Re: Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby Jzone » 20 November 2020, 00:33

Go for it. Why not? Just don't expect romance to develop with a professional. If you have texted back and forth, he is at least interested in your business. Follow the safety advice above.

I disagree with Marmaduke. Escorts are entertainers. Let him charm you and enjoy the act, just don't fall for it (or him). If all goes well and you can afford it, maybe you'll see him again.
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Re: Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby John27 » 20 November 2020, 03:01

Marmaduke wrote:It’s a business transaction, you’re hiring a prostitute. Taking them out drinking first is like taking a rental car for an oil service.


I liked this example!

As I think of it, a prostitute should perhaps pay for the drinks, and consider it a "business expense."
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Re: Male escort for my first time?

Unread postby PopTart » 20 November 2020, 14:18

I would also say that meeting socially before hand, atleast once, is a good way to vet the prospective gentleman.

It doesn't have to be a meal or sit down drinks or what have, although I do find Jzones take to be in keeping with the idea, that things should be fun!

Your paying to have a good time, it doesnt have to be like buying a car (don't kick him in the knees to make sure they work properly, for example)

If he offers the service of flirtation and being charmed and you can recognise that is part of the service and not leading to more, then why not?

Don't expect him to pay for it though.
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