Male escort for my first time?

Go for it man. I sometimes do it to. If you have the money and it’s what you really want, just do it.

Sometimes I envy how easy women have it in terms of getting guys and being chased after so easily whereas us boys are expected to do the chasing to girls/other boys. Not to mention vast majority of people who use escorts (female and male) are men.

I've never had a male escort in my life yet; however, I reminisce about my first time with a female escort and it was way too funny and embarrassing. You should try, nothing wrong here, if you're compatible and if you protect yourself, just be sure that you feel comfortable with this guy:)
When it comes to my first time with an escort, it was just really fun, yet my next time I decided to order VIP escort girls. Back then I was temporarily working in Amsterdam, so ordering escort girls was pretty common and normal there.
I really loved the experience, I reckon that everyone before getting married needs to try escort just to know how it feels.

You should definitely try it.

daverdnob wrote:You should definitely try it.

Why are you saying this???

Don't touch them with a barge pole, male or otherwise.

Hi all - as a married man, yet wanting to enjoy my sexuality after 25 years without sex with another guy, I'm comtemplating an escort - but I've been messaging back and forth so as to at least build some relationship. It's very selfish I know but I want some tenderness and passion but just sex and the end of the day. Plus I'm keen to bottom and so want a bit intimacy....

As an older man I'd recommend using Grindr. I live about a mile from a local university and, mostly as a joke to placate my friend's kid who was a student there, I put a profile out. It was a totally honest profile both in age, body size, what I wanted, etc. I was with the kid when I brought it up and within a minute I had my first message from a college student. Evidently a lot of them have grandfather fantasies, it's been over 2 years and the activity isn't slowing down. That said rent boys aren't all bad, in the late 1980s and early 90s I ran a brothel for men in Amsterdam.

If you truly feel this is the way to go, then do it. Just be careful, just like any dating/hook up sites or apps, don't always believe what you see. By this I mean pictures or what they tell you, believe me. I'd tell him if the picture isn't really him, you have no problem walking out, so if he's not like the picture or he's pulling your chain, tell him don't waste your time or his, and move on!

But, like has been posted before, is this just sex or is it to find a friend who might help you move into a different part of your life, someone who has gone through this. Maybe a friend with benefits, there are sites for men of our age to meet and/or hookup. Maybe go that route to see whats out there, these guys are probably not out to screw you over.

I have paid escorts a few times. One was a porn star from the 80s that I was totally in the lust for back then. When I moved to Fort Lauderdale and saw that he too lived here and was escorting, I contacted him. It was to fulfill a fantasy. It cost a pretty penny but I don’t really regret it. About six months before I had undergone treatment for anal cancer and the scarring made anal intercourse very difficult and painful. However when that was explained to him he was extremely slow and easy and gentle. He was quite large but after a while there was success and I have no regrets. Since then I have had many instances of massages or buddy rubs with release.
Some of those have involved a really good massage and other times it was just basically sex.
A lot of people are very negative and judge mental about those of us who have paid for sex but I totally ignore them. I don’t need to listen to their judgmental attitudes or condescension.
It’s just imperative that you keep in mind that they are playing a role for money. It’s quite easy to feel that they truly like you and are interested in you and sexually attracted to you, but it’s not real. It’s a monetary transaction.

Spell out before hand what exactly you want and what you expect and how much will be charged. Quite often they also expect a tip of some sort.

Also one little caveat I hired two guys previously and told them what I expected, but I didn’t get what I wanted or what I’d paid for.

Mikeyk954 wrote:I have paid escorts a few times. One was a porn star from the 80s that I was totally in the lust for back then. When I moved to Fort Lauderdale and saw that he too lived here and was escorting, I contacted him. It was to fulfill a fantasy. It cost a pretty penny but I don’t really regret it. About six months before I had undergone treatment for anal cancer and the scarring made anal intercourse very difficult and painful. However when that was explained to him he was extremely slow and easy and gentle. He was quite large but after a while there was success and I have no regrets. Since then I have had many instances of massages or buddy rubs with release.
Some of those have involved a really good massage and other times it was just basically sex.
A lot of people are very negative and judge mental about those of us who have paid for sex but I totally ignore them. I don’t need to listen to their judgmental attitudes or condescension.
It’s just imperative that you keep in mind that they are playing a role for money. It’s quite easy to feel that they truly like you and are interested in you and sexually attracted to you, but it’s not real. It’s a monetary transaction.

Spell out before hand what exactly you want and what you expect and how much will be charged. Quite often they also expect a tip of some sort.

Also one little caveat I hired two guys previously and told them what I expected, but I didn’t get what I wanted or what I’d paid for.

When I ran the brothel there were a lot of boys who worked there who said they were straight. So the first thing they had to do to get the job was give head to me to make sure they could do it. I told every boy who came to work that the amount they made depended on their acting ability and sexual prowess. It doesn't matter how cute you are if you can't perform in bed. Conversely no matter how good you are in bed if the client can't believe in the fantasy, he's not coming back for you.

I've known some guys here who are rent boys, they tell me often about other experiences. I'm not a client, just a FWB. We got together outside of their business environment.

You do need to tell them what you want. There are some who are just tops, some just bottoms. It's up to you to make it clear what you're after and you have to listen carefully to the rent boy to make sure there's no mistake in communication.

Twilight66 wrote:I am an older guy that has never had a gay experience. Don't like trying to pick up guys in bars (even if they were open), I don't think young guys will be interested anyway because of my age. I have been communicating with a young male escort whose pictures tells me that he's my physical type, and we've had interesting texts. What do you think about hiring him for my first time? I suggested we meet first for a drink to make sure we're compatible.

you need sex he need money, but i don't recommend it, better find another guy. maybe don't too picky targeting young age. but if you still want to try the escort don't too attached with him or he will fooling you for easy money, also make sure he is clean from STD.

Does anyone know where I can hire a guy escort? Yes, it may sound strange, but I need such a person.

PopTart wrote:I don't see anything objectionable in doing so, aslong as you protect yourself, both in terms of sexual health and also, in terms of making sure this guy is legit.

You'll be surprised as there are some people out there who do enjoy sex with older and much older men, don't discount that possibility, but if you are more comfortable having your first time with a guy, be transactional, you have the funds and it's something you want, then by all means, I see no problem with it

Just dont let yourself be taken advantage of in any fashion.

I Agree. Dont be afraid. When I was in my early 20's I worked as a male escort, for men, and my clientele was almost exclusively older men, and I enjoyed it very much, as I was always attracted to, and enjoyed sex with older men. Enjoy yourself. THATS the main thing. If your attracted to him, let go, and have fun. My clients that did were the best!

Mournmane wrote:Does anyone know where I can hire a guy escort? Yes, it may sound strange, but I need such a person.

you are still young to hire an escort, i think may people still think you are attracting and easy to get laid.
if i am in your town, don't need to find escort. just call me for a friend.

If anyone has any tips on finding a bloody escort/renboy/whatever you call them in the UK I'm all ears cos all I've found is listins of cottaging hotspots, toilet cruising hotspots and gorgeous twinks who live about 200 miles away.

I'm in the UK's second largest city. I don't understand why I can't ind a single one.

There's even meant to be a problem in this city of homeless men offering themselves as prostitutes around the gay village. Have I seen a single one - no! Never! Not that I'd take advantage of a homeless lad but I mean bloody hell. You'd think a city with a rep for it would actually have twink rentboys/prostitues/escorts. But nope. Not one.